Debunking 'Gender is a social contruct.'

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Okay, when my 5yo daughter asked me who are gays, I said they are men who fall in love with other men, not women.
I believe a lot can be explained to children quite accurately without unnecessary emotional load.

But I'm still curious if a toddler boy showing interest in dolls and princess cartoons requires intervention or not - and if yes, then what kind of intervention.

Boys, if they want to fit in with other boys, gravitate towards boys’ activities without “intervention.”

Being gay is much more complex than boys growing up playing with Barbies.

Moreover, many gay men are quite masculine.

There is still the stereotype that gay men are invariably effeminate, and gay women are invariably over-masculine.

It is assumed that “upbringing” causes all this.

One of my friends told me, when his friend want to buy Lego Mindstorms in USA, the shopkeeper almost refused to sell it after learning it was for her daughter... Do people in USA really believe that playing with robots would turn a girl into a lesbian? Seems absurdally superstitious.

Heard about a situation in a Swedish daycare where one of the teachers (?) forbade the boys from playing with legos, on the grounds that playing with legos helped boys get an early understanding of engineering and thus had an unfair advantage over the girls later in life. So the boys who wanted to play with legos were barred from doing so, and the girls didn't really want to so they didn't.

There are self evident biological reasons why there are two sexes, each with different physiology, psychology and social focus.

This is not socially constructed. If you want a concrete example, look up the "John Joan" case (aka David Reimer).

Males minds typically have a preferrence for abstract thought, where as female minds typically have a focus on the social. For example, a young boy will typically come to with something in his hand and say, "Look at this!". Whereas a young girl will be more likely come to you in a new dress and say, "Look at me!"

This can leave males, sometimes, unable to articulate their feelings and oblivious to what is happening around them socially.

That being said, there is a strong cultural element which can shape or override biology.

Many transwomen (and I've know a few), for example, were children who have grown up in an overwhelming female environment without any positive male role model to bind to. As a result, they take onboard female forms of feeling, behavior and thinking. I would certainly agree that genetics play a role also.

This suggests that there is a great degree of flexibility and adaptability in how genetics express themselves and we are not simply hardwired and fixed. This I see as, ultimately, a positive thing.

I'm personally very comfortable with trans, but having "71" genders is madness! Who gets to decide that there are 71 genders, for example? Why not 53, or 105? It is this made up nonsence which is socially constructed and it has no basis in reality.

Does being an abstract thinker with undivided attention make me less female?