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13 Jan 2023, 3:36 am

^ You'd be surprised.
Women aren't nearly as solidary as some seem to expect us to be.
Just like any other demographics.


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13 Jan 2023, 3:44 am

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^ You'd be surprised.
Women aren't nearly as solidary as some seem to expect us to be.
Just like any other demographics.

I’d be very surprised.

That many references to women and not once including their self amongst women.. doesn’t seem realistic. At all.


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13 Jan 2023, 3:46 am

Addressing the subject title of this thread. Can't say it's an example of regret, but a sure example of consequence.

When an Abortion Destroys a Relationship

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Babies hurt me now. A month after the abortion, while I waited for my luggage at the baggage claim, three babies surrounded me, all under a year. Two are very small, less than six months. One is right next to me, leaning towards me in its carrier, looking straight into my eyes, his own eyes wide, blue, and unblinking. So close he can touch me. I cannot bear it, but I stay there because I think this is my punishment. When I get home, I unpack, and I cry.

I think there are two of me now, moving forward in parallel; my current self, and another me who is due to have a baby on January 23. She is still loved, and maybe she is happy. Or maybe not. But she is not alone.



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13 Jan 2023, 4:09 am

An abortion can destroy a relationship, yes, I believe it happens. Though the relationship described in this letter does not look like one worth saving.
But how many women have been left by the fathers of their children? I personally know a couple of examples where the man pushed for an abortion and when the woman decided not to have it, he left.


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13 Jan 2023, 4:11 am

I didn't imply it was an absolute or represented all situations. It depends.

Our society preaches the unwritten rule of our is a man can't tell a woman what to do with her body. Which is fair enough.

...But that rule doesn't mean the man is obligated to accept being left out of family decisions.

It's a very delicate subject.



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13 Jan 2023, 5:05 am

if only the forced birthers would admit that is what they are about and not dress it up in "respect for life" [considering that the majority of them are also in favor of the death penalty, that demonstrates a total LACK of respect for life*], i could at least respect their free expression of their opinions even as i held my nose.
* https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics ... ion-align/



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13 Jan 2023, 7:50 am

auntblabby wrote:
if only the forced birthers would admit that is what they are about and not dress it up in "respect for life" [considering that the majority of them are also in favor of the death penalty, that demonstrates a total LACK of respect for life*], i could at least respect their free expression of their opinions even as i held my nose.
* https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics ... ion-align/


Aborted children are innocent, those who deserve the death penalty are not.


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13 Jan 2023, 7:55 am

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Personal private choice between a patient and their Doctor. None of the government's, fox news', or religions' business.


Good old Roe vs Wade logic. I once described the stupidity of that ruling by saying it was akin to ruling that child and/or spousal murder is a personal private matter for families and no one else's business and therefore protected under the constitutional right to privacy. Now that is has been repealed I suppose I won't have many more chances.


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13 Jan 2023, 8:01 am

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Good old Roe vs Wade logic. I once described the stupidity of that ruling by saying it was akin to ruling that child and/or spousal murder is a personal private matter for families and no one else's business and therefore protected under the constitutional right to privacy. Now that is has been repealed I suppose I won't have many more chances.


Perfectly said. :)


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13 Jan 2023, 8:02 am

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Aborted children are innocent
They have no morality at all yet - they only exist at the expense of their mothers' bodies (just like entirely wanted babies-to-be-born do, btw).

Raising children, I often laugh at the idea of "innocent children". Children are to learn morality yet.


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13 Jan 2023, 8:12 am

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I happen to believe that there are justifications for having abortions that are consistent with a Christian worldview. Causing the death of another person while acting in a necessary way to preserve your own life is not a sin.


Hi, AngelRho. I like your username. What does it mean? :D

Self-defense, yes. We agree. But killing your baby is not self-defense.

If you are saying, as the Jews believe, that to kill the fetus to save the mother is biblically sound, then I disagree with that, and with the Jews who think that is okay. I have looked it up and I don't interpret any verses that way.

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The Bible makes no distinctions between threats that are intentional and threats that are unintentional. There's no difference between someone operating heavy machinery not looking where he's going and an armed robber.


I see where you are going with this. You are saying that a mother has just as much right to defend her body from a foreign enemy as an internal enemy, as if the baby is attacking her unintentionally, but causing her harm nonetheless.

The bible does say one has the right to kill to protect himself.

But you cannot equate a conceived baby in utero to a malicious attacker, or even a non-malicious attacker. 8O The baby is not attacking her, it is simply living and growing. An enemy attacker is meaning to do you harm, or take your stuff.

You all act as if pregnancy is this horrible event that is so bad for you and hurts your body. It is not! Pregnancy is beautiful and women are made to endure it well. Sure, they might complaint about it but pregnancy and labor and childrearing is part of women's curse. Just as man's curse it to work.

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And that principle extends to the unborn. The conditions are strictly that abortion is ONLY a medical, life-saving procedure, a last resort, and a decision that the woman is allowed to freely make (e.g. she can freely choose under no obligation to sacrifice her own life to save her baby). Given the state of medicine and medical technology, this is less and less the case.


When would a woman need to sacrifice her unborn baby to save herself? Give me some scenarios. Because I am a midwife and I can't think of any viable ones that are not extremely far-fetched.

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Where I've noticed people on WP seem to struggle is with objective objections to abortion. Many of us get hung up on the idea that the father of the child might have an interest in the baby being born. Also, the state has an interest in the right of babies to be born. The interest of all of individuals is in self-preservation and the right to live. We shouldn't fear being murdered. And in a free society, we all already have the freedom to do as we please with our own bodies. It's in telling others what they can/can't do where it becomes a problem.


I say let women kill their babies if they must. It is a sin, but I cannot control what a woman does in her own home or life.
HEAR YE, HEAR YE, I give women the right to do what they want with their own bodies :cheers:


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This is normally applied to the relationships between women's rights and patriarchy. But it also applies to the relationship between women's interests and the interests of the unborn.


If women are so concerned the patriarchy and we pro-lifers are going to get all up in her uterus, then she should know I'd like her to keep her uterus to herself. She is the one who does not want to keep her uterus to herself. She is the one who wants to forego privacy and hire a trained mercenary to assassinate her baby by inserting sharp instruments into her womb. Because [/b]she[/b] knows by herself she is truly left alone with her uterus and she hates that because she hates what her uterus produces. So it is a bald-faced lie that women and feminists tell themselves--and other gullible bystanders--that they don't want people to come between her and her vagina or reproductive 'care' or whatever the narrative is. She is too weak to carry out her threats of murder by herself and she knows it!

The whole abortion argument and narrative assumes the hiring of a third-party trained assassin!! ! ! ! Eliminate the assassin and give women the right to do whatever THEY want with THEIR bodies. And they will mostly continue the pregnancy (as they always have historically) and give the babies up for adoption or find another solution. Yes, they 'give up' a year of their life for another human being, but that is not a big deal in the scheme of life.


Just wanted to point out that I found it very peculiar for a user account claiming to be female, with a female gendered screen name, failed to include themselves even once when referencing females in their long winded religious fanaticism inspired misogynistic rant about reproductive rights.

And the one reference to the bible saying people have a right to kill to protect themselves doesn't say themselves, it says himself.

Makes me wonder if I know which young man is behind these posts. :chin:


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Hi, Goldie :D

Does one usually argue a heated topic in the first person?

And Pikachu is non-binary, didn't you know? :pr: :pl:


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13 Jan 2023, 8:16 am

Mikah wrote:
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Personal private choice between a patient and their Doctor. None of the government's, fox news', or religions' business.


Good old Roe vs Wade logic. I once described the stupidity of that ruling by saying it was akin to ruling that child and/or spousal murder is a personal private matter for families and no one else's business and therefore protected under the constitutional right to privacy. Now that is has been repealed I suppose I won't have many more chances.


I do not think children/spouses live inside of another person causing health risks, like an embryo/fetus does.

Why should anything/anyone regardless of how innocent they are have a right to use someones body without consent of that person? Granted embros/fetuses are neutral not 'bad' or 'innocent' just there to syphon resources from the body they impregnated till they becomes a baby and is ready to be born.

Any abortions occurring if there is a developed baby would be medical emergencies where the mom is going to die if they don't get it out right away.


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13 Jan 2023, 8:25 am

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Why should anything/anyone regardless of how innocent they are have a right to use someones body without consent of that person?


It's called the circle of life. Have you had sex ed yet? :)


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13 Jan 2023, 8:28 am

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Hi, Goldie :D

Does one usually argue a heated topic in the first person?

Yes. Personal experiences are how heated topics can become much more civil and constructive.


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13 Jan 2023, 8:33 am

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Hi, Goldie :D

Does one usually argue a heated topic in the first person?

Yes. That's how heated topics become more civil and constructive.


Interesting. I have always felt that I wanted to look at the big picture, beyond what my personal feelings were, to right and wrong, not my waffling right and wrong; but to think about what is right objectively. Because what we feel personally is more prone to manipulation and variables, but what we can think about absolute truth lifts us out of ourselves and helps to find a common denominator that all people can live by more ethically. No?


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13 Jan 2023, 8:39 am

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Why should anything/anyone regardless of how innocent they are have a right to use someones body without consent of that person?


It's called the circle of life. Have you had sex ed yet? :)


Yes, I have, have you taken basic biology?


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