The Cobbler's Children Have Shoes...

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I have posted in here a few times about my son. I have been diagnosed with ADD, which is on the spectrum, I have heard. So I was reading about Steve Eisman in Michael Lewis' "The Big Short" and was identifying a lot with his behavior, especially resigning himself to being alone and obsessing over hobbies. This was during a camping trip with another family, and I was too worn out to interact with them much on the second day. When we returned I took the Simon Baron-Cohen test online and scored 38, where 32 indicates Asperger's. My wife filled it out and gave me a 30. I see myself as socially skilled, yet I can't make friends. I have always blamed my age or my wife. Ok, anyway, this explains why I "get" my son. I will go see a professional (fortunately we have insurance). I don't know if I am in the asperger's house, but I am pretty sure I live in the general neighborhood. Very disconcerting, but hopefully will make me a better parent.

Remember, he's still the same kid that he was, before and it's autism...it's not the end of the world.

You're the same guy you always were too, but you may have a label that can help you understand some things better now.

You may have some good social skills but may have trouble with social perception and miss signals from people. In essense you know a lot of the rules but are missing the input that lets you know when to use which rule...or not.

Good Luck!

When I first found out it was hard for me to take. Actually my initial response was "OH, thats why, I do...this and this and this and why this happens". Then I went through a sort of anger/denial thing. Then depression, then I was very sad, then I accepted it. I read a book about another adult who was diagnosed and said he went through a grieving process...and I think that is a much better way to describe it.
I wish you luck and you are right, its great when you "get" your kids when there are so many that dont.

I had a similar experience - no official diagnosis, but I see myself in my kid and score really high on all the tests. I think it's pretty common.

It feels good to me to have an explanation of sorts for a lot of things that were baffling to me before.