"It's not normal"

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As a man I was once slammed for suggesting that. Anyway, it's possible that straight men often have a culturally-imposed aversion to same-sex intimacy so that only men who are unambivalently gay indulge in it, whereas the same thing simply doesn't affect women very much. I can see other cultural trends that encourage same-sex intimacy for women for reasons of gender solidarity and within feminism there is a tendency to admire lesbians. In addition, many women who would probably otherwise be heterosexual seem to feel sexually threatened by men either due to bad personal experience or knowledge of same on the part of other women. In particular, women who grew up with any sort of disability may have been actively encouraged to have such feelings by parents or caregivers. For a concrete example of this, consider the TV program "Born This Way" in which a woman with Down Syndrome plans to get married so her parents must confess to her they lied about potential ill effects from having sex with a man; as a way to make her safe from predators when she was younger. It should be no surprise that a woman in this situation would find herself in a lesbian relationship even though left on her own might she have preferred male companionship.