son's favorite babysitter leaving

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My son's favorite babysitter is going to be moving away in a few months and I'm wondering how best to prepare him. Seeing this guy is the highlight of his week; he's young and not that much of an authority figure and I think my son sees it more as a friend relationship than being babysat. He is much better with adults than other kids and has very few people to play with besides us, unfortunately. Any advice?

oops, double post. see below

Hmmm ... it kind of depends on the child. With mine, I would let him know as soon as possible, starting off with something like, "did you know Charlie is going to move to Wonderland eventually? I am so excited for him, because once he moves he'll be able to item A that he has always wanted. But I'm also glad we've get to spend more time with Charlie before he moves, because I really will miss him."

Lol, maybe not the best script, but the point is people moving in and out of our lives is simply a part of living, and we make of it what we choose to. After my children's nanny moved out of state, we made plans to fly out there and visit her; it was a place I had never been, and it helped ease the loss. She showed them on the map where she was going, and she emailed pictures right after she arrived; I think they liked being able to picture where she was. We never hid the pending move, and we never glossed over it. Changes come with good and bad in them, and it all just "is."

Agreed with DW_a_mom. Aspies don't make friends easily, and helping your son keep in touch with this one will help.