Do you do anything special with your AS on Valentine's Day?

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13 Feb 2008, 11:37 pm

As some of you no doubt know, Valentine's Day can be a little hard for an AS like me. The holiday seems to be for people with a significant other more than anything else, a day where we here in America are flooded with images of couples in love.

They hug, kiss...

They're there for each other.

But some of us don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend. What's worse is that no one knows how to handle us, rejecting us completely. The result is that when we see those images, we are reminded of how alone we are in this world, not being able to get the kind of relationships that we need. The result is, sometimes, we can get a little lonely.

So I was wondering if you do anything on Valentine's Day for your AS child? If so, what?

And for those of you who don't, I did want to encourage you to do so. Nothing intrusive necessarily, but something special, just to let them know that you love them and you're there for them.

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14 Feb 2008, 12:10 am

I never thought of that. I wonder, now, about my son's thought about that. I think I'll give him lots of special extras to show he's loved. Thanks for your post. It made me think.

And-- it's Oregon's birthday on Valentine's Day!

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14 Feb 2008, 12:18 am

Yeah, I wish my mom was more that way than, "Isn't it about time you had a girlfriend?"

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14 Feb 2008, 12:46 am

OregonBecky wrote:

then you have the perfect excuse to keep him company.

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14 Feb 2008, 12:47 am

lovebat wrote:

Yeah, I wish my mom was more that way than, "Isn't it about time you had a girlfriend?"

But how would you have a girlfriend if they tend to just shun you and you end up feeling awkward?

And do you really need to have one?

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14 Feb 2008, 12:56 am

If your feel lonely when you are by yourself, you must be very bad company indeed. A person who provides good company would be able to provide that same comfort to himself.

Food for thought.

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14 Feb 2008, 1:01 am

Kalister1 wrote:

If your feel lonely when you are by yourself, you must be very bad company indeed. A person who provides good company would be able to provide that same comfort to himself.

Food for thought.

Very true.

Just so that you know, I am okay being by myself NOW, but haven't always been that way.

But that's really another thread for another day.

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14 Feb 2008, 1:30 am

OregonBecky wrote:

Happy Birthday, OregonBecky! :queen:

And Happy Valentines Day! :heart:

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14 Feb 2008, 1:34 am

hartzofspace wrote:

OregonBecky wrote:

Happy Birthday, OregonBecky! :queen:

And Happy Valentines Day! :heart:

Yes, and happy Valentine's Day to you, Heartz

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14 Feb 2008, 1:49 am

hartzofspace wrote:

OregonBecky wrote:

Happy Birthday, OregonBecky! :queen:

And Happy Valentines Day! :heart:

Thanks.

It sounds like a trite hippie thing but I feel the love.

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14 Feb 2008, 1:56 am

OregonBecky wrote:

hartzofspace wrote:

OregonBecky wrote:

Happy Birthday, OregonBecky! :queen:

And Happy Valentines Day! :heart:

Thanks.

It sounds like a trite hippie thing but I feel the love.

I hope you have a wonderful time.

:cheers:

I hope you have a nice party or something.

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14 Feb 2008, 2:23 am

I used to hate Valentine's Day, but now it's an excuse to love my kitty more, and to buy myself delicious chocolate! Like that song says, "If you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with. In this case, myself, and my cat!

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14 Feb 2008, 2:28 am

I love buying chocolate. I suppose if an aspie had a special interest or an obsession with chocolate, then they would technically be doing something with their AS...lol I've always wanted to try Mazatlan chocolate, the kind that originates in Mexico that has more spice (like cinnamon) than sugar. Toblerone is also good, plus hot chocolate!

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14 Feb 2008, 2:28 am

H A P P Y B I R T H D A Y

OREGON BECKY! :cheers: :heart:

You Spring Chicken you!

and that was meant to be a compliment by the way! :wink:

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14 Feb 2008, 2:51 am

hartzofspace wrote:

I kind of wish there was a hug or a kiss emoticon

:heart:

:heart::heart:

That will have to do in the place of chocolates.

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14 Feb 2008, 2:53 am

aspiegirl2 wrote:

And what about Sees?

I like Sees

Okay, I'll have to send you virtual chocolates.

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