To what extent are you responsible for other's feelings?

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I feel, for the most part, that people are responsible for their own feelings.

If somebody expresses displeasure with what I do, or say, I would listen to what the person has to say on the issue.

If somebody says they hate it when I wear green shirts, I would continue to wear green shirts.

If somebody says that I need an antiperspirant, I would put one on as soon as possible.

If somebody says that I'm talking too loud, I'd lower my voice.

If somebody says they hate it that I'm Jewish, I'd just ignore it.

I think we are not responsible for how others' make us feel, BUT, we are responsible for how we handle our feelings.

For example, if someone calls me a fool. They bear the responsibility of having said something hurtful. BUT, I am responsible for how I handle the feeling of hurt.

The late, the great:

Thanks everybody for the replies.

Yes this is an open question. For instance there are various types of responsibility: Legal, Individual, Group, possibly there emotional sense of responsibility.

The question is "to what extent?" it is not simply a question of if responsibility is there or not.

So a situations might reflect the extent sure, but to what extent are each of these situational examples?

You did a good job of answering nonetheless.

Moral ambiguity or uncertainty, or relativism is something many people find hard to deal with, however all the more reason to ask these questions.

Are you having a hard time dealing with a moral question. If so, specifics please.

Most people don't even care about that either. Like if you walk into Dave & Busters, no one is going to stop talking, turn down the volume of the games and TVs to make it quieter and less over stimulating for you and even turn off the lights from the games and turning off the flashing lights. So that would mean you either don't go there or you find a way to deal with the noise. I have anxiety and I have dealt with no one giving a damn and it didn't matter how stressful it was for me and my parents went ahead and let my brothers have parties. I also had OCD about having a clean home and my family just lived their way and didn't care how much distress it gave me because they didn't want to pick up after themselves because I wanted the home to look like a parade of homes.

Nope. I would have posted in Haven, if it was a personal issue.

This is an academic question.

Yeah. A lot of the time people are not very understanding of autism spectrum disorders.

Are you understanding about them? Can they be held responsible?

Well, people should try to accommodate the needs of people with autism.

Sure my point was on awareness. If we expect people to be more aware of us, we should also try to be more aware of them and accomdate them. Maybe they lack some responsibility, maybe they can't help it

However I don't actually think we are all same anyway.

It is really possible to accommodate everybody 100% of the time? What if you need to accommodate two groups with diametrically opposing requirements. How is that supposed to work?

What responsibility do we have to improve ourselves, either through adaption conditioning or by any means possible to try address the way we feel?

As opposed to other people being the problem, given they have deal with their emotions too?

We don't HAVE to improve ourselves. It's not obligatory.

But I feel that we SHOULD.

Emotional regulation is an individual responsibility, a habit to develop.
People seem to have varying standards about this aspect of personal integrity though, based on the emotion they have at the decision making moment.
What's the moral/ethical reaction when confronted by another's lack of emotional accountability on an ongoing basis Consider mitigating factors? Turn the other cheek? Maintain personal integrity? Devalue the significance of emotions? I dunno.

while cutting other people some slack due to the inequality of the ability to transcend their limitations.