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As I learn more about Aspergers I see more things that I should not have done, my biggest regret was Football. I really regret putting Vladi in footbal and makeing him stay for 2 seasons, they went through hell month where they practiced every day for 2 1/2 hours under the scorching sun and it was soo hard for him to do the exercises they do for football. I also feel very proud because he hung in there unfortunately there was a coach who was a total JERK to Vladi and even went as far as to tell Vladi that maybe football was not his sport! that really P'd me off! I don't let anyone tell my boys they can't do something! I am their biggest fan! anywho of course back then I did not know what was wrong with Vladi but now that I do, I feel the need to tell the leagues Vice President that they should make sure that the coaches NEVER put a Child down! because they never know...that child may have a problem like my Vladi.

I am debating back & forth...should I?

Hmm, maybe asking Vladi would make it so you wouldnt have to worry?

Btw, Im not a parent and sorry if I dont understand it. Just seems like you should ask Vladi if they want to play or not.

Joku
thanks for your input, I actually like you kids answering!
Vladi is no longer in Football...last year was his last. This year I decided not to force him. I am just thinking of other kids who may be in Vladis situation.

My personal beleif is that at the elementary level, sports should be for fun. All should be allowed to participate. Learning the rules of sports and developing a love of the game should be goal, not having the best play or winning.

I guess it really depends how he said it. Football wasn't Vladi's game. If the coach said it as a put down, it was inappropraite regardless of Vladi's dx. IE no child should be put down and I'd write a letter of complaint from that angle.

Now, is it possible that the coach was trying to make Vladi feel better about not being able to do some of the exercises...ie was it said in a "well, this isn't your sport but I'm sure you'll be great at something else?" That's a whole different hmmmm....ballgame.

I would be hesistate to write a letter saying the coach was wrong because Vladi has a dx. Not ever child can do every sport. If you bring up the dx, the VP might think that it was simply a case of the wrong child in the wrong sport. Really, the putdowns were wrong and I'd keep to that.

BeeBee

Bee Bee Thank you! no this coach was a jerk! he never wanted Vladi to play because he was not good. Everytime another coach wanted to put Vladi in he would argue about it. But I think I should let by gone be by gones....I was just thinking that this should not happen to any child.

Give to them. No child should be told that. The fact that your son has asperger is not relevant. I have three sons one with asperger and two without. If any coach told anyone of my boys that, I would tell him / her off right away. When my children are in sports I never interfere if their team wins or lose so be it. After all it is only a game. One last thing my son with asperger is obsessed with sports he watches, talks and plays sport all the time.

Sports, especially for kids, should be about fun. They should learn proper teamwork, dedication and have fitness and fun. If I was put down by my swim coach like that, I'd tell him (or her) that this was not acceptable and I would quit the team, as much as I like swimming.

It is also good if the kids get a say in whether or not they participate in a sport. There was a time (either last year or the year before, I cannot remember) that I really wanted to quit swimming. My parents let me not swim for a while and now I'm back-on my own choice, not their's. If Vladi doesn't want to play football, which it sounds like he doesn't, it's not the best idea to force him to. If you really feel he needs to exercise regularly or play a sport, try looking into other sports that he may enjoy.