Was I the only one?

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Many parents post on here about their child with AS becoming physically aggressive towards them and others, and acting out in class.

I never did this when I was a child. I was quite adverse to hurting people, and I always minded my teachers.

When demands were made of me that I could not meet, I'd shut down or cry, or have the occasional tantrum if it were my parents making the demands, but I would never hit, kick, bite, scratch, spit, cuss, or anything of the likes.

In fact I'm a bit surprised a person with AS would be violent unless it was caused by medication.

Am I the only one with AS who did not have violent outbursts?

^ Ditto 100%

...and I was not on medication either.

Additionally, that was back when adults acted like adults so the kids could be kids. It was rather easy to tell them apart. For centuries kids had respect for adults, this attitude was reciprocated. These days it's not that way at all. The kids talk back and it's accepted. The parents don't correct the kids because it's not politically correct. It's only a matter of time before Big Pharma comes out with a Pill for parenting. When will people learn that you can't buy happiness?

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I was never violent.

I suspect that with many things AS, a child is going to fall firmly on one side (refusing violence of any sort out of fear of hurting someone) or using violence as a way of defense, not feeling there is much choice. In NT children you see the variation very early, different instinctual reactions to stress, and it seems like most normal variations get amplified when AS is involved. My two NT nieces have been polar opposite since infancy, despite a mother who is pretty consistent in being who she is (my two kids were more similar to each other).

And, maybe, there are other factors in a home environment that help a child choose one path or the other very early on. However, the path there is far from clear as I've seen quite a variation in the families with similar issues. But, not generally being able to advise families from birth on, and not having any solid idea what all the factors might be, it isn't the angle that is most immediate for us to address.

You've raised an interesting question.

I could be quite destructive when frustrated and my son is the same way. I wouldn't call it a serious problem, but there have definitely been hitting/agressive episodes. In his case, medication has helped a lot.