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Ok, im 15, and my parents have guesst over, and i just noticed what the difference is! They turn into power hoggers, and im not talking electricity, is that they feel worthless when i get something they can have or are they just doing this for laughs and giggles, plz comment?!? I suddenly am like a two year old with a whole bunch of new, over the top sounds like complete idocrasy rules now? What happended?

Well I need some reply, I'm really close to embarresaing my father by calling him out, he pushing it too far, I don't know if I can hold back any longer! He push and pulling to much, my happy is going to tear and I don't care of he even beats me I won't back down, he pushing too hard( he's never beaten me ever I don't think he would either); he jokes me and then I can't joke him back, that's not goingcto fly anymore!! I need a reply of what to do please

I'm sorry you haven't gotten any replies, but it's kind of hard (for me, anyway) to follow what exactly your situation is.

I did get that your father likes to make jokes at your expense but doesn't like it when you make jokes at his expense. That stinks, but I don't know what you can do about it.

You said your parents feel worthless when you get something they CAN have. I assume you meant CAN"T have, but I don't know. It seems like they're jealous of you sometimes. Do you think they're undiagnosed aspies and resent that you get services for things they just had to put up with when they were your age?

I hope you're able to move out as soon as you're 18 and don't have to put up with this for much longer, but I strongly urge you not to burn any bridges with them. They're your family and they can be very useful later on, when you may need help with something. I know that sounds cold-hearted but it's the truth. They may be both able and willing to help you later on, even if it seems they'll never do that. Relationships with parents are usually hard for teenagers, but things may get better later on.

I'm sorry I wasn't able to come up with any solutions for you now. I hope somebody else will do better.

Oh, while answering on your other thread I thought of something. When I was in high school, which was in the 1970's and there wasn't (to my knowledge) a diagnosis of AS available in the USA, I got the family into therapy.

They way I did it was to keep going to my guidance counselor several times a day and hinting that I wanted therapy. I couldn't bring myself to say it straight out because my parents would always say "Well what do you want ME to do about it" when I needed help with something, so I expected the same answer from my guidance counselor. The family therapy was free, the school paid for it, and it helped ME, at least. Maybe you could try that?

Hi, I've been off-line for a bunch of hours or I would have taken the time to reply. The problem is, however, I'm not sure I understand what you are asking. Are you saying they have suddenly changed how they attempt to raise you, and have added all sorts of new rules and expectations that were not there before? If that is the case, I would ask if something has happened that could cause them to be worried for you?

Have you ASKED them what is going on? Why they seem upset, or seem to need to change things, assuming that is the case?

Before I can really answer and hopefully help you, it would be good to have a better understanding of what is going on.

I was thinking that maybe they were trying to impress their visitor by cracking down harder on you? I don't know... it's hard to say what's going on.