harlow wrote:
She started the comments about a year ago. Because she believes things better of she reads them, or sees a photo, we visted the CPS website. I had her read, out loud, what is child abuse. She than read out loud, what are acceptable forms of punishment. She agreed none of the things listed as abuse applied to her or our family. I thought that settled it. Now I see it did not.
If I understand you correctly, the tapping is the only thing your daughter thinks is abuse. Have you asked why she thinks it's abuse when it fits nothing on the CPS site?
Your daughter may have misinterpreted something she read or was told since you visited the site. Or she finds the tapping much more aversive than it would be to most people, despite her high pain threshold. If the tapping really is much more of a problem to your daughter than you knew, perhaps you can work out with your daughter another method of getting her attention. Does she agree that sometimes you do need to get her attention?
harlow wrote:
To make things worse, my mother (who sees my kids about 12 hours a year by her choice, she has some issues too) knew my daughter turned me in & did not tell me. She new 2 weeks ago when the event happened. I just found out Monday, called to cry on her shoulder & ask advice & found out she had know all along, so I feel very betrayed by her.
I developed a habit of trying to see why people might think their actions reasonable even if I may not. The best I can come up with here is that perhaps your mother felt that even if she thought your daughter was wrong, on general principles your daughter had to have the freedom to go through official channels, and support for doing so from someone in the family. In the best case scenario, the CPS seriously considered your daughter's complaint, explained to her why they disagreed, but didn't make her feel completely silly. The best outcome would be that your daughter saw an official body doing its job, and learned what is and is not a legitimate complaint. If you all can get there, the final outcome wouldn't be so bad, despite the trouble that could have come your way.
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