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02 Feb 2013, 5:49 pm

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what definition would that be? clearly women still mean "sexually predatory" when they say creep. just look at how many are arguing in favor of using it based on the idea that using it ensures their safety.


It doesn't though - depending on the circumstances, it could make things worse (make them more in danger). It could also, in other circumstances, lead to men being harmed by other men.



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02 Feb 2013, 5:49 pm

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Here are some tidbits from The Handbook of Psychopathy. (I'd link to the original articles, but pay-walls are everywhere :evil:).

- Between 12.1 and 40 percent of incarcerated rapists meek the diagnostic criteria for psychopathy
- 30 percent of male incarcerated psychopaths had committed an offensive of rape, buggery or indecent assault compared to 13 percent of generic male prisoners.

These are of course different samples (and much of the literature on psychopathy is based on the US), but the data nonetheless suggests that there is a very strong link between psychopathy and rape.

Oh, and psychopaths are *not* likely to come across as creepy, as they usually possess superior charm and social skills (in fact, being superficially charming is part of the diagnostic criteria for being a psychopath).

So between 60 and 87.9% of incarcerated rapists - *most* of them - do NOT fit the diagnostic criteria for psychopathy.

When a certain subset of the human population - psychopaths - has a much higher prevalence in certain subset of criminals - rapists - by a factor of 12-40 compared to the general population... well... then it might be wise to pay more attention to this particular subset than the vague "creep" category...


That's besides the point. Saying that psychopaths are more likely than the general population to fall into that group is not the same thing as saying that most people in that group are psychopaths.


I never made that claim. I made the claim that 12.1 - 40 percent of incarcerated rapists are psychopaths. One needs 50+ percent to make the "most" claim.

However, it is not "beside the point". Learning to avoid psychopaths is likely to be an effective strategy at reducing the risk of sexual assault.

Your own numbers do not back up that statement. Most rapists are not psychopaths, so focusing on avoiding psychopaths will not protect you from most rapists.

@ AP: most young women are not opposed to having sex with a man that they find attractive, too. What comes across as 'creepy,' to me, is this idea that sex is something that men do *to* women, rather than *with* them, and that it inherently degrades the woman in the process.



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02 Feb 2013, 5:54 pm

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i already outlined a few examples of terms that are used instead of "creepy" now.


If it's a specific circumstance, and the chap does deserve that label, I don't see a problem with it. In fact, in that instance, I'd probably want to know who the man was myself and check him out personally.

If you're just calling random men that because they're ugly and/or socially awkward (and they haven't actually emoted, or said, or done anything), I'd tend to wonder what the problem with the woman was.



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02 Feb 2013, 6:00 pm

LKL wrote:
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Here are some tidbits from The Handbook of Psychopathy. (I'd link to the original articles, but pay-walls are everywhere :evil:).

- Between 12.1 and 40 percent of incarcerated rapists meek the diagnostic criteria for psychopathy
- 30 percent of male incarcerated psychopaths had committed an offensive of rape, buggery or indecent assault compared to 13 percent of generic male prisoners.

These are of course different samples (and much of the literature on psychopathy is based on the US), but the data nonetheless suggests that there is a very strong link between psychopathy and rape.

Oh, and psychopaths are *not* likely to come across as creepy, as they usually possess superior charm and social skills (in fact, being superficially charming is part of the diagnostic criteria for being a psychopath).

So between 60 and 87.9% of incarcerated rapists - *most* of them - do NOT fit the diagnostic criteria for psychopathy.

When a certain subset of the human population - psychopaths - has a much higher prevalence in certain subset of criminals - rapists - by a factor of 12-40 compared to the general population... well... then it might be wise to pay more attention to this particular subset than the vague "creep" category...


That's besides the point. Saying that psychopaths are more likely than the general population to fall into that group is not the same thing as saying that most people in that group are psychopaths.


I never made that claim. I made the claim that 12.1 - 40 percent of incarcerated rapists are psychopaths. One needs 50+ percent to make the "most" claim.

However, it is not "beside the point". Learning to avoid psychopaths is likely to be an effective strategy at reducing the risk of sexual assault.

Your own numbers do not back up that statement. Most rapists are not psychopaths, so focusing on avoiding psychopaths will not protect you from most rapists.

And cigarettes don't cause most cancers...

If one has at her or his disposal a variable which has a well-documented correlation with rape, should it be discarded simply because it has a Pearson correlation of less than 0.707106781?



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02 Feb 2013, 6:01 pm

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i already outlined a few examples of terms that are used instead of "creepy" now.


If it's a specific circumstance, and the chap does deserve that label, I don't see a problem with it. In fact, in that instance, I'd probably want to know who the man was myself and check him out personally.

If you're just calling random men that because they're ugly and/or socially awkward (and they haven't actually emoted, or said, or done anything), I'd tend to wonder what the problem with the woman was.

yeah, i get what you mean. for me, i wouldn't want to dissuade anyone from taking any action that made them feel safer, but i also think labels don't exactly help matters.


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02 Feb 2013, 6:18 pm

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@ AP: most young women are not opposed to having sex with a man that they find attractive, too.


"Not opposed" doesn't come across as wholeheartedly enthusiastic. I'm not opposed to eating green beans once in a while. Most young women are similarly not opposed to having coitus with a man whom they find attractive.

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What comes across as 'creepy,' to me, is this idea that sex is something that men do *to* women, rather than *with* them, and that it inherently degrades the woman in the process.


Seems like you're splitting hairs. If the process of sex inherently degrades women, then of course women would consider sex to be creepy, and, by extension, men who want sex with women.



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02 Feb 2013, 6:21 pm

GGPViper wrote:
LKL wrote:
GGPViper wrote:
Jono wrote:
GGPViper wrote:
LKL wrote:
GGPViper wrote:
Here are some tidbits from The Handbook of Psychopathy. (I'd link to the original articles, but pay-walls are everywhere :evil:).

- Between 12.1 and 40 percent of incarcerated rapists meek the diagnostic criteria for psychopathy
- 30 percent of male incarcerated psychopaths had committed an offensive of rape, buggery or indecent assault compared to 13 percent of generic male prisoners.

These are of course different samples (and much of the literature on psychopathy is based on the US), but the data nonetheless suggests that there is a very strong link between psychopathy and rape.

Oh, and psychopaths are *not* likely to come across as creepy, as they usually possess superior charm and social skills (in fact, being superficially charming is part of the diagnostic criteria for being a psychopath).

So between 60 and 87.9% of incarcerated rapists - *most* of them - do NOT fit the diagnostic criteria for psychopathy.

When a certain subset of the human population - psychopaths - has a much higher prevalence in certain subset of criminals - rapists - by a factor of 12-40 compared to the general population... well... then it might be wise to pay more attention to this particular subset than the vague "creep" category...


That's besides the point. Saying that psychopaths are more likely than the general population to fall into that group is not the same thing as saying that most people in that group are psychopaths.


I never made that claim. I made the claim that 12.1 - 40 percent of incarcerated rapists are psychopaths. One needs 50+ percent to make the "most" claim.

However, it is not "beside the point". Learning to avoid psychopaths is likely to be an effective strategy at reducing the risk of sexual assault.

Your own numbers do not back up that statement. Most rapists are not psychopaths, so focusing on avoiding psychopaths will not protect you from most rapists.

And cigarettes don't cause most cancers...

If one has at her or his disposal a variable which has a well-documented correlation with rape, should it be discarded simply because it has a Pearson correlation of less than 0.707106781?

The two are not mutually exclusive. You seem to be advocating the equivalent of avoiding cigarettes but hanging out downwind of Dai-ichi and pretending that there's nothing wrong.



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02 Feb 2013, 6:26 pm

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Lexi, where are these magical, wonderful people that you know, because all I see around here is, one person calls someone a creep, and everyone in that person's network, as well as the "creep's" network takes it at face value and shuns the person. They don't have to do anything creepy. It could be like Tequila described, where somebody just didn't like the person's look, or their color or religion. And they'd STILL take the insult at face value. "Well if Susie says that guy's a creep, he must be a creep!"


Exactly. And I'm definitely not saying that some people don't wholeheartedly deserve that label. There are people who are quite sexually aggressive (under a thin veil of 'banter') and I could fully understand that such a term being given to them is justified. They make my skin crawl and I'm glad when I'm out of their company, because their 'jokes' aren't funny at all, they're just predatory.

But what about for those men for whom it isn't justified? What if a vicious woman labels a man 'creepy' because she doesn't like the look of him, or, worse, wants to make fun of him? How would you feel if a man did a similar shaming thing to a woman?

That's the problem with a lot of the female posters on this thread - they're partisan.

....and many of the male posters are equally partisan. not sure why you'd exempt them from that comment.

by the way, men do shame women like that all the time. i've been called a b***h for not wanting to talk to a man who was trying to chat me up. he was quite pushy. i guess i could have called him creepy before he had a chance to label me, but i don't roll like that. :shrug:


I wasn't making the point that men don't shame women. I was making the point that it's pretty messed up when non-creeps get labeled as creeps. Whether it's a man or a woman. I don't doubt that men shame women a lot; I've personally witnessed this happen a lot. But it's funny that most of the time I see the "C" word get thrown around, instead of it being thrown at the men who are actually shaming women, and hurting them, and thinking of them as objects, it's thrown on unattractive nerdy guys who happen to be doing something innocuous, or just came up to say hi. I've had this happen a lot to me. Because of that I've just learned to avoid most people.

It wouldn't be that much of a problem if "creep" wasn't such a powerful word. If a woman shouts "creep!" a whole bunch of people are gonna come to her aid, and the sap that got called the word will have his **** utterly destroyed, for lack of a better term. Again, this is awesome if it's a guy who actually does something creepy, like making unwarranted sexual comments and advances, or intentionally violating someone's space. But from my experience, it's not used that way a lot.

People need to stop bastardizing words like this and "nice" and get them back to what they really mean and should be used for.


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02 Feb 2013, 6:35 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:
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Lexi, where are these magical, wonderful people that you know, because all I see around here is, one person calls someone a creep, and everyone in that person's network, as well as the "creep's" network takes it at face value and shuns the person. They don't have to do anything creepy. It could be like Tequila described, where somebody just didn't like the person's look, or their color or religion. And they'd STILL take the insult at face value. "Well if Susie says that guy's a creep, he must be a creep!"


Exactly. And I'm definitely not saying that some people don't wholeheartedly deserve that label. There are people who are quite sexually aggressive (under a thin veil of 'banter') and I could fully understand that such a term being given to them is justified. They make my skin crawl and I'm glad when I'm out of their company, because their 'jokes' aren't funny at all, they're just predatory.

But what about for those men for whom it isn't justified? What if a vicious woman labels a man 'creepy' because she doesn't like the look of him, or, worse, wants to make fun of him? How would you feel if a man did a similar shaming thing to a woman?

That's the problem with a lot of the female posters on this thread - they're partisan.

....and many of the male posters are equally partisan. not sure why you'd exempt them from that comment.

by the way, men do shame women like that all the time. i've been called a b***h for not wanting to talk to a man who was trying to chat me up. he was quite pushy. i guess i could have called him creepy before he had a chance to label me, but i don't roll like that. :shrug:


I wasn't making the point that men don't shame women. I was making the point that it's pretty messed up when non-creeps get labeled as creeps. Whether it's a man or a woman. I don't doubt that men shame women a lot; I've personally witnessed this happen a lot. But it's funny that most of the time I see the "C" word get thrown around, instead of it being thrown at the men who are actually shaming women, and hurting them, and thinking of them as objects, it's thrown on unattractive nerdy guys who happen to be doing something innocuous, or just came up to say hi. I've had this happen a lot to me. Because of that I've just learned to avoid most people.

It wouldn't be that much of a problem if "creep" wasn't such a powerful word. If a woman shouts "creep!" a whole bunch of people are gonna come to her aid, and the sap that got called the word will have his **** utterly destroyed, for lack of a better term. Again, this is awesome if it's a guy who actually does something creepy, like making unwarranted sexual comments and advances, or intentionally violating someone's space. But from my experience, it's not used that way a lot.

People need to stop bastardizing words like this and "nice" and get them back to what they really mean and should be used for.

yeah i wasn't disagreeing with your original comment necessarily. i am sort of in the middle about this. i just didn't like the direction the following comment went in, as though women don't get exactly the same treatment in some social situations. shaming is a powerful tool that isn't used by only one gender.


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02 Feb 2013, 6:36 pm

Wow, fast-moving thread.

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@ AP: most young women are not opposed to having sex with a man that they find attractive, too.


"Not opposed" doesn't come across as wholeheartedly enthusiastic. I'm not opposed to eating green beans once in a while. Most young women are similarly not opposed to having coitus with a man whom they find attractive.

Ok, I will rephrase: a lot of women are enthusiastic about having sex with men that they find attractive. A lot of young women go out on a semi-regular basis in the hope of finding an attractive man whom they don't think will rape and/or murder her if she goes home for mutually pleasurable sex with him. Hook-up sites would consist of nothing but men and their own hands if this were not the case.

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What comes across as 'creepy,' to me, is this idea that sex is something that men do *to* women, rather than *with* them, and that it inherently degrades the woman in the process.


Seems like you're splitting hairs. If the process of sex inherently degrades women, then of course women would consider sex to be creepy, and, by extension, men who want sex with women.

You're missing the point. Sex is NOT inherently degrading to women, and when men recognize this, their proposal feels something like, 'hey, let's go somewhere private and engage in a mutually pleasurable activity together.' When men see sex as degrading to women, the proposal feels more like, 'I want you to let me take you somewhere private where I will do something that violates and degrades you, and if you enjoy it, it just means that you're inherently filthy as well as being made dirty by what I do to you.' The latter men don't make much of a distinction between consensual sex and rape, because by their view of sex, it's ALL bad for the woman.



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02 Feb 2013, 6:42 pm

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Your own numbers do not back up that statement. Most rapists are not psychopaths, so focusing on avoiding psychopaths will not protect you from most rapists.

And cigarettes don't cause most cancers...

If one has at her or his disposal a variable which has a well-documented correlation with rape, should it be discarded simply because it has a Pearson correlation of less than 0.707106781?

The two are not mutually exclusive. You seem to be advocating the equivalent of avoiding cigarettes but hanging out downwind of Dai-ichi and pretending that there's nothing wrong.

What is the problem? I am drawing attention to very specific and well researched (published in top tier journals like Science, Nature and PNAS) psychopathic traits that are vastly more predictive of sexual assault than loose terms like "creepy". The latter might even cause individuals to focus on false predictors of sexual assault.

I'm really puzzled why this is controversial at all...



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02 Feb 2013, 6:47 pm

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Your own numbers do not back up that statement. Most rapists are not psychopaths, so focusing on avoiding psychopaths will not protect you from most rapists.

And cigarettes don't cause most cancers...

If one has at her or his disposal a variable which has a well-documented correlation with rape, should it be discarded simply because it has a Pearson correlation of less than 0.707106781?

The two are not mutually exclusive. You seem to be advocating the equivalent of avoiding cigarettes but hanging out downwind of Dai-ichi and pretending that there's nothing wrong.

What is the problem? I am drawing attention to very specific and well researched (published in top tier journals like Science, Nature and PNAS) psychopathic traits that are vastly more predictive of sexual assault than loose terms like "creepy". The latter might even cause individuals to focus on false predictors of sexual assault.

I'm really puzzled why this is controversial at all...

I'm not saying that the term 'creepy' is predictive of rapists, any more than the term 'toxic' is predictive of mutagenic chemicals. I'm saying that, correctly used, the term applies to behaviors that are indicative of someone who does not see a woman as a whole human being with human rights.



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02 Feb 2013, 6:53 pm

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Ok, I will rephrase: a lot of women are enthusiastic about having sex with men that they find attractive. A lot of young women go out on a semi-regular basis in the hope of finding an attractive man whom they don't think will rape and/or murder her if she goes home for mutually pleasurable sex with him. Hook-up sites would consist of nothing but men and their own hands if this were not the case.


Really? How enthusiastic are they?

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You're missing the point. Sex is NOT inherently degrading to women, and when men recognize this, their proposal feels something like, 'hey, let's go somewhere private and engage in a mutually pleasurable activity together.'


That sounds like it would be a great pickup line. If she backs out, then you could always claim that you really were talking about playing chess together. Plausible deniability is always important.

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When men see sex as degrading to women, the proposal feels more like, 'I want you to let me take you somewhere private where I will do something that violates and degrades you, and if you enjoy it, it just means that you're inherently filthy as well as being made dirty by what I do to you.' The latter men don't make much of a distinction between consensual sex and rape, because by their view of sex, it's ALL bad for the woman.


When have you heard a man using this line?



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02 Feb 2013, 6:59 pm

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I'm not saying that the term 'creepy' is predictive of rapists, any more than the term 'toxic' is predictive of mutagenic chemicals. I'm saying that, correctly used, the term applies to behaviors that are indicative of someone who does not see a woman as a whole human being with human rights.

Sorry, but I only entered this thread on page 9 in response to a request for data on antisocial tendencies and sex crimes. IMO, creepy as defined as "Behaviours that are indicative of someone who does not see a woman as a whole human being with human rights" is a fluffy normative category, and thus beyond the scope of scientific inquiry.

Oh, and you don't have a monopoly on "correct" use of words.



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LKL wrote:
GGPViper wrote:
Jono wrote:
GGPViper wrote:
LKL wrote:
GGPViper wrote:
Here are some tidbits from The Handbook of Psychopathy. (I'd link to the original articles, but pay-walls are everywhere :evil:).

- Between 12.1 and 40 percent of incarcerated rapists meek the diagnostic criteria for psychopathy
- 30 percent of male incarcerated psychopaths had committed an offensive of rape, buggery or indecent assault compared to 13 percent of generic male prisoners.

These are of course different samples (and much of the literature on psychopathy is based on the US), but the data nonetheless suggests that there is a very strong link between psychopathy and rape.

Oh, and psychopaths are *not* likely to come across as creepy, as they usually possess superior charm and social skills (in fact, being superficially charming is part of the diagnostic criteria for being a psychopath).

So between 60 and 87.9% of incarcerated rapists - *most* of them - do NOT fit the diagnostic criteria for psychopathy.

When a certain subset of the human population - psychopaths - has a much higher prevalence in certain subset of criminals - rapists - by a factor of 12-40 compared to the general population... well... then it might be wise to pay more attention to this particular subset than the vague "creep" category...


That's besides the point. Saying that psychopaths are more likely than the general population to fall into that group is not the same thing as saying that most people in that group are psychopaths.


I never made that claim. I made the claim that 12.1 - 40 percent of incarcerated rapists are psychopaths. One needs 50+ percent to make the "most" claim.

However, it is not "beside the point". Learning to avoid psychopaths is likely to be an effective strategy at reducing the risk of sexual assault.

Your own numbers do not back up that statement. Most rapists are not psychopaths, so focusing on avoiding psychopaths will not protect you from most rapists.



GGPViper already said that the prevelance of ASPD is around 3 times higher than psychopathy according to the statistics he gave, and it's basically the same thing more or less. Ted Bundy was diagnosed with ASPD for example.



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02 Feb 2013, 7:07 pm

And some women just don't like being around creepy men because creepy men are creepy.

Doesn't matter whether or not they're "rapists."

I don't hang out with people I find creepy because I think creepy people are creepy. I don't need a better reason than that.


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