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Well we went to see psychologist today and I had a real good kinda vent. I saw the report which is going to the Paed and GP. Damo scored 70 on the Connors rating scale thingy (What does 70 mean???????) and has mild autism.
No mention at all of aspergers, I wasn't that suprised really.
I only got 2 other idea of calming methods (bean bag and hammock) and that was it.
He said I am handling it very well and have good calming methods already in place.
He made me realise that Damo stims alot more than I thought and that I can't do much more for him because I am doing all I can.
I still feel kinda sad and bit shocked and don't really want to get the report because. I think I will feel worse once I have fully read it.
So I don't have an aspie kid he is an autie but it's ok, he is still the same boy he was when he went to school this morning

Hi Mum2ASDboy,

reading those reports is horrible. I never look at any reports on my son because they are not who my son is. I stuffed them in a drawer somewhere and couldn't tell you where exactly they are .

When my son got diagnosed, I was told the difference between AS and HFA is when the child learnt to speak, (if speech was delayed, then the dx is usually HFA). The thing is, I couldn't remember when my son spoke, so I just said at the usual time most kids speak, and so we have an AS dx.

I hope you feel better soon - it takes awhile to recover from these sessions .

Temma

Aspi/Mild autie is there a big difference?
It is mainly a matter of opinion anyway. Everybody is in some way different that's what makes life interesting.

Diagnosis is helpful but you know your son and his needs better than any professional can and appear to be doing the best for him.

Not a parent, but I did read my own report. It wasn't a mistake, but it sure was shocking, because it was before I got into real touch with other autistic people. I thought I already presented a very very good picture at 18 years, just very light maybe, but the whole report made it sound as if I was a bit of a nut case. I take it this is the way medical reports can sound, may usually sound like to other people than medical staff, but it is still shocking and it caused me some feelings of helplessness and being overwhelmed by the information that was presented to my eyes on only a few pages.

I found that a good mix between everyday experience, one's feelings and the medical view of the current ongoings makes me feel fine.

the shock over the initial dx can take awhile to overcome.....in our case, we kept hoping that son would get the AS dx. but then when he did, it was somewhat difficult

The important thing to remember, is that your son is still the same person that he was, before he was diagnosed.

When it is put into plain english for me I thnk it will be HFA as he was delayed in language. About 50% of his actual speech is echolalia and then his verbal stims and the rest is more like 3-4 year old talking level.
I know he is still the same boy but hopefully with a concret diagnosis he will get more educational help and I will get respite care.
Thanks for you support either as a parent or a battler

. . . and just remember that these people spend just a few HOURS looking for the abnormalities in your child and then come up with a reasonably generalised clinical diagnosis, when you have spent YEARS observing all the special and lovable things as well, so make sure you balance it all with all the great things that you know about your child.