Spanking - abuse or effective

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If a child has done something wrong and has been warned that they will be spanked if they do it again, I don't see the problem with spanking, as long as we're talking moderately. I don't see why it would be worse for a spectrum child than anyone else.
It certainly shouldn't be used in stead of explaining things to the child and teach it values.

I was spanked once at 6 for that reason, and I didn't do it again. Actually I hadn't done it then either if it hadn't been for the fact that my father would use any excuse to avoid spending time with me. Not getting into the details.

I wasn't grounded because, as my mother said when I asked about it: "We couldn't send you to your room, that's where you wanted to be anyway!"
I was usually first explained things, then be scolded if I did it again. Unless I knew it was wrong, then it was right to scolding.

Maybe someone should spank AnnoyingPariah.

Seeing you two constantly bickering, you seem like the right person to do the job.

As for what I think about the topic, spanking is either useless or may even causes some deep psychological harm. There's really no benefit from spanking your children unless you want your children to be drones who don't have opinions of their own.

OK, you got the best out of me

Well, I did get my spanking. Someone must have tattled.

Anyway, as I see it, a home should be a place where everyone feels safe and protected.

If you're interested in harming children physically, then you probably shouldn't have children in the first place, and just focus on your career.

The world is already a stupid, f****d up place. It is better at least to try to make someone's childhood as loving and nurturing as possible.

Spanking a toddler is just stupid. Obviously they need to be watched every second, as they go about exploring their world, often with their mouths. Toddler-proofing a house, and addressing potential hazards, does take some effort.

Sometimes children have a bad day, or get cranky, especially if they are sleepy. They just need to be put to bed, and not beaten up.

You're a decent person, at heart.

That probably sounds like an accusation to you.

Spare the rod and spoil the child?

And, what is so terrible about that?

The spoiled adults they become.

So?

Oh, you ARE one I guess.

I did not get spanked as a toddler,my Dad was a PTSD vet who had served on Attu.
His remarks on spanking were that he was afraid to ever hurt another human being with his hands.Later on I did get whipped with a belt by another family member.I didn't learn anything but that I now hated them.
But my ex believed in it,and in some cases,maybe.My son claims he deserved every whupping he got,I don't know.But for sensitive kids,no,never.

Is the definition of "spoiled" simply someone who isn't getting beaten?

Same here; I don't remember getting a whuppin I didn't deserve. I thought verbal scoldings were quite humorous, especially if they were really pissed at me.
The only effective scoldings had to come with the sincere threat of or accompanied by pain in order to b effective on me.
I grew out of the need for whuppins eventually but that's debatable.
When I turned 14 the old man said I was big enough for "the fist". He had fists like bricks so I straightened out just enough to avoid that.


Yes, all eternal good springs from beatings.
Next.

Did he ever try hugging you?