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My daughter does better than I at times. Please give me a reality check, but she went to a party, (girl turned 18) fairly tame party. no booze or drugs. Pass the parcel and chinese whispers with pizza. They all did include my daughter with the games, because there is a role and its planned but, so it was easy to involve her. At school however, they all talk around her and over her. I should be happy that she has got this far, without being bullied or told to go away. Secondary school life is nearly over and the next phase may be Uni. I just hate the pang of anguish I feel when I see the awkwardness of the people around her, who are all very sociable with each other but not her. They have that skill of relating, but she does not. I just have to get over it, and be grateful she is reasonably happy and not suffering any notable depression.

It is a tough year for her and I her mother. She is having final exams. Next year her 13 years of school are no longer. I have concerned for her and what next year is going to be. Upheaval, change, lost routine. I have contacted Carers Victoria to have free counselling, so I can be the strong resilient person she needs. They have not contacted me yet and I'm not coping either.

Oh, honey - so sorry. Upheaval is awful; I am glad you are reaching out for help.

Does your daughter's school have any kind of post-school services? Sometimes those things are there, but you have to ask about them.

I have been reading a lot lately about several large successes we all know of (lightbulbs, Apple computer and more) but what we don't hear too much about are all the failures. I don't know your situation, but what an exciting turning point. You are about to make fascinating choices, probably some mistakes but you are going to learn so much. I sometimes feel that resilience might be avoidance of feelings. Live a wholehearted life. Be brave. Let the love you have for your daughter move you forward to this new and exciting destination.