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26 Jul 2023, 3:59 pm

TwilightPrincess wrote:
^ French doesn’t even work that way. I don’t think any living language does. Language evolves with the needs of its speakers. Whether something is correct or not depends on usage, not grammarians.

In practice you might be right, but in theory the Académie Française has the right to make "official" declarations about "right and wrong" French, at least within France, that the French government follows. Whereas Oxford, Collins, Merriam-Webster, the Chicago Manual of Style, or whoever, they don't say what is correct - they either describe actual use, or they set their own preferences which everyone else just ignores. The governments of English-speaking countries do not have an equivalent, as far as I am aware.



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26 Jul 2023, 4:02 pm

The Académie Française is a bit of a joke, especially among younger French speakers.


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26 Jul 2023, 4:43 pm

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What's being pandered?

This looks like a fun thread.


means catering to the demands of a minority


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26 Jul 2023, 5:48 pm

I know what pandering means lol.

I mean, how does that apply here or in this context?

Also what's wrong with supporting the needs of minorities?

Aren't you a minority?


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26 Jul 2023, 6:01 pm

Oh that is a conundrum, which minorities needs do I pander to? :scratch:

I am feel uncomfortable


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26 Jul 2023, 6:04 pm

Striving to use the right pronouns is not an unreasonable request. It's not like it's putting people out in any meaningful way. I question the motives of people who openly complain about it. Generally, ignorance, prejudice, or both are to blame for such a stance.


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26 Jul 2023, 6:18 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I know what pandering means lol.

I mean, how does that apply here or in this context?

Also what's wrong with supporting the needs of minorities?

Aren't you a minority?


yes but we all know that nt is the majority and iv accepted that


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26 Jul 2023, 6:21 pm

^

Do you accept all other forms of intolerance against minorities, or just against yourself?


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26 Jul 2023, 6:30 pm

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. . . this isn’t even about the trans community or people who perfer they/them pronouns (meaning, people who are non-binary). I have no problem using people’s preferred pronouns. However, I have noticed that people who are not in those categories stating their pronouns. Honestly, whenever I come across that I can’t help but think “this is unnecessary. I can tell what your pronouns are just by looking at you”.
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Demanding the use of one's pronouns of choice is a form of identity politics (coupled with political correctness) that does more to alienate people than to establish and connections between them.  Controlling the speech of others also violates the free-speech rights of those others, and objecting to a binary person's insistence on their preferred pronouns because it is a "genderfluid thing" is akin to objecting to the "appropriation" of cultural traditions as one's own.

(I like wearing a barong tagalog to church services, especially here in the Philippines, and no one objects to my "appropriation" of Filipino/Maharlika cultural traditions.)

So, if anyone is going to insist that I use their preferred pronouns and objects to my insistence on asserting my own claim to "He/Him/His" pronouns, then I will call out their hypocrisy to their faces.

If they have the right to control my speech, then I have the same right to control theirs.

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26 Jul 2023, 10:12 pm

I prefer they/them pronouns, but am fine with she/her.

But if someone refers to me as a "he", I'm going to set boundaries. Either respect that I don't want those pronouns or I will enforce my boundaries.
You still can call me a "he". But I will have removed myself from your life so that it doesn't matter.


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26 Jul 2023, 10:17 pm

Sometimes, when I want to address ONE person's actions or words, I will anonymize their identity and pluralize their pronouns as if they were multiple people and that their actions and words were shared by many -- "It was them that said and did it!"

It also keeps any one person from reporting me for personal attacks.


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27 Jul 2023, 6:16 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
One person’s pandering is another person’s common decency, I guess. :?

This.



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27 Jul 2023, 4:13 pm

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27 Jul 2023, 4:47 pm

Can't believe the ignorance of some people, this tweet may enlighten some of the haters

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Friendly neighborhood biologist here. I see a lot of people are talking about biological sexes and gender right now. Lots of folks make biological sex seem really simple. Well, since it’s so simple, let’s find the biological roots, shall we? Let’s talk about sex...[a thread]

If you know a bit about biology you will probably say that biological sex is caused by chromosomes, XX and you’re female, XY and you’re male. This is “chromosomal sex” but is it “biological sex”? Well...

Turns out there is only ONE GENE on the Y chromosome that really matters to sex. It’s called the SRY gene. During human embryonic development the SRY protein turns on male-associated genes. Having an SRY gene makes you “genetically male”. But is this “biological sex”?

Sometimes that SRY gene pops off the Y chromosome and over to an X chromosome. Surprise! So now you’ve got an X with an SRY and a Y without an SRY. What does this mean?

A Y with no SRY means physically you’re female, chromosomally you’re male (XY) and genetically you’re female (no SRY). An X with an SRY means you’re physically male, chromsomally female (XX) and genetically male (SRY). But biological sex is simple! There must be another answer...

Sex-related genes ultimately turn on hormones in specifics areas on the body, and reception of those hormones by cells throughout the body. Is this the root of “biological sex”?? “Hormonal male” means you produce ‘normal’ levels of male-associated hormones. Except some percentage of females will have higher levels of ‘male’ hormones than some percentage of males. Ditto ditto ‘female’ hormones. And...

...if you’re developing, your body may not produce enough hormones for your genetic sex. Leading you to be genetically male or female, chromosomally male or female, hormonally non-binary, and physically non-binary. Well, except cells have something to say about this...

Maybe cells are the answer to “biological sex”?? Right?? Cells have receptors that “hear” the signal from sex hormones. But sometimes those receptors don’t work. Like a mobile phone that’s on “do not disturb’. Call and cell, they will not answer.

What does this all mean?

It means you may be genetically male or female, chromosomally male or female, hormonally male/female/non-binary, with cells that may or may not hear the male/female/non-binary call, and all this leading to a body that can be male/non-binary/female.

Try out some combinations for yourself. Notice how confusing it gets? Can you point to what the absolute cause of biological sex is? Is it fair to judge people by it?

Of course you could try appealing to the numbers. “Most people are either male or female” you say. Except that as a biologist professor I will tell you...

The reason I don’t have my students look at their own chromosome in class is because people could learn that their chromosomal sex doesn’t match their physical sex, and learning that in the middle of a 10-point assignment is JUST NOT THE TIME.

Biological sex is complicated. Before you discriminate against someone on the basis of “biological sex” & identity, ask yourself: have you seen YOUR chromosomes? Do you know the genes of the people you love? The hormones of the people you work with? The state of their cells?

Since the answer will obviously be no, please be kind, respect people’s right to tell you who they are, and remember that you don’t have all the answers. Again: biology is complicated. Kindness and respect don’t have to be. [end of thread]
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27 Jul 2023, 5:32 pm

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27 Jul 2023, 8:22 pm

^ The image link seems to be broken.

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