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YippySkippy
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21 Nov 2013, 3:43 pm

DS8 has two boys he plays with at school. They are nice to him one day, and nasty the next. No amount of discussion can convince him to try playing with other, nicer children. He wants to hang out with the class troublemakers instead (they both get into a lot of mischief at school).
Last weekend, these boys came to our house and threw rocks at it (in broad daylight, while we were at home). They dumped our pumpkins off the porch. I had to go outside and chase them away. A few hours later, one of them came back, knocked on my front door, and wanted to know if DS could go play with him! The other kid had gone home for the day, and I guess DS is the "backup" friend.
I honestly just don't know what to make of all this. If this is what kids do at 8 years old, what will they do at 12 or 14?
What would you do about this situation if it was your kid?



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21 Nov 2013, 4:28 pm

YippySkippy wrote:
If this is what kids do at 8 years old, what will they do at 12 or 14?


Get arrested. Repeatedly.

I know you hate to forbid your children to play with the few friends they have, but an autistic child is going to become a pawn of bullies like that, who will use their "friendship" to manipulate him into all sorts of trouble, using him as the fall guy for their own criminal activities.



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21 Nov 2013, 5:58 pm

Willard wrote:
YippySkippy wrote:
If this is what kids do at 8 years old, what will they do at 12 or 14?


Get arrested. Repeatedly.

I know you hate to forbid your children to play with the few friends they have, but an autistic child is going to become a pawn of bullies like that, who will use their "friendship" to manipulate him into all sorts of trouble, using him as the fall guy for their own criminal activities.


Right here.

Look-- you can't control them hanging out at school. You can say something to the teacher, but you can't control it.

The next time one of them knocks on your door, you CAN say, "I'm sorry, honey, but the answer is no. You threw rocks at my house. You threw my pumpkins on the ground. I don't want to let DS play with kids who act like that. When you're ready to adjust your attitude, you're welcome to come back over."

I think that's appropriate.

Do I think it will get results?? Probably not.


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17 Dec 2013, 4:46 pm

Well, these are the same two kids who attacked DS after school today. :x



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17 Dec 2013, 6:52 pm

YippySkippy wrote:
Well, these are the same two kids who attacked DS after school today. :x


What did the parents say after the rock throwing incident? Were they appalled at how their kids acted and apologetic, or did they blow it off? Because that's probably the same reaction you can expect from this.

They sound like little rednecks to me. For real. Did he hit them back today at all?


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