A very special moment

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Hi all
Ever since J started at his social group for aspie kids he seams to be more autistic. Perhaps all it means is that he is finally becoming more comfortable with himself. I hope so any ways, he is much happier.

Anyway what I wanted to say was that yesterday after school, J was walking across the playground he came up behind a little boy (the 4 year old brother of another student) and he said rahh. The little boy got a fright and got angry with J, the little boys mum gave J a filthy look and I turned to J and said Oh J that wasn't nice you scared him. (Idon't know what else I could have said)
Well J was beside himself, I'm stupid, I'm sorry,I didn't mean to scare him. This was getting worse and worse.
One of J's class mates (according to the school J isn't different at all)
came up to J and said mate are you ok? Don't worry that kid is ok now. Then he asked J to go and play a ball game with him(down ball)
J said no I cant play I dont like it I dont know how to play. (Christian the other kid) said dont worry I will teach you. Reluctantly J went off with him. Christian then went on to ask J what star sign he is, trying to make sense out of why J was getting upset over something so small. Christian and J are a week apart in birthdays and Christian has anger issues he thought that maybe if they were the same star sign this would explain J being upset over something so trivial. It was very cute to watch Christian physically position J where he needed to stand then he himself run from one side of the yard to the other demonstrating what needed to happen. Christian hit the ball to J, J tried his best to hit the ball back but missed. Then Christian (who obviously knows J better than his teachers) says use your super powers mate. I was over whelmed by this little kids insight into my kid. I made a point of finding Christians mum and telling her to make sure she tells him how grateful I am for what he was trying to achieve.
It bugs me that perhaps things are a little better at school at the moment because the other kids are making accomedations for J, but the staff still dont think he needs any. these are the ones that know J better they spend more time with him they have picked up on stuff (the kids that is) But according to the school No there is nothing wrong with him. Whilst that one incedent showed the good side of the kids it also pointed out that as I said the kids do see the diferences and things could turn on J at any time. the poor kid trys so hard to fit in.
So this post is so long. I also have a very sticky keyboard so there are errors every where, sorry.

sounds like Christian is a real good advocate for your son.

Your son is fortunate to have some nice children around. Yes, other kids often can see what the teachers do not. Whether that the children will use that for good, as Christian did, or bad, depends on the values they have absorbed.

It's a long road, helping our children get along in the world. But with our eyes open, we can see that there are many friends along the way. And super powers definitely help, lol!

This is such a sweet story -- your son is lucky to have such an understanding friend who seems to be more than willing to help your son with what he finds difficult. It's just heartwarming to know there are indeed children out there who are like this.

Kris

Yay for Christian!

There are lots of nice kids out there.

Daniel made a friend last year who'd just moved from London. I told his Mum that Daniel has Asperger's and she told me her son's best friend in London was Autistic.

Daniel has made another friend this year named Thomas (who'd just moved into the area). Daniel went for a play at Thomas' house last week and explained to Thomas' Mum that he has Asperger's. Thomas' Mum told me Thomas's last best friend had Asperger's.

Daniel also has a friend called Hayden who helps him out.

Daniel's classmates know he's different. I had some of the girls in his class explain to me that Daniel is different and does things his own way and that he is incredibly clever.

There are nice kids out there ... they will take the lead from their parents in how to treat your child.

Helen

I love hearing stories like that - kind of reaffirms your faith in the human race a bit doesn't it?