Parenting as an Aspie

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OK anybody else here an adult AS raising small children?

I'd love to chat with you!

I'm an older AS, only recently came to recognition that all my issues actually have a name, have two adult children, one like me and one NT, and two small children. Now that I know there is a name for what my issues are, it would be nice to talk with someone about parenting from the perspective of not being NT.

Take a look at our "parents on the spectrum" sticky. It moves slow but it helps you figure out which of our members share which issues as parents.

I have AS and am 48. I have four NT kids, 23, 18, 17 and 15. I wasn't diagnosed until I was in my 40's so I just thought I was "off" somehow or other all those years. I never really got into playing with them. I just couldn't because I didn't know how and it was the most boring thing imaginable. I'd watch tv with them, read to them, do crafts with them, and talk to them, but Mom doesn't play.

When I talked to them, I spoke to them like adults, peers. Of course they knew that I had the authority and was to be minded, but I never talked down to them or used that "talking to kids" tone or anything. I would also talk about whatever was on my mind, on the news, on tv, whatever. I expected them to understand and they usually did. I'd explain things to them if they didn't.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

I'm an adult aspie in my 20's and I have a one year old son and I was diagnosed with it when I was 12. My son is normal so far. My husband seems to be a better father than me except I have to do most of the parenting because he is in lot of pain and can't move much so I am on my own and then he takes over when I go to work. But if he is in too much pain, I put him in his play pen now than high chair with the TV on and I head to work.

Hi Kas
I'm like you (in fact many on here it seems) and only came to realise I might be on the spectrum, due to having a daughter who is on it. I had a lot of issues, which I never even realised were connected, never mind that anything could be diagnosed. My daughter is almost 6 1/2 yrs and the love of my life. Like OliveOilMum, I read, do arts&crafts, and puzzles, talk an awful lot, maybe dance and sing, but I don't tend to do much play. Daddy spends a lot of time doing that with her and that has worked out really well for us. She has been an awful lot of work, until very recently, but that would have been case, no matter who I was. Now, things are getting much easier and there are days that couldn't be better. I was walking past her school today, at playtime, when I spotted her in the playground, playing with 4 or 5 other girls (never thought I'd see that). She came running over to me, shouting, 'Mummy, I love you' and I got a kiss, through the railings. I can't be doing a bad job!
I'm sure we'll get to speak loads on here. Best wishes.

I'm 25 in four hours and I have a son who is 18 months on the 4th. I have AS and he doesn't appear to have anything going on. Well, apart from having cancer, but that's a whole different issue which is nearly dealt with.

I don't really know what to look out for at this age, I'm pretty sure he doesn't have classic autism, but would like some things to look out for with AS?

Lady Macbeth, if you're not seeing anything that is upsetting to either you or your child, I wouldn't worry about it, just enjoy him. My son was a joy and appeared totally "normal" until he was about three when all heck broke loose - I knew EXACTLY when we needed help, I just didn't know how to get it at the time. (In retrospect, my son was too good when he was a baby/toddler - at least, after we got through the colic. I don't know that I would red-flag good behavior, though...it just makes sense in hindsight as part of a developmental delay - but there are plenty of kids who are just easygoing and stay that way.)

Consider yourself ahead of the game for now; just make sure the pediatrician is satisfied he's meeting his milestones, especially for communication.

Three years old seems to be a point where many of us with high-functioning kids started to notice things; mine went from sweetly even-tempered to having frequent violent outbursts almost overnight.

He can count to 10 already and is very sociable. He responds to me all the time, well, apart from when he's being cheeky. He responds to different tones of voice and looks me in the eye (which is sometimes unnerving!!) so there is literally nothing I can see to suggest even Asperger's. Both his parents have it, though, and he has two half-brothers on the spectrum so I guess I just expected it would happen? Lol

Genetics are a funny thing, aren't they? You never know.

My son was borderline delayed in one of his developmental areas. I don't remember which one. I think it was with cognitive. But it was between normal and delayed for red flag and the nurse and I were not worried about it. My son seems normal to me and my husband says he is normal and he has been around other babies.