How much need I disclose?

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Ok.....I took the big step and finaly made an appointment with the OT for next week.

First I must say that this is a big deal for me because I'm an OT myself. My son didn't want to go to, IMO, the best SI OT around here, because she is his friends mom...She then refered me to her younger partner in practise.

I spoke to this OT on the phone....and sorry to say but I truely think my son is going "to walk over her"! She sounds like the typical child OT (I don't mean this in a rude way, I also worked with kids)....telling me to tell my son that we are going to visit another aunty and he is just going to play nicely! WHAT CRAP!...I couldn't help myself, I told her that will NOT work with my son! I told her that my son knows he is going to a therapist who is part of the team and going to help him with sensitivity and stres management skills!

Ok that was just me venting. Now: This OT works with the school as a private OT....costs a fortune by the way! 2 Things that I'm terribly stressed about: I don't want my son to be labelled....we don't have spesial Ed programs or anything like that. I DON'T want the teachers to know that he was adopted or might be diagnosed with HFA. BUT....I do think that she needs to know this , because this might have an effect on the way she teaches him the lifeskills, more visual, concrete exct.?
I don't mind if she talk to the teacher about symptoms and structuring in the class.

What's your thoughts? Am I worried to much...how much need to be disclosed? Must I first not give her info and later deside? The other thing that worries me...I don't know how much experience she has with ASD...will it be rude if I directly ask her?

Doesn't she have a confidentiality obligation? So that if you tell her exactly what she can and cannot say to who, she is professionally and possibly legally obligated to follow that?

DW yes I'm sure she does....the thing that worries me is that sometimes you say one thing to a team member and so on and so on....later you don't even know where it started....who said what......

I think you have to take your chances. Or find a way to work with a different OT. Or do without OT. She can't do her job without all the information, and the harm from her not having what she needs is likely to outweigh the risk of her over-sharing. JHMO. I know it's a tough call. A lot of what we do with our kids is deep breath, cross fingers, close eyes, jump. You just do your best to pick the best possible spots to jump from.