how does this make a mother selfish

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a lot of time online or any where when a people are asked if you took the test while pregnant and it showed your baby was going to be born with a special need ( down syndrome, mental retardation ect,) would you have a abortion, i hate it when people say yes because thats too much to deal with and say for people who say no they are not thinking about the interset of the child it's selfish, how is it selfish if i feel my baby kick for 16 weeks and then when the doctor say a specail need child he is i still love my baby? how is it selfish to think about all the wonderful things my baby can do disable or not.? how is that selfish that i understand most special need is a spectrum?
how is it selfish that you dont let no test change your love for you baby.

Different people believe different things, but saying it would be selfish to have a child knowing it would be special needs is the same as saying that child would have preferred not to be born. I don't know anyone who thinks this way and nothing can be more wrong. Most people with special needs find their lives quite worth living, and do not wish they had never been born.

Have you seriously heard anyone say the things you suggest in your post? I've heard the "I don't think I could handle it" or the "I think it would be unfair to the child" (because of the "I don't think I could handle it" part), but I've never heard anyone say it would be selfish.

And I skipped the test that would have told me something was genetically wrong. I knew it wouldn't have changed anything, and an amnio does pose a risk (very small) to the baby. You don't have to take these tests where there is no medical intervention possible based on the results other than termination.

PS, this is driving me crazy everytime I look at the board: Your title should be:

How DOES this ...

Not

How DO this ...

Could you please fix it? Yes, as of this posting, you are within the alloted time to fix your post and title.

That, and alotted.

Alotted? Alloted? Where? How about the correct form, allotted, if we're going to nitpick?


M.

I only nit pick about titles, because you re-read them so darn often

Given that I can't spell worth beans myself, and am quite prone to (hopefully) humorous typos.