Anyone need to have a whinge? i do

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I feel like i have just finished running a marathon! Getting the kids ready for school thismorning was a nightmare, DD was her usual self and would not get ready and felt the need to vent her anger/ stress out on her brothers by giving them a few wacks, i had 2 boys in tears while making lunches and fixing sox (my mother found some seamless sox just waiting on them yay!) not to mention breakfast, hair duty, and shoe laces, while getting myself ready for work! finaly got them off to school just in time, went to work then back to school to pick them up and it all started over again! then hubby comes home from work and rants and raves, he can only speak in one decibel, he fights with the kids like he is one of them.... ARGH oh god i feel better now lol ... im sure i left out so much more to my day but i now have a headache and just needed to get this off my chest ...

I've certainly had those days

Not sure if these are options for you but I let go of socks and shoe laces LONG ago. My son wears crocs or velcro runners, no socks as long as there's no snow. Lunches get made the night before. Every little bit of reduced stress in the morning helps!

Oh yeah, been there. This morning wasn't the best one for us either. My son L is just getting over a sinus cold (2 days into school he caught his first virus!), and my son E is having major sleep disturbances right now and all the effects of sleep deprivation are making our mornings trickier than usual.

I can echo what Caitlin said about doing things the night before. We do everything in the evening so that mornings are breakfast, getting dressed (into clothes that have already been laid out the night before) and grabbing their backpacks etc. before they head out the door. This also leaves time for some calming activities (like listening to audio books while they draw).

Even so, we still have rough mornings here and there, not nearly as bad as they used to be though.

sometimes its more work during the time when you arent at work =)

the area i live in is economically depressed and they have a program here that provides free breakfast at the schools (its to make sure the kids are all getting food in the morning as the income level here is really low). my family also falls within the guidelines for the federal free lunch program. that means i dont have to make breakfast or cold lunch which is a huge help in the morning.

for the rest, we practice simplicity. the oldest has tie shoes but he can do those himself, younger two wear exclusively no-lace shoes. velcro is my friend. everyone has short hair and i dont even bother to comb it in the morning =P

last year we were really hectic and stressed in the morning, this year its much more calm. i changed one small thing and its made a huge impact. we just get up 15 minutes earlier. gives them enough of a buffer that if they are slow to get moving or forget and have to go back upstairs to brush their teeth or get socks or something, it isnt going to make us late.

my oldest used to give me a lot of trouble in the morning, but things are much better now. the rule i made for him was that if he gives me trouble in the morning, i will assume its because he is tired and cranky from lack of sleep, and his bedtime gets moved an hour earlier. he doesnt get it moved back until he can get up every morning without back-talking, being disrespectful, being bossy or mean to his brothers, etc. we also gave him an alarm clock and it sits on the opposite side of his room from his bed. those two things have made mornings much easier with him, he gets up more on time and without most of the attitude he used to have.

the only other thing that has really made an impact in our morning routine is my own behavior. i have to check my own attitude =) the younger boys dont really get affected too much by it, but my oldest feeds off other peoples energy. if i am stressed, anxious, or upset in the morning, if i let that show in my voice, action, or expressions, my oldest picks it up and copies it. he is very much influenced by the people around him.

Oh i hear ya, sometimes i get jealous of my hubby cause all he has to do is get himself ready for work and off he goes lol, and yet i struggle every morning to get there on time, but once i do oh its heaven Thanks everyone for your input, read the posts earlier today but did not have time to reply, but as i sit here i now have 2 boys with new shoes, one with velcro and the other one with slip on ones! feels good already! In the past i was letting them choose their own shoes and they always came with laces, cant wait to see how we go now. I will have to make myself do lunches at night, i have done this in the past, most days by the time i get my lot into bed im exhausted and crash into my chair with a coffee and cant seem to make myself get up again, i will definatly put that on my must do list...