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Ok u know a lot of parents have had to end children's special interest because they could be dangerous to the child, yes? Well I stupidly tore myself away from an interest and now anything I can associate to that interest makes me feel really down- I can't even wear some clothes without thinking about it. I know going back to my mistake and trying to restart that interest again won't work because whenever I have a chain of thoughts regarding it I feel really really down and get quite upset.
What do parents do when they have to end a dangerous interest? Is there a particular way you help your child? Or do they just have to come through it themselves. It's been four months now and I thought it would have gone away by now!!

We have not had to deal with any dangerous interests. My son does have interests that I have to police a little bit, because one of his interests is in videos on computers and memes on YouTube made by older boys, who sometimes introduce inappropriate things. I am not a big language police person normally, but my son has echolalia and goes to a public school, so I need to be careful.

There were a few videos he really liked that I had to ban for this reason. I felt really bad about it, but he was repeating things that would be misconstrued in a public school and would get him in big trouble. He was very upset. It took awhile for him to stop perseverating on it. I found videos for him on the same topic that did not have the off topic comments, but he still missed the old ones. Eventually he chilled out, but it was hard.

I suggest that if you can find something in another (safe) special interest of yours, to really try to hyper focus on that. If you do not have any other special interests at this time, hopefully you will acquire one soon. I don't know if you have a standard way to do this, and so that may sound silly to you. When my son is between special interests he goes on You Tube and Google and looks up things he is generally interested in, and eventually he finds something new that he really likes. Or he will revisit an old special interest and reinvigorate that interest.