The defence of marriage issue: my take
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Inuyasha wrote:
simon_says wrote:
I don't think there should be a multi-tier system. But ultimately it's about what voters will bear and today gay marriage is rapidly becoming acceptable. Once the older generation dies, it's over. The young are for it.
Explains those judges getting kicked out of office in Iowa.
Really, it isn't gaining as much acceptance as you think, in fact the pro-gay marriage groups have actually gotten to the point where they are fighting to silence their critics.
Furthermore, the primary issue many people take with "gay marriage" is the fact you call it marriage. There wouldn't be half the protests if people you called it a 'civil union.'
But that's the point; Gays are still given second class standing. They're told that they have to be content with civil unions, which in everyone's minds is not equal to marriage, regardless if the benefits of marriage are included.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
Sweetleaf wrote:
Yeah that seems like a fairly decent solution.....I honestly do not even find the idea of traditional marrige all that appealing, but people should have the right to it if they so choose.
But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
I don't think a compromise is good enough. Separate but equal isn't equal and legislature should not be governed by religion or some juvenile complex about it. They should have equal rights and recognition and not have to settle for less.But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
simon_says wrote:
I don't think there should be a multi-tier system. But ultimately it's about what voters will bear and today gay marriage is rapidly becoming acceptable. Once the older generation dies, it's over. The young are for it.
Explains those judges getting kicked out of office in Iowa.
Really, it isn't gaining as much acceptance as you think, in fact the pro-gay marriage groups have actually gotten to the point where they are fighting to silence their critics.
Furthermore, the primary issue many people take with "gay marriage" is the fact you call it marriage. There wouldn't be half the protests if people you called it a 'civil union.'
But that's the point; Gays are still given second class standing. They're told that they have to be content with civil unions, which in everyone's minds is not equal to marriage, regardless if the benefits of marriage are included.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
AceOfSpades wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Yeah that seems like a fairly decent solution.....I honestly do not even find the idea of traditional marrige all that appealing, but people should have the right to it if they so choose.
But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
I don't think a compromise is good enough. Separate but equal isn't equal and legislature should not be governed by religion or some juvenile complex about it. They should have equal rights and recognition and not have to settle for less.But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
simon_says wrote:
I don't think there should be a multi-tier system. But ultimately it's about what voters will bear and today gay marriage is rapidly becoming acceptable. Once the older generation dies, it's over. The young are for it.
Explains those judges getting kicked out of office in Iowa.
Really, it isn't gaining as much acceptance as you think, in fact the pro-gay marriage groups have actually gotten to the point where they are fighting to silence their critics.
Furthermore, the primary issue many people take with "gay marriage" is the fact you call it marriage. There wouldn't be half the protests if people you called it a 'civil union.'
But that's the point; Gays are still given second class standing. They're told that they have to be content with civil unions, which in everyone's minds is not equal to marriage, regardless if the benefits of marriage are included.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
However what you are advocating is effectively turning religious people into second class citizens, because homosexuality is actually considered sinful in the Bible, the Torah, and the Koran (sp?).
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Inuyasha wrote:
AceOfSpades wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Yeah that seems like a fairly decent solution.....I honestly do not even find the idea of traditional marrige all that appealing, but people should have the right to it if they so choose.
But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
I don't think a compromise is good enough. Separate but equal isn't equal and legislature should not be governed by religion or some juvenile complex about it. They should have equal rights and recognition and not have to settle for less.But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
simon_says wrote:
I don't think there should be a multi-tier system. But ultimately it's about what voters will bear and today gay marriage is rapidly becoming acceptable. Once the older generation dies, it's over. The young are for it.
Explains those judges getting kicked out of office in Iowa.
Really, it isn't gaining as much acceptance as you think, in fact the pro-gay marriage groups have actually gotten to the point where they are fighting to silence their critics.
Furthermore, the primary issue many people take with "gay marriage" is the fact you call it marriage. There wouldn't be half the protests if people you called it a 'civil union.'
But that's the point; Gays are still given second class standing. They're told that they have to be content with civil unions, which in everyone's minds is not equal to marriage, regardless if the benefits of marriage are included.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
However what you are advocating is effectively turning religious people into second class citizens, because homosexuality is actually considered sinful in the Bible, the Torah, and the Koran (sp?).
I'm sure white southerners claimed they were going to be made second class citizens too, if blacks were given equal rights.
Expanding rights to others isn't going to diminish your rights. Isn't that the whole point of America for everyone to enjoy the same equality and liberty?
Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
Inuyasha wrote:
AceOfSpades wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Yeah that seems like a fairly decent solution.....I honestly do not even find the idea of traditional marrige all that appealing, but people should have the right to it if they so choose.
But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
I don't think a compromise is good enough. Separate but equal isn't equal and legislature should not be governed by religion or some juvenile complex about it. They should have equal rights and recognition and not have to settle for less.But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
simon_says wrote:
I don't think there should be a multi-tier system. But ultimately it's about what voters will bear and today gay marriage is rapidly becoming acceptable. Once the older generation dies, it's over. The young are for it.
Explains those judges getting kicked out of office in Iowa.
Really, it isn't gaining as much acceptance as you think, in fact the pro-gay marriage groups have actually gotten to the point where they are fighting to silence their critics.
Furthermore, the primary issue many people take with "gay marriage" is the fact you call it marriage. There wouldn't be half the protests if people you called it a 'civil union.'
But that's the point; Gays are still given second class standing. They're told that they have to be content with civil unions, which in everyone's minds is not equal to marriage, regardless if the benefits of marriage are included.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
However what you are advocating is effectively turning religious people into second class citizens, because homosexuality is actually considered sinful in the Bible, the Torah, and the Koran (sp?).
Not everyone shares this interpretation. There are religious groups who would would accept, honor, and perform a marriage ceremony for homosexuals and they should be well within their rights to do so.
But the larger point here is that the term marriage is already a civil term. I got married in Vegas. No church, no priest (Elvis technically doesn't count, but I could see a strong argument
And what Kraichgauer said (just saw it).
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Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
AceOfSpades wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Yeah that seems like a fairly decent solution.....I honestly do not even find the idea of traditional marrige all that appealing, but people should have the right to it if they so choose.
But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
I don't think a compromise is good enough. Separate but equal isn't equal and legislature should not be governed by religion or some juvenile complex about it. They should have equal rights and recognition and not have to settle for less.But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
simon_says wrote:
I don't think there should be a multi-tier system. But ultimately it's about what voters will bear and today gay marriage is rapidly becoming acceptable. Once the older generation dies, it's over. The young are for it.
Explains those judges getting kicked out of office in Iowa.
Really, it isn't gaining as much acceptance as you think, in fact the pro-gay marriage groups have actually gotten to the point where they are fighting to silence their critics.
Furthermore, the primary issue many people take with "gay marriage" is the fact you call it marriage. There wouldn't be half the protests if people you called it a 'civil union.'
But that's the point; Gays are still given second class standing. They're told that they have to be content with civil unions, which in everyone's minds is not equal to marriage, regardless if the benefits of marriage are included.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
However what you are advocating is effectively turning religious people into second class citizens, because homosexuality is actually considered sinful in the Bible, the Torah, and the Koran (sp?).
I'm sure white southerners claimed they were going to be made second class citizens too, if blacks were given equal rights.
Expanding rights to others isn't going to diminish your rights. Isn't that the whole point of America for everyone to enjoy the same equality and liberty?
Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
Unlike those white southerners, religious people are going to be charged for hate speech for speaking out on their religious beliefs.
Inuyasha wrote:
However what you are advocating is effectively turning religious people into second class citizens, because homosexuality is actually considered sinful in the Bible, the Torah, and the Koran (sp?).
Right, thinking that laws should be justified with reasons other than "Because God said so" makes religious people second class citizens Kraichgauer
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Inuyasha wrote:
Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
AceOfSpades wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Yeah that seems like a fairly decent solution.....I honestly do not even find the idea of traditional marrige all that appealing, but people should have the right to it if they so choose.
But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
I don't think a compromise is good enough. Separate but equal isn't equal and legislature should not be governed by religion or some juvenile complex about it. They should have equal rights and recognition and not have to settle for less.But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
simon_says wrote:
I don't think there should be a multi-tier system. But ultimately it's about what voters will bear and today gay marriage is rapidly becoming acceptable. Once the older generation dies, it's over. The young are for it.
Explains those judges getting kicked out of office in Iowa.
Really, it isn't gaining as much acceptance as you think, in fact the pro-gay marriage groups have actually gotten to the point where they are fighting to silence their critics.
Furthermore, the primary issue many people take with "gay marriage" is the fact you call it marriage. There wouldn't be half the protests if people you called it a 'civil union.'
But that's the point; Gays are still given second class standing. They're told that they have to be content with civil unions, which in everyone's minds is not equal to marriage, regardless if the benefits of marriage are included.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
However what you are advocating is effectively turning religious people into second class citizens, because homosexuality is actually considered sinful in the Bible, the Torah, and the Koran (sp?).
I'm sure white southerners claimed they were going to be made second class citizens too, if blacks were given equal rights.
Expanding rights to others isn't going to diminish your rights. Isn't that the whole point of America for everyone to enjoy the same equality and liberty?
Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
Unlike those white southerners, religious people are going to be charged for hate speech for speaking out on their religious beliefs.
I very much doubt that the average religious person is going to be punished by the law for speaking their church's opinions about gays, unless their speech includes advocating violence and denial of civil rights, which then does constitute hate speech.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
My solution is this: there should be at least three institutions. Marriage for the religious, perhaps something slightly different for the nonreligious, and I firmly believe that the gay community should have something that has a name that they give it, a ceremony or set of customs that fits their highest ideals, and it should be something that they define.
Why do you assume that "the religious" and "the gay community" are disjoint sets? They are not.
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All unions would be under the same legal umbrella with the same legal protections - differing mainly in specialized names and customs.
So... essentially, the government offers a "civil union" as a civil contract to any couple, and people will get "married" or not depending on whether they find a church that will perform the ceremony, although such ceremonies would have no formal legal standing. I have no objection to that proposal.
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What I believe this gives everyone - the religious, being people who mean good by and large, can have the purity they want brought back to their institution.
Not really. Christian denominations in the US will continue to have internal conflicts over the status of gay members, and many denominations will be unhappy in a world where other dissenting groups extend "marriage" to groups they do not accept.
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So what are your thoughts? Do you think society could be ready for this kind of change in the next fifty to one-hundred years or are we still too primitive?
Oh, gay marriage will certainly be legal before the next fifty years has passed. The momentum of social change is pretty clear here. It probably will not go to "civil unions" but instead the state will continue to issue marriage licenses, and they will be available to straight and gay couples alike. People will dissent and complain, but twenty years later such people will be on the ostracized fringe.
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Inuyasha wrote:
Unlike those white southerners, religious people are going to be charged for hate speech for speaking out on their religious beliefs.
No they aren't. Here in America, people have the right to be hateful bigots. Fred Phelps has not been charged with "hate speech." I grew up in an area where some people openly speak out against interracial marriage, and none of them have ever been charged for hate speech. The belief that it will happen in the context of gay marriage is just your persecution complex at work again. You should see a therapist about your paranoia issues.
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Kraichgauer wrote:
I very much doubt that the average religious person is going to be punished by the law for speaking their church's opinions about gays, unless their speech includes advocating violence and denial of civil rights, which then does constitute hate speech.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
Even advocating the denial of civil rights will not rise to the level where legal action is taken. People can and do agitate against civil rights for blacks to this day without facing any legal sanction. There is no sane reason to believe the situation will be different in regards to homosexuals.
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Inuyasha wrote:
Unlike those white southerners, religious people are going to be charged for hate speech for speaking out on their religious beliefs.
No they aren't. Here in America, people have the right to be hateful bigots. Fred Phelps has not been charged with "hate speech." I grew up in an area where some people openly speak out against interracial marriage, and none of them have ever been charged for hate speech. The belief that it will happen in the context of gay marriage is just your persecution complex at work again. You should see a therapist about your paranoia issues.
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Orwell wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
My solution is this: there should be at least three institutions. Marriage for the religious, perhaps something slightly different for the nonreligious, and I firmly believe that the gay community should have something that has a name that they give it, a ceremony or set of customs that fits their highest ideals, and it should be something that they define.
Why do you assume that "the religious" and "the gay community" are disjoint sets? They are not.
The much larger issue seems to be that they can't get equal rights in bonding. Yes, I'm sure there are gay couples of all walks of faith or nonfaith. I would just much rather, for those who do want a religous ceremony, this be a intra-church issue discussion rather than a national discussion where we have political pundits taking stances on their right to union.
The two things that bother me most about this - gays being locked out of the process over confusion on where church marriage ends and state marriage begins, and the Evangelical right having one more issue to rally around when it comes time for elections.
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What I believe this gives everyone - the religious, being people who mean good by and large, can have the purity they want brought back to their institution.
Not really. Christian denominations in the US will continue to have internal conflicts over the status of gay members, and many denominations will be unhappy in a world where other dissenting groups extend "marriage" to groups they do not accept.
I'd play the world's smallest violin for their irritation with not having monopoly on the institutions, however I do find slightly unfair if they've defined things a certain way and they're having their ability to define it within their group gets tampered with by the government, hence why I want to give the term 'marriage' back to them.
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So what are your thoughts? Do you think society could be ready for this kind of change in the next fifty to one-hundred years or are we still too primitive?
Oh, gay marriage will certainly be legal before the next fifty years has passed. The momentum of social change is pretty clear here. It probably will not go to "civil unions" but instead the state will continue to issue marriage licenses, and they will be available to straight and gay couples alike. People will dissent and complain, but twenty years later such people will be on the ostracized fringe.
Group equality and rebuilt community are both very important goals for the next fifty to one hundred years IMO.
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techstepgenr8tion wrote:
I would just much rather, for those who do want a religous ceremony, this be a intra-church issue discussion rather than a national discussion where we have political pundits taking stances on their right to union.
No argument here. And once gays have the same legal rights as the rest of us, the issue will probably be resolved a little more calmly in the churches. Right now many denominations are struggling with the issue of gay and lesbian members, and I suspect this is only amplified by the fact that it is politicized in the outside, secular world as well.
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and the Evangelical right having one more issue to rally around when it comes time for elections.
I think they might rally against civil unions being extended to gays as well, and to the government no longer issuing "marriages" to opposite-sex couples.
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I'd play the world's smallest violin for their irritation with not having monopoly on the institutions, however I do find slightly unfair if they've defined things a certain way and they're having their ability to define it within their group gets tampered with by the government, hence why I want to give the term 'marriage' back to them.
Understandable, but churches already have the ability to define "marriage" in a non-legal sense. There are churches which will not marry interracial couples, and the ruling in Loving v Virginia cannot take that prerogative away from them. Other churches will happily perform same-sex marriage ceremonies even in states where gay marriage is not legally recognized.
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Inuyasha wrote:
AceOfSpades wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Yeah that seems like a fairly decent solution.....I honestly do not even find the idea of traditional marrige all that appealing, but people should have the right to it if they so choose.
But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
I don't think a compromise is good enough. Separate but equal isn't equal and legislature should not be governed by religion or some juvenile complex about it. They should have equal rights and recognition and not have to settle for less.But yes I think there could be various types of marrige type set ups that all receive the same legal rights or whatever, like I belive homosexuals should be able to have a civil union or whatever they would like to call it and have it treated the same as a traditional marrige as far as the legal status....I also think they should be able to adopt for instance as I see no reason why a homosexual couple could not provide a loving home for a child.
Kraichgauer wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
simon_says wrote:
I don't think there should be a multi-tier system. But ultimately it's about what voters will bear and today gay marriage is rapidly becoming acceptable. Once the older generation dies, it's over. The young are for it.
Explains those judges getting kicked out of office in Iowa.
Really, it isn't gaining as much acceptance as you think, in fact the pro-gay marriage groups have actually gotten to the point where they are fighting to silence their critics.
Furthermore, the primary issue many people take with "gay marriage" is the fact you call it marriage. There wouldn't be half the protests if people you called it a 'civil union.'
But that's the point; Gays are still given second class standing. They're told that they have to be content with civil unions, which in everyone's minds is not equal to marriage, regardless if the benefits of marriage are included.
-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer
However what you are advocating is effectively turning religious people into second class citizens, because homosexuality is actually considered sinful in the Bible, the Torah, and the Koran (sp?).
No, because no citizen should(or does) have the right to have their religious beliefs placed as law, not in America. That homosexuals should have equal treatment and opportunities as everyone else is not a religious belief and so does not deprive religious folks of any rights they are entitled to as citizens.
Just because a group doesn't get to enforce their religious beliefs doesn't mean they have been deprived of a constitutional right it just means everyone else's is being enforced.
Inuyasha wrote:
Unlike those white southerners, religious people are going to be charged for hate speech for speaking out on their religious beliefs.
Nope, they may speak but they may not strike.
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Understandable, but churches already have the ability to define "marriage" in a non-legal sense. There are churches which will not marry interracial couples, and the ruling in Loving v Virginia cannot take that prerogative away from them. Other churches will happily perform same-sex marriage ceremonies even in states where gay marriage is not legally recognized.
Yeah, I guess that's a whole other factor that I hadn't taken into account.
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