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14 Oct 2013, 8:42 am

Well, this is total speculation, but the nature of the comment suggests that the woman is trying to take on a male role in the relationship. Perhaps its a struggle for dominance. I still need more information.



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14 Oct 2013, 8:44 am

What the hell is an "male role in the relationship"? I dont think, she might have told him to bear children, while she goes out marking trees. :lol:



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14 Oct 2013, 8:56 am

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Not sure really . . . but it seems that the guy is feeling threatened by something she is doing.



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14 Oct 2013, 8:59 am

We would need more info to say for sure. I'd assume it's the guy being sexist and angry about my not fitting into stereotypical gender roles but it could be something else. We don't know why they are saying that.



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14 Oct 2013, 9:01 am

Ann2011 wrote:
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Not sure really . . . but it seems that the guy is feeling threatened by something she is doing.


A guy who feels threatened? Who does he think he is, a woman? Doesnt he know, that according to prejudices, as a man he always must be grunting and is not allowed to feel afraid and threatened? He definitly needs to realize, that he is no woman and so is not allowed to feel threatened. :lmao:



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14 Oct 2013, 9:39 am

^^Yes,he need to "man up."


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14 Oct 2013, 9:44 am

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" you think that you're a man but you need to realize you aren't!"


Me: I guess that makes two of us.


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14 Oct 2013, 1:49 pm

But he is a man. You're a woman.



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14 Oct 2013, 3:23 pm

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But he is a man.


Not if he's saying dumb crap like that.


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14 Oct 2013, 4:34 pm

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Not if he's saying dumb crap like that.


So if a woman told a man " you think you're a woman but you need to realize you aren't !"

That would turn her into a man?



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14 Oct 2013, 4:54 pm

lost561 wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:

Not if he's saying dumb crap like that.


So if a woman told a man " you think you're a woman but you need to realize you aren't !"

That would turn her into a man?


No.

But it would (IMHO) be a very immature thing to say; therefore, she would be best classified as a "girl," as opposed to a "woman."


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14 Oct 2013, 7:14 pm

Ann2011 wrote:
Well, this is total speculation, but the nature of the comment suggests that the woman is trying to take on a male role in the relationship. Perhaps its a struggle for dominance. I still need more information.

If he thinks that a relationship is a struggle for dominance, he has more problems than a little disagreement.



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15 Oct 2013, 9:37 am

LKL wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
Well, this is total speculation, but the nature of the comment suggests that the woman is trying to take on a male role in the relationship. Perhaps its a struggle for dominance. I still need more information.

If he thinks that a relationship is a struggle for dominance, he has more problems than a little disagreement.

At the very least, he lacks the emotional maturity for a relationship.......



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15 Oct 2013, 11:36 am

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In most contexts, the statement would be misogynistic.
I suppose there are a few instances in which it would be less offensive, such as exhorting a woman to stop trying to lift heavy things because she keeps hurting herself. Or maybe asking her to stop jogging alone at night through bad neighborhoods. In these contexts the statement expresses concern for her safety and well-being, though to be honest it still comes across rather poorly.


Yes, context is everything. My reaction would depend entirely on what I was doing that prompted him to say that I thought I was a man.

Was I using a multi-stall+urinal public men's bathroom while men were also using it? Then he has a point.

Was I jogging through a city park after dark? Then he has a point (although I wouldn't advise a man to do that either).

Was I attempting to be a sperm donor and wasting everybody's time at the fertility clinic? Then he has a point.

Was I applying for a job that I am qualified for but that has traditionally been held by men (such as electrician)? Then he doesn't have a point and I would be angry.

And so on. It depends entirely on what prompted his statement.