Something that really puts things in perspective for me is an idea I first came across via Alan Watts. He makes the point that many things have opposites that they cannot exist without. For example, in order for there to be a "something" there needs to be a "nothing" that it exists in. In order for there to be something that humans recognize as good there needs to be something that we recognize as evil to contrast with it. The important thing about evil, then, is that it can show you good. If you see something bad, you may be inspired to do something to stop it - which would be good. If an earthquake happens it may inspire you to build earthquake-proof buildings, preventing loss of life in the future. I don't know if that helps anyone at all - I tend to have kind of an "out-there" philosophical/religious bent.
<i>You know, Jesus did say in Matthew that he did not come to bring peace, but a sword, and would turn brother against brother, son against father, husband against wife, and so on. You do have a point to why would Jesus use such violent force to get people to follow him.</i>
Maybe you could point me to where Jesus used violent force to make people follow him? Because I haven't seen any examples. When Judas betrayed him and the temple guards came to have him crucified Peter attempted to fight them and Jesus stopped him and healed the guard that Peter assaulted. The verse you cited is Matthew 10:34, and I think it's quite an interesting verse. Luke 12:51 is also relevant: "Suppose ye that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, Nay; but rather division: For from henceforth there shall be five in one house divided, three against two, and two against three. The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law." And here's Matthew 10:37, "He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." I think the point of this is that Jesus doesn't just appear and the world turns magically utopian - the beliefs he teaches are important, and holding them may induce conflict (represented by the sword) - even with your family members, but that the message he's teaching is important enough to hold onto even if it causes divisions and conflict. I think considered in the context of the rest of his message it has minimal importance, and considering the actions of him and the disciples (giving themselves over to death) shouldn't be seen as a call for violence.
Romans 3-4 (someone was wondering if this was from the Bible): "Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope."
And I'll second the KJV and NKJV sucking - a lot. Personally, my favorite is the NASV, it's a more literal and current translation that's sometimes harder to read but I think more accurately represents the original message.