Why is sex crime so special?

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De-stigmatising things is usually a bad idea.

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I'm letting this stand for now, but, be warned, I'm watching it very closely.

Thanks.

OP the issue here is that you have an ASD and are therefore looking at this issue without an emotional perspective. Yes, I quite agree that on the face of it getting bashed up, feeling completely helpless and vulnerable during the ordeal, might, to some, seem at least as bad as getting raped, after all you are being violated and are in fear of your life! Quite clearly though there is more to it, otherwise the majority of victims of sexual abuse would not be affected in the way they are.

For whatever reason the sexual organs are regarded as the most private and intimate parts of a persons body (private parts and intimate parts are after all very common euphemisms for our sexual organs), the accidental revealing, let alone the forced abuse of them, causes extraordinary embarrassment.

One thing we do well as a race is to define and refine our morals, in many societies it was once an offence for a woman to "refuse" her husband and the concept of spousal rape would have raised howls of laughter. That this behaviour was once deemed acceptable does not mean it had no effect upon those who were forced to subserviently offer up their bodies, if nothing else the fact that most, if not all, western countries regard spousal rape as a punishable offence is evidence that any form of rape be it spousal or otherwise leads to a great deal of emotional trauma.

I agree that there are other forms of abuse which are still somewhat acceptable, or go largely unpunished (bullying is my pet hate), But this should not serve as a reason to lessen the emphasis on sexual abuse, rather we should take note of the changes we have made in this area and apply them elsewhere as well

I am still having trouble figuring out what in hell the OP is on about. OP, I'm a professional writer and editor, and you're being clear as mud. You've got "why are sex crimes different from any other violent crimes", which only betrays a thorough lack of understanding of emotions surrounding sex; a weird bit about reporting, which shows a complete lack of understanding of social reasons why people do not report sexual assaults; and then something unintelligible about women having some fictional lock on how we deal with sex crimes.

You're going to have to be clearer and more straightforward. You're getting this response to your posts because nobody can make out what you mean. Try using concrete examples.

Many thanks for some considered replies - I had expected more of the 'if you don't agree with me, then you must be a pervert' sort of response.

I think that sexual behaviour, like sexuality itself, covers a wide spectrum (just like Autism does...).

At one end, there is simple flirting and shagging, and at the other end there is assault and rape.

But in between there is an enormous variety of normal behaviour, and there is no universally accepted understanding of where the danger zone begins - I would go further and say that many people (men and women alike) get sexual satisfaction from pushing themselves to some kind of imaginary limit. The problems arise when the parties involved do not recognise the same limit.

Sex is a very confusing part of the move away from purely animal behaviour, and the rules of civilisation have not yet come up with a solution.

Some years ago, I found myself alone with a lady who was seriously into pain. She told me to hit her as hard as possible, and that she would say 'Orange' when she had had enough. How weird is that?

Unfortunately, I was unable to satisfy her needs, and she accused me of being a wimp...

Oh, I probably misunderstood.