Spanking - abuse or effective

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It's perfectly ok to use although it can be abused just like any other technique.


My old man made us feel like we got off easy after he spanked us.

"Grand-dad would've used a razor strap on you just like he used to with me", he'd say or "those were only love taps compared to what your grand-dad would do to you".

My dad used it as a way to take out his frustration I suspect. My dad is suspected by my family to be autistic; he gets angry easily. He did it because Hubbard had some sh***y lecture where he said spanking was ok. I'd say it didn't work. I have never stopped braking rules. I recently got expelled from a private school I'd been going to school my entire life because of my rule braking. Why I do it is off the topic of the thread. The point is I don't listen and trust the authority and I was spanked as a child.
I'm good with children. I've babysat, been a daycare worker and helped raise my little brother. I've had children get frustrated many times. They need time to think straight, but telling them that won't help. Never tell an angry person the truth. You need to say whatever necessary to get them to chill. It often involves lying. when they come out of the cloud of anger they'll realize what you did and be in a mindset to reckon with. Spanking was derived from the anger of the caretaker, and you cannot fight anger with anger. It's like drinking to get rid of a hangover. I understand it isn't done with anger often any more, but that's where it came from.
-Steve

Here is one major problem: some parents may wish to maintain a calm, nonviolent household.

Then, the child goes to school, and has to deal with overly-aggressive children from violent households.

In some cases, the children will bring some of the bad attitudes, learned from aggressive children in school, home with them.

It can take quite a lot of effort to end a cycle of violence.

Some parts of the country are more violent towards children than others.

Another factor that feeds into the problem is the nation's poor diet, which emphasizes sugars and cheap carbohydrates, which damage both body and mind. We have an epidemic of both obesity and violence, fueled in part by high-fructose corn syrup.

Just wait until the hormones start to take over, some five years later.

Sometimes, all that is needed is a big hug, or possibly a severe tickling. But, alas, these measures also lose their effectiveness by the age of 14.

I was spanked infrequently as a child. It doesn't work as discipline any better than non-violent methods, imo. Spanking with a hand is mostly harmless, but using belts etc, are potentially damaging. If I had kids, I wouldn't spank because there are better ways.

Spanking for adults is highly commended, however.

Christian discipline?

Hey, I was a teenager once. I know how this works.

Sure, hormones are initially a bump in the road. But there are any number of bumps in the road prior to. As a parent you handle it same as anything else. If the playing field changes due to the natural course of development, it's just a matter of monitoring the behavior and adjusting the methods. Nobody ever said this was easy.

Personally, I would say you're a prime candidate for someone who should NOT spank children. I'm not sure you could handle the temptation!

I'm not opposed to paddling in high school, which seems to be your particular area of interest...I just don't much see the point.

If you know any college cheerleaders in need of a spanking, then just send them my way.

Certainly high school girls have cute bottoms, and the southern principals who love to swing a paddle, and the cute little southern belles themselves, all seem to be into it. But, it seems to be too much of an abuse of authority. I certainly wouldn't want to lay a finger on anyone younger than that.

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Your posts always cheer me up.

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Nah...violence is good.

Personally, I believe cutting off a toe is most effective.

I bet you're ironizing the situation.

Nah, I don't like to wait until either I or my partner have done something wrong.

Plus, I don't want to think about a deity getting off on watching...

^ Nah, God and I had an abusive relationship in the past. Don't want him around.

How did you guess?

I know that as a kid I always wished my parents would spank me as opposed to grounding me, because spanking was only a few seconds whereas grounding was days, or even weeks on end and childhood is fleeting.

Plus, parents are more hesitant to spank. I can only remember two times I got spanked: once for lying and once for kicking my dad in the crotch. Both times I deserved to be punished. However, my parents would ground me just for the sake of grounding me. (They have since told me that a: they knew I didn't do anything to deserve to be grounded and b: they feel no guilt about what they did and will never, ever apologize.)When I first say Butter's parents on southpark I didn't get the joke right away because I thought that was normal parent behavior.

However, I guess grounding is a more effective punishment since it's worse, and not all parents would take my parent's approach to it. Plus, living with parents who spank for no reason would be pretty scary.