Nebogipfel wrote:
I think there's something to be said for the old stoic norms of manhood. Talking about negative experiences might help, but it might also anchor it in your brain so that it becomes more difficult to move past it.
Not really. Thinking negative thoughts to yourself is far more damaging than talking about them. Also, feeling bad isn't always due to some "problem" that has to be solved. People with that mindset on depression are extremely damaging. Depression needs to be thought of more like a physical illness. Sometimes it very much is! If you have depression you can feel down and unmotivated FOR NO REASON AT ALL. It can be 100% chemical! When you have it, everything is a heavy weight and a burden on you. The simplest things are mountains to climb. You just feel run-down, period. It isn't that there is some "problem" or "experience" to talk about. It's just a matter of needing positive encouragement instead of criticism. Nobody WANTS to be depressed. It is hell.
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For many males, it's a kind of trap, where the culture encourages them to talk about their feelings, and then when they do, they feel like they've lost self respect as well as the respect of the listener.
Except the culture doesn't encourage men to talk about certain feelings. Only certain things are permitted. Grieving over a lost family member is permitted. Talking about your own pain is not.