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MtyDS went to stay with his father this weekend, he got stupid and went to jail (the father, not my DS). I took my son's xbox with him, so that way they could handle him easier. When DS's father got arrested, the girl he was staying with refused to return my son's xbox, stating that it belonged to his father, and that she was gonna pawn it to get her truck out of impound. I have my receipt, and the box it came in, she still refused to give it to me. I called the sheriff's dept, and reported what happened, the sheriff said since his father was the responsible party for it (cause he was responsible for our kid) that only he could do anything (and he is in jail, and can't do anything) I went to the magistrate, and she told me there was nothing I could do unless she pawns it. How do you steal from a child, much less an autistic child. That game helps calm him down, and focus.
My son has had a horrible weekend, and that woman isn't making it any easier. If it had been his father's game system, I would have gladly took her to the pawn shop to get money for it, but the point is, it's not his father's xobx, it belongs to our son.
So now I'm just playing a waiting game. A friend of mine is taking her to the pawn shop to hock it. He's supposed to be telling me where she pawns it, but I'm not holding my breath. I feel so bad for my son. I put him on the bus sobbing crying this morning, cause he is still so upset by what happened this weekend. I understand she needs her truck out of impound, but it's not my son's place to pay for it, and that is exactly what she is doing in my opinion.

There is a special place in h#ll for someone like that. The police should have done something....that is just so wrong.

That just sucks.

It seems that you are caught in a trap that you can't get out of.
What are your options?
To take care of the immediate problem, buy, rent or borrow another x-box,
and the immediate problem with your son is resolved to HIS satisfaction,
and it removes the "handle" she has on you.

I don't believe you get enough for hocking an x-box to get a p/u out of impound, so she is stuck there.

You can offer to pay to get her pickup out of impound for her, and write it off as a lesson learned.

You can also make bail for your ex, get him out of jail, and let him take care of the issue, but I suspect his way of taking care of things would put him back in jail, and you would be out the bail money.

Bear in mind, even if she hocks the x-box, you report it, they charge her with theft, and they confiscate the x-box as evidence, you still don't have the x-box back.

In the future, I propose you and your son agree that anything he wants to keep, has to stay in your home, where it will be safe from this kind of thing. He should be able to understand that it will be waiting for him when he returns home.

Then there are a bunch of really bad ways to try to handle this, but they would do nothing more than making this bad situation worse, and dragging you down along with it.

I really feel that treating people with respect and consideration will work to your advantage. Try to come up with a positive solution that you can live with.

Best wishes to you and your son, I hope this works out for you both.

Robert

She took his child support money too, that was $120 dollars, so he'll get additional time for not having it paid (which there is nothing I can do about it), she was gonna get $60 from the pawn shop, thats $180, just only $5 short of what she needed yesterday. We have a playstation, but it is a poor substitute for his xbox, as it was a particular game that he played on it.
the magistrate said she'd have to pawn it, then I can report it stolen, I would have to buy the xbox back from the pawn shop, and at court she would have to pay me back. all the evidence the authorities need is the pawn ticket with her name on it that proves she pawned it.
Normally I wouldn't be so petty, but I'm only working one day a week now, and going to school. I can't afford another xbox. I have also had multiple run ins with her, she is a manipulator. She sued the company we both worked for, for sexual harassment, and at her previous job she tried to charge her boss with the same charges, only to get fired and banned from that company.
As far as bailing him out, he needs to learn. I've bailed him out once and only once, and I told him thats all I'd do.

That wretched witch really needs to read up on ASDs, and I also agree about keeping his favourite things at home, with you. I hope that your son starts to feel better, soon. That woman also needs to apologize to your son, face to face.

Seriously, I would ring the bell, push her out of the way when she answers, grab it and go. Just get the box, you can buy new cables for it.

Sorry you are dealing with this. As if dealing with an ex isn't bad enough, you have to deal w/ all this too.

Lol, I think I would have done that, too. No one walks over me - or my kids - unless I've made a conscious decision it just isn't worth it, which I actually do quite often (life is just more peaceful that way). But, you do have to think on the fly trying something like that as the facts and risks can change in an instant. I'm not sure I could advise it to someone else without knowing their personal success rate at basically being more stubborn than the next person.

Adora, I am so sorry that you deal with so many people in your life that are just plain old bad news.

You are right not to bail the ex out.

You will be right to get the girl friend in trouble with the law for stealing, as soon as you have the proof.

And none of it changes how your heart breaks for your child, and I'm sorry I don't have an xbox to send you.

Goodness! Do you really have to have anything to do with them? They're toxic!

Your son needs you to focus all your energy on him. Don't waste it on the ex and his missus. They aren't worth it.

Hope your son gets his console back or at least another one somehow. As mum to a teenage son on the spectrum, I know how important these consoles can be to them.

Best of luck.

That's just terrible. I understand how awful you must feel about it. My son would be crushed if it were his DS.