bunnyowen wrote:
Hi folks
I am looking for someone who is religious, any religion, but preferably Christian (denomination is also unimportant for my thoughts) to try and help me understand a little bit more about it
Mostly I guess I am wondering "Why?" Why do you find comfort in it? Why do you choose to follow it? Why does it have an affect on your life?
When I was Christian (childhood-young adulthood), I don't see how I could accurately answer the question "Why do I
choose to follow my religion." It was not a choice, it was how I was raised and even in our low-church setting where on the surface we are encouraged to live lives of free thought and critical thinking, when it came to religion the underlying tone remained: "You will go to hell if you even think to look behind the curtain and question whether or not the Wizard of Oz is really a wizard." I spent 25 years ducking paradoxes in my religion without really stopping to ask why, because to ask that question means to invite the possibility that my religion was wrong, which would mean certain alienation from family and community.
So when, as a young adult, my paradox-o-meter finally overloaded and I gathered the courage to ask why I followed a religion when it contradicted the logic and reason by which I lived every other aspect of my life, some of my top reasons were, (all of which amount to what-is-comforting about belief in god):
- Because Mommy and Daddy told me to (comforting that they had the answers so I didn't have to find them on my own).
- Because I have a human need to feel 'blessed.' Of all the billions of people on the planet, I have the correct truth and most of the rest don't. Feeling of superiority. A super-powerful being likes me better than you and will reward me thusly.
- Fear of punishment if I don't believe (either from God or from secular sources).
- Fear of alienation from a society that is made up of many more believers than non-believers (a well-founded fear. I never got discriminated at work or over housing for being Christian. I have for being non-Christian).
- Because it is less work; answers are provided for me rather than me having to explore answers for myself.
- Because no one wants to die, yet death is inevitable. So the idea of a perfect afterlife is logically more comforting than not knowing or even the mere possibility that there is nothing beyond this life.
- When I feel helpless or out of control of a situation, it is comforting to think there is a super-powerful something out there I can ask for help. If my problem is solved, it is only natural to want to believe that I made that happen, say by convincing that super-powerful something to help me.
Imagining myself coming from a non-religious background to being saved/born-again/otherwise choosing religion, I suppose I would do so for similar reasons as above.