Forgiveness

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I wonder why people need forgiveness

That's all really

Agree. People should apologize and not wait for forgiveness.

Forgiveness, if it happens, would usually be most appropriate after an apology, not before, and only if the offended person thinks the apology is sincere.

Forgiveness, up to a point at least, is essential to a functioning community. People are always offending each other in one way or another; that's just part of being human. A group of people cannot function well if people insist on holding grudges about every little thing.

On the other hand, there is also such a thing as being too forgiving. It is important to hold people accountable for serious offenses.

Sometimes forgiveness is mostly to benefit the person doing the forgiving, not the one who might need forgiveness.

Letting go of previous grievances is better than collecting them, after all.

To let go of.. whatever entanglements between a wrong doing, mostly.

Depending on the nature of the relationship between parties involved.

If there's an ongoing relationship or forced proximity between the parties involved, forgiveness would result a less awkward, less discomfort or tension in whatever they had to do that made them not avoid another else's presence.

Or that the need for forgiveness meant, whether victim or perpetrator or even just by themselves, to put something that affects them rent free to put to rest, instead of occupying whatever unsolved crap that their body had to carry.

Whether it's a validation, a sign of acceptance from a wronged party (or themselves and their perceived wrong or lacking), or losing tension onto themselves in general, to no longer stay when it's overdue...
Some, just wanted to know if one is simply being remorseful and the assurance to do better or that to loosen the remorse from themselves...

It can vary, really.
Most of it was framed as something moralistic, or a sign of maturity.
But nah... I can very much also understand that it doesn't always meant it's healthy, possibly self serving in itself, or even question if the need itself to be "true".


But if I get rid of all that contextualize social and emotional crapity:
It boils down to a form of emotional or state transitioning, to end whatever was renting free in one's head and body, really, that itself leads into a closer to long term regulated state.

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Depending on circumstances
Written by my alter ego : Leave forgiveness to Gawd , Less we , misunderstand the concept of Justice.
If wrongs have not been made right ,This Quotation:. "No Quarter asked ,, No Quarter given" Janet Dailey .

leaving it to the Lord's of karma requires less work, at least in my case.

I've never had a need to be forgiven or to forgive other people

Idk really

I don't know how I'd feel if someone said they'd forgiven me

I think first of all that they were deluded or something

Yes but if they did approach you and said that about having forgiven you.? It would cause you to wonder .? why?
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I think I just don't rely on other people in that way Jakki