I was in the process of typing what Fnord pointed out in his post. Evidence must convict Josh first and if that can't happen, for whatever reason, and blame the Duggar clan if you like, then he cannot be prosecuted.
While that cannot occur at the moment, we can still think about this Duggar situation and what Josh says about the married state through his actions, which I think the two are related. This is someone who has been denied his own identity his entire life and this is how he handles the denial. It is difficult for most people to fathom how much repressing occurs in families like the Duggars. They are never allowed to be selfish. They are rebuked for that. Everyone has some selfish component to them. The oldest sibling in such a family would be pressured non stop. It would be worse than the younger ones because they would have to set the example, and always give up their own wants and needs on behalf of the larger picture, in this case, the younger siblings. They are the ones who are likely to receive the least amount of nurturing and are often required to become nurturers themselves from an early age without ever experiencing much of it themselves. All of it is out of their control as well. They do not have a voice about whether it's a good idea for mom to have another baby. That is top priority, not the needs of the ones who are already here. So, if Josh is feeling burdened and neglected he cannot dare say one word of dissent without dire retribution from everyone else. Viola, you see these subconscious mechanisms appear and he still has them. He is a very unhappy individual. I have read what has been posted about him on Duggars Without Pity. Many people sense this energy from him and get creepy vibes. So much negativity about him way before any of these scandals surfaced. So foreboding! I remember reading such posts thinking it's so weird, so many people cannot stand Josh. I didn't have much of an opinion about him back then. I thought he was meh, and was lukewarm toward him but Anna did seem like a very happy, sunny, enthusiastic person to me. The intense negativity and cynicism toward Josh alone mystified me. There were numerous entities who could not stand Josh but praised Anna to the skies, while a lot of times, it's opposite. They praise the man, insult the woman. So Josh must have been emitting some powerfully negative vibes and people were picking up on them, even through their television sets. All this translated into several negative posts about Josh Duggar on any given day.
"Serve God first, others second, yourself last" is the Duggar's self proclaimed creed.
What does all this say about marriage in general? I pondered this question last night. I thought about Hillary Clinton, the cuckolded wife, and how she is still with Bill even though he, like Josh, clearly was miserable in the married state, no doubt due to intense scrutiny and pressure. "Kiss your political career goodbye if you ever get a divorce!" Their shelf life would have instantly expired under such circumstances so, also like Josh due to religion and scrutiny, divorce simply isn't an option for politicians who must seek election. Society is very intolerant and unforgiving even though there's mounds of evidence married people aren't happy and might actually enjoy life more if they were allowed to be single without being judged so harshly, even insinuations about their mental state only because they don't wish to be married. It's the greatest sin you can have, unmarried at the age of 30!
Single people are stigmatized : labeled insane, defective, dysfunctional, immature. We are simply not whole and cannot be trusted. We are only allowed half value in the eyes of society, even by people who are cheating on their spouses, are bound by a loveless marriage. These are the ones most likely to be harshest toward single people and might actually hate the living daylights out of us because, in their innermost souls, they crave being the same way but know they cannot due to the kinds of programming they fell victim to, or their careers would be put in jeopardy and it's not worth the risk to them.
Single life, far from being an indication of insanity, could actually be one of a healthier state of mind! We could be the ones who are truly sane while the unsane attempt to convince us otherwise. We are healthy enough to accept how we can not be depressed and are willing to embrace our lack of misery. Once you get a taste of your true self and the peace and happiness it brings, you will never want to go back to what made you feel hopeless and suicidal. It will open your eyes to a level of existing you always craved but were never allowed where you just feel contented and peaceful all the time. The void that must be forever filled with all kinds of destructive impulses closes.
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