I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian family. It took a lot of un-brain washing for me to have anything resembling a sane point of view about sex. In the Bible, it isn't sex or sexuality that is considered sinful. It is sex outside of heterosexual marriage that is considered bad. Not everyone is able to make this distinction in their heads. That is where the aversion to sex comes from, in my opinion. Also, modern culture throws up a lot of roadblocks for people who wish to practice traditional, Church-sanctioned sexuality. You hit puberty in your early teens and how long is it before you are in a position to get married? I'm in my early 30's and still am not in a position to seriously think about getting married. Most people do what nature tells them to do whether they are married or not. They have sex during the time in their lives when their sex drive is the highest. I honestly don't know how some people live according to Christian sex teachings, given the fact that those teachings are in such conflict with modern culture. I guess they get married early (like when they are 17 or 18).
Anyway, the point I am trying to make is that all the anxiety about sex among Christians is because it is so difficult to follow the rules set out by the church about sex. Your body tells you to procreate. The rules say, "only have sex with your spouse who has to be someone of the opposite sex." You get all neurotic about it because you don't want to break the rules...and possibly be punished for breaking those rules, whether that be shunning by your family or church community or eternal suffering in Hell.
09 Apr 2015, 9:18 pm
