Who do you feel unconditional love for?

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Dogs. You should have put this option

I would stop loving them. I would stop loving anyone around whom I am always uneasy and from whom I gain nothing emotionnally.

Most people don't take the word unconditional love literally at all.

There is a reason why a lot of aspies are not in support of unconditional love - perhaps it is because they think the idea is illogical?

Unconditional love is not equivalent with being a good person. I suppose when you bring kinds is this world I higher level of love for them is required than the reverse. I don't think children are required to unconditionally love their parents - this is not a two way street. Having said that, I do love my parents, very close to unconditionally, but not quite.

Yeah I almost get the idea that 'unconditional love' means some kind of vague metaphysical thing, or it's fairly shallow like "I'll love you even if you annoy me". Though then again, 30% of the people here said they have unconditional love for everyone, so I wouldn't say aspies are any more skeptical of the concept than NTs.

I understand the word "love" to INCLUDE the "even when you annoy me" bit in the first place, otherwise it's just silly.

"You're so pretty when you're faithful to me"

My family. I love my abusive alcoholic father unconditionally, but I hate that I do so. I'm disgusted by him. But the whole 'blood is thicker than water' thing rings true to me. I remember my grandfather who was so desperate to have a boy, then adored him unconditionally. Some of the things he did are pure evil. And no matter what they've done, your brain unconciously reminds you of the good, keeps you going. It's a defence mechanism. Not to recognise that part of you and your genetics. I didn't speak to him for four years. Now he never leaves the house, drinks almost two litres of whiskey throughout the day and the only human contact he allows is talking to philipino women online. Been made bankrupt for them.
But I'll still cry at his funeral. After all, hate and love are closely intertwined.

It kind of seems like the only person I love unconditionally is me. I do love other people, but I know that hypothetically there are things they could do to make me stop loving them. I've done plenty of bad things, and I'm a general waste of a human being, but I still love me. To be honest, it really weirds me out.

I love my friends as I love my family. It's not that I treating both as the same. To me they ARE the same. My friends are so important that I treat them like family.

I nearly ticked "everyone" but the bunch of kittens clause made me hesitate

Your poll offers a very limited selection ... only bipeds are mentioned.

Most of all i love my cats, then animals in general and nature as a whole. Next point would be my books and so on, but i guess that's not what you want to know.

I have a sister and we get along more or less, via emails, sometimes phone, though i avoid the latter as far as possible, but i don't think i love her. Not sure if i know how it feels to love a human.

I also don't think that I'm capable of loving another üerson. I'm a humanist, but I only like people from afar. I love humans and feel concerned for them in a general sense, in the same way that I love tigers and other large predators that might severely injure me if I ever got close to them. But I've never really loved an individual human being, and I don't think that I've ever been loved. If you love somebody, you stand up for them, defend them against criticism, and don't talk trash about them behind their back. Nobody ever did that for me, not even my parents.

I agree. I don't totally agree with blood is thicker than water. I love my family because they're my blood but I love my friends because I chose them and they share a lot of personality traits with me. I wouldn't necessarily choose a blood relative over a good friend. I love my friend Tamara as much as I love my mother just in a different way.

I've only ever felt "unconditional love" for one person, and they don't even care about me.