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The Guardian Ad Litem in my child custody case was more helpful then I realized.

Even though my Ex basically abandoned our child with me for a couple months to
go chase her new romance then broke her promises and tried to strip our child from me,
And even though she basically leaves her other children with their father caring little for them,
Those things legally are still not considered neglectful, because our child was with me and the others with their father.
where with me I have a vary old drug record, that didn't really matter, but I also had a couple alcohol related incidences in the last 3 years, those looked bad, but in the same hand I also am a VARY good and moral father, she liked what she seen in me, so she balanced the report for 50/50, but as expected I only got 3 days out of the week for now, especially since my attorney of 220$ an hour didn't even show up, he was there by phone and even then he hung up over half the time to take care of other interests, and she had a free lawyer who actually done her best for my Ex.
The GAL knew I would get less then her report suggested, I was in a bad position,
but she couldn't suggest more then that other then it would have been in our child's best interests to be in my care.

The GAL has to remain neutral, shes there for the child, but,
what she had done was give me time to prove my self,
give my Ex time to get off her high fence and become her old neglectful self,
give me time to prove and validate my interest in my child and his developments,
health, education, and care, and to improve on my self.
She was dropping hints left and right but I was so wrapped up in emotional turmoil
from the betrayal and frustrations and stress and anxiety to see all she was hinting at
and trying to say and do.

Yes she slammed me AND my Ex in her report, about my drinking issues and
her being an somewhat neglectful and bad mother,
but I got totally praised for being such a natural good daddy where
she got praised only for her desire to better educate her self.
Now alls I have to do is validate my self and my honesty, I didn't make face.
same with my Ex, but she put on a show of face, not her true self,
and the GAL could see that my Ex did lie to try and strip our child from me and get that free lawyer.

the next go around in a few years I will end up on top,
I just have to ask for the GAL to be involved again if shes not still around and involved already.

Its going to be an interesting next few years,
the GAL and the courts want to see if we can actually co-parent,
or if they are going to have to award one of us some major primary custody time.
I am having the parenting plan set up so we have to be include each other in all the
decision making and going to all the appointments,
if she don't try co-parenting with me it will look bad on her, same with me,
Next go around my Ex wont have anything to use against me,
and I wont need an attorney, just the GAL.
and she did tell me what I need to do before the next dispute brakes out and when it most likely will occur.
This next dispute we will either end up alternating weeks 50/50, or I will get primary, you wait and see,
the guardian basically hinted that if I keep going the way I been going I most likely will end up with primary.
The Race is on.
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Drug charges a bad parent do not make.

CURRENT drug use, yes. And I do wish the courts would understand this.

My mum only got nailed ONCE, and us kids went through years of torment with an abusive father. Pissed me off when she went back to it, I tell you that.

The ex is apprently stupid and thinks the courts will back off the moment she smiles and says, I love my kids! Right. They watch for a very long time what you do and how you do it. Eventually the better parent wins.

Now you just have to make sure the child isn't drug thru the mud, as often happens in cases like this.

Right now we are trying passing a notebook to communicate about our child,
she is putting what she seems to think I should work on or know about our child,
as if I don't know much about him or parenting,
like since she has 5 other kids already (that she basically ignores)
that she is the better parent and I should follow her lead.

where with me I feel that since she tried to strip him from me and didn't
care to communicate or reason with me about it or even care how I or our child felt
or the joys we shared and things we do together until she found she was not going to get her way
and strip him from me, and even now she seems uninterested in any of my thoughts or ideas and opinions,
or how I do things to educate our child that works,
so why would I even want or care to share that information with her now? shes not worthy.

I tried putting my two cents worth in on things she was having problems with that I don't,
she didn't seem to get the hint or listen or care, I sent her word lists I been working on,
no response other then her saying he seems to be trying to say this or that, like well Derrr.
She said he seemed to like brooms and dust pans like I should get him some,
well crud I got him those many months ago, thats why he likes them, he helps me clean house,
I mentioned that in court right in front of her, and she also said that she has been trying to get him
used to water pelting him on the face and head, well hell you should have seen him long ago before
I started taking showers with him, drastic improvements she hardly notices then gives her self credit for.
I am to the point that I can hardly find it in my self to
even want to respond to her notebook passing, she don't listen and she is not worthy of knowing of
my and our child's life and time together, she tried to strip that from us, screw her.
This last time I just wrote ok to what ever she seemed me to want to follow her lead to do,
then ignored it.

well, at least she is trying I guess.
I just need time, I am still VARY hurt and sore over this whole issue,
and I am expecting her to try again any chance she thinks she can pull it off.
she is not a friend, not even a neutral.

Naa, what I think I will do is now that I got a little more time with him I am going to start doing
what comes natural for me and our child and educate him to the point that she will have to stop and go,
hay, when he learn this and that? I didn't teach him that? he is learning fast!, well derrr.
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use this notebook wisely my new friend

may I call you that?

she is trying to take credit for the things that you taught.

when the next battle appears, she can show the courts

"look what I have done!"

If all they see for you, is "OK", it will not be won.

my suggestion here would be

detailed lists for all to see

everything you do,

everything your child begins to learn because of you

listed down in her notebook for two.

safeguard yourself, not for you, but for him.