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25 Apr 2011, 8:24 pm

Well, about the very part you quoted. I just found ironic, he was insisting that you are wrong was a personal attack because it put a burden on the other person. But under that logic "You don't care" is the same, isn't it?

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Couldn't you be a little nice to a new poster, let them get used to the place, before running them off?

Or would that interfere too much with the club?


I am not nice to people. But I do not think I was rude. I was insistent yes. But I don't think that a person being new to the site, should give the person immunity against people arguing with her points. I also think that treating him just like I would have treated leesepho (an old timer) when arguing is the best way to treat a new person, giving them the same argumentation power as I give an old timer. Making them feel at home. So actually, don't you think it is more of a case of being a snub if you treat new timers different than old timers?

I'll be honest that I didn't pay much attention to his post count.


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25 Apr 2011, 8:26 pm

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I wouldn't like you to rephrase it. It was fine, just like ska saying that those that believe in God of the gaps do so because of their own lack of understandings is fine.

You don't understand X, then you are wrong about Y. Is actually a very valid argumentation. You don't understand gravity, then you are wrong when you say that we cannot explain tides. You don't understand the bible correctly then you are wrong in your criticism about it. It is pretty valid and not a personal attack.


For the record, I didn't mind going point to point with Ska, but I did call it (in the post) the way I saw it, as far as the wording went.


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25 Apr 2011, 8:26 pm

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Well, about the very part you quoted. I just found ironic, he was insisting that you are wrong was a personal attack because it put a burden on the other person. But under that logic "You don't care" is the same, isn't it?

I am not nice to people. But I do not think I was rude. I was insistent yes. But I don't think that a person being new to the site, should give the person immunity against people arguing with her points. I also think that treating him just like I would have treated leesepho (an old timer) when arguing is the best way to treat a new person, giving them the same argumentation power as I give an old timer. Making them feel at home.


This is a support site first, above everything else. If you wish simply to argue then you should take it over to Intensity,


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25 Apr 2011, 8:28 pm

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Well, about the very part you quoted. I just found ironic, he was insisting that you are wrong was a personal attack because it put a burden on the other person. But under that logic "You don't care" is the same, isn't it?

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Couldn't you be a little nice to a new poster, let them get used to the place, before running them off?

Or would that interfere too much with the club?


I am not nice to people. But I do not think I was rude. I was insistent yes. But I don't think that a person being new to the site, should give the person immunity against people arguing with her points. I also think that treating him just like I would have treated leesepho (an old timer) when arguing is the best way to treat a new person, giving them the same argumentation power as I give an old timer. Making them feel at home. So actually, don't you think it is more of a case of being a snub if you treat new timers different than old timers?


Depends on what you are in hearing the new poster's words. The posts themselves can tell you what kind of welcome they want or need. In this case, the poster was quite clear about how she needed to be treated.


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25 Apr 2011, 8:30 pm

Well, excuse me but by the time I joined the discussion he seemed more interested in arguing than in support. (Edit: This was directed towards MLA).

DW_Amom: Well, I didn't see her first post because I joined this at page 29.


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25 Apr 2011, 8:33 pm

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Stepping stones topic

Quite apropos, actually ...
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Dedicated to preserving the historic home of Bill and Lois Wilson,
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and to commemorating their achievements in the field of recovery from alcoholism.

http://www.steppingstones.org/


NEXT. :P :wink:


STEPPING Stoned topic

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25 Apr 2011, 8:34 pm

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DW_Amom: Well, I didn't see her first post because I joined this at page 29.


Does that mean we might be on the same page? Well, OK, maybe in the same book, at least? You can see my point?


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25 Apr 2011, 8:39 pm

I didn't have time to check the page number, I remembered it began with 2, so I said, that to be sure I would pick a 9 because that's as high as possible, worst case scenario, the page I joined the discussion in was much lower than 29, but my point will get through.

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Depends on what you are in hearing the new poster's words. The posts themselves can tell you what kind of welcome they want or need. In this case, the poster was quite clear about how she needed to be treated.


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Blind post. Sorry, not going to read thoroughly through 20 pages.

I am a Christian, and even if I wanted to, I cannot hide that because it just comes out. When I state my beliefs, I mean for it to be stating MY beliefs, not telling others what THEIR beliefs should be. It is not my job to convert you. And I don't call other people names like heathen, etc.

Do I get bashed just for being a Christian? Yes, although less often than others who do come in with "You're going to hell because you don't believe...." Is this confined to Wrong Planet and its PPR section? Heck no. It's all over the internet.

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I notice everybody is so busy hating each other here that my previous post has been completely ignored. How am I supposed to feel about that?


DW, what welcome do you think these posts suggest?


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25 Apr 2011, 8:51 pm

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If you don't believe in literal word for word Christianism, you are not really a Christian, are you? The fundies are right that in order to follow their ways, you have to accept the bible as truth. And I think that pretending like you can call it a metaphore in some places and fixed law in other makes you prone to living an ambiguous life and ultimately makes you a hypocrite. My doubts on the bible (because of finding stuff that is severely inconsistent with my own truth, moral and ethics) were what initially caused me to think that it is all right, I am just not a literal Christian. But I eventually learned I was living a contradiction that only increased my problems instead of helping me.

If you do not take all of the bible literally then who decides which parts to take literally and which not? Some Church? Then what guarantee is there that such Church is right and not manipulating things around. If you yourself decide to use your own intelligence to cherry pick the parts of the Christian faith your like and the ones you do not and still call yourself a Christian, you are basically creating your own one-man Sect and it is the same risk as the "following a church one". I just took a step forward and say that perhaps some parts of the bible are interesting and or entertaining and can be useful in life, just like any other fiction book. The second I began calling it a fiction book I was freer. I no longer HAVE to believe in it and then when I decide which parts to take seriously I am not making up a new religion, I am just doing the same thing I would do with any novel I read.

... I don't buy this argument at all.

Why on earth does it have to be the case that in order to be within that category of "Christian" you have to believe in an inerrant AND literal Bible? After all, "prone to living an ambiguous life" doesn't directly lead to hypocrisy, and... I don't really understand the prone-ness in the first place. After all, couldn't one use a many-pillared epistemic structure in which Christian scriptural claims are just part of the matter?

Would a church have to be guaranteed? Even further, don't the churches believe that they are guaranteed, after all, the church rests its claim upon apostolic succession, and holds that they are heirs to the Christian tradition. Even further, I don't see your "one-man sect" issue as meaningful or a problem. After all, guarantees are not needed to believe or follow something. It isn't as if by saying "I am a democrat" I say that I have sworn to the democratic party's platform at all. In any case, a major issue here is that to be Christian, one holds to the spiritual specialness of the text, this does not entail inerrancy, this only means "spiritual specialness" which does give a person some leeway, as maybe some parts are less important, and so on and so forth.

In any case, the view that "scripture is everything" really seems overly Protestant, as a lot of churches believe that the teachings of the early fathers and of church tradition are of relevance in living the Christian faith. As such, they have another foundation to point towards if they need it. In fact, the Bible itself could not have existed without an early church.



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25 Apr 2011, 8:55 pm

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Says who? The bible? The book that you yourself have stated is not good at stating anything? Or a church? or yourself? That's the problem. You yourself choose what the bible "says". In a way , you are controlling what your God says. So actually, you become your God's God. Ain't that twisted? From then to jumping to non-Christian theism (like me) is not a great leap and in fact, In my own experience the main difference between the two years ago me (the one that thought that you could simply not take the bible literally and cherry pick what parts you like about it) and the now me is that my belief does not anymore contradict itself.

You mean people don't cherrypick in anything else? I mean, the only thing you can criticize is arbitrariness, but YOU HAVEN'T *SHOWN* that non-literality = arbitrariness, as that would entail that you disprove EVERY non-literal interpretation. The problem is that non-literal interpretations of scripture are HISTORICALLY CHRISTIAN. I mean, the major church father, Origen, made arguments for non-literal interpretation as did others, and so, by what right are you going to say that your particular interpretation of the Bible is Christianity? After all, even within scripture, it seems clear that Paul used a non-literal interpretation at points. So..... if Christians behave like X, then how can you say "X is against Christianity"?



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25 Apr 2011, 8:58 pm

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You don't understand X, then you are wrong about Y. Is actually a very valid argumentation. You don't understand gravity, then you are wrong when you say that we cannot explain tides. You don't understand the bible correctly then you are wrong in your criticism about it. It is pretty valid and not a personal attack.

Who says you do? After all, without an understanding of Christian tradition, and how this tradition has historically interpreted the Bible, how do you know that you are correct? I mean, you're not just "looking at theology and what is necessary", you're making a particular theological claim here, and basically naively accepting the claims of conservative Protestant Christianity as if they were the only possible claims one could make. The problem is that other claims are logically possible(you haven't disproven them, and your efforts have failed to constitute a logical disproof) AND these other claims can be made with some grounding.

Note: I'll side with you that the Christian tradition is just wrong and full of crap, but I don't want to pigeonhole someone into an assumption they don't *have to* make. (If they are obtuse and refuse to make a necessary assumption, that's another matter)



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25 Apr 2011, 9:00 pm

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I didn't have time to check the page number, I remembered it began with 2, so I said, that to be sure I would pick a 9 because that's as high as possible, worst case scenario, the page I joined the discussion in was much lower than 29, but my point will get through.

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Depends on what you are in hearing the new poster's words. The posts themselves can tell you what kind of welcome they want or need. In this case, the poster was quite clear about how she needed to be treated.


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Blind post. Sorry, not going to read thoroughly through 20 pages.

I am a Christian, and even if I wanted to, I cannot hide that because it just comes out. When I state my beliefs, I mean for it to be stating MY beliefs, not telling others what THEIR beliefs should be. It is not my job to convert you. And I don't call other people names like heathen, etc.

Do I get bashed just for being a Christian? Yes, although less often than others who do come in with "You're going to hell because you don't believe...." Is this confined to Wrong Planet and its PPR section? Heck no. It's all over the internet.

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I notice everybody is so busy hating each other here that my previous post has been completely ignored. How am I supposed to feel about that?


DW, what welcome do you think these posts suggest?


There are more posts, she shows discomfort with the way things are going and wonders if she can handle it. The whole arguing about style showed how she WANTED to be talked to.

You don't have to agree with me. I am just glad that you are willing to think about it and look at it.


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25 Apr 2011, 9:01 pm

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I meant reminding you that you are an ape is technical jargon. The sun god is something else but I don't think that an atheist claiming that Christianity is a Sun God worship is offensive at all. For once, because it is true, and for twice because it is an opinion like any other and not a personal attack.

But Yeah, Christianity is a derivative of the Sun God worships. It is pretty obvious once you get out of Christanism, you begin seeing the Sun symbol overlapping with Jesus. For example, The place where Catholics keep the little bread circles, has a sun on top. I would elaborate if needed but it is not needed for my point.

Apes worshipping a Sun God. You and I are both apes and I think I should be free to claim that Christianism is Sun God worship as it is an opinion and not a violation of ToS.

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If you don't believe in literal word for word Christianism, you are not really a Christian, are you? The fundies are right that in order to follow their ways, you have to accept the bible as truth. And I think that pretending like you can call it a metaphore in some places and fixed law in other makes you prone to living an ambiguous life and ultimately makes you a hypocrite. My doubts on the bible (because of finding stuff that is severely inconsistent with my own truth, moral and ethics) were what initially caused me to think that it is all right, I am just not a literal Christian. But I eventually learned I was living a contradiction that only increased my problems instead of helping me.

If you do not take all of the bible literally then who decides which parts to take literally and which not? Some Church? Then what guarantee is there that such Church is right and not manipulating things around. If you yourself decide to use your own intelligence to cherry pick the parts of the Christian faith your like and the ones you do not and still call yourself a Christian, you are basically creating your own one-man Sect and it is the same risk as the "following a church one". I just took a step forward and say that perhaps some parts of the bible are interesting and or entertaining and can be useful in life,
just like any other fiction book. The second I began calling it a fiction book I was freer. I no longer HAVE to believe in it and then when I decide which parts to take seriously I am not making up a new religion, I am just doing the same thing I would do with any novel I read.


I have to say, this is probably one of the most well-spoken, peaceful "anti" Christian statements I've ever heard. I didn't read through all of the post since then, but I know others disagree with me on that and I'm sorry, but I totally "get" what Vex is saying here.. and applaud him for saying it so well ... This is exactly what led me away from Christianity.. This is exactly what caused me to doubt the Bible as "truth". Once I doubted bits and pieces, I had to doubt all. (I will however allow that there are some probable bits of history tossed in.) ... And I do think you can be Christian while only considering parts of the Bible fact. My understanding of the definition of being Christian is that you have to believe that Jesus was born of the Virgin and became man and died to pay the ransom so we can all live happily ever after. Jesus left 2 commandments, neither of which said "Believe this book is 100% true".
But, although I differ on those two points, I just wanted to say that I appreciate the way Vex said his piece.



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25 Apr 2011, 9:08 pm

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... I don't buy this argument at all.

Why on earth does it have to be the case that in order to be within that category of "Christian" you have to believe in an inerrant AND literal Bible? After all, "prone to living an ambiguous life" doesn't directly lead to hypocrisy, and... I don't really understand the prone-ness in the first place. After all, couldn't one use a many-pillared epistemic structure in which Christian scriptural claims are just part of the matter?

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All fair. And I must say you are correct. I am not sure if I explained myself correctly or that I actually said what I wanted to say. What needs underlining really, is that over all, it is just what happened to me, and that should have nothing to say with what other people experienced, at the end everyone finds his own truth and I bet I am miles away of finding one to which I will stay faithful for long.

Can you be a Christian and have a partial interpretation of the bible? I think that you can. But you'll be lying yourself. Ok, so the part about Noah's ark does not make a lot of sense once you count the number of species, you can decide to consider it just an allegory, but then which parts of the bible are an allegory and which parts are not? And then the issue becomes, who decides which parts of the bible should be taken seriously and which parts are not?

A Church? That is so simple, to outsource your ethics and opinions to an old organization. If my Church does not really agree with this, why did they include it in their bible? Then overall, what if you disagree with something? Change Church? Look away?

Yourself? You become your own priest and you no longer belong to a community you don't have peer pressure nor anything and you can begin deciding things yourself and making the bible say basically anything. But this ends where?

Then you have to consider that your holy book contains part that you greatly disagree with. Why were these things you consider horribly wrong added to the book at all? And how? You have to begin wondering that the council of people that wrote the stories and laws all over the years did something wrong. But if they did so many things wrong, what assurance is there that the other parts are not also fiction? And again who decides that?



At least in my case, this slowly turned me into a non-Christian, I did not even notice until much later.

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Actually what I meant is that I don't.

I meant to say that when DW said "You don't really understand the bible then you are wrong in ..." to me, she was using a good argument. It is true that I don't fully understand it and it put me in some corner. My point to make was that this argument was very nice and not a personal attack and that is what ska did a long time ago when he talked about the god of the gaps.


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25 Apr 2011, 9:08 pm

Vex's piece there led me to conclude that further discussion would be pointless. He has accepted as a basic postulate a position with which I profoundly disagree, and declined to consider the possibility that his postulate might be correct. (One might speculate this could have something to do with a fear that if he had to consider this possibility, it might cause him to doubt his own religious position. This, of course, may or may not be correct...) Forty years of experience have taught me that in such a case, continued attempts at discussion will lead only to more abuse, and I get plenty of that out in meatspace, thanks.


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25 Apr 2011, 9:16 pm

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Vex's piece there led me to conclude that further discussion would be pointless. He has accepted as a basic postulate a position with which I profoundly disagree, and declined to consider the possibility that his postulate might be correct. (One might speculate this could have something to do with a fear that if he had to consider this possibility, it might cause him to doubt his own religious position. This, of course, may or may not be correct...) Forty years of experience have taught me that in such a case, continued attempts at discussion will lead only to more abuse, and I get plenty of that out in meatspace, thanks.
Please specify which piece. The "You are wrong" one? I guess not because there is nothing religious in that position and you talked about me doubting my own religious position. Or is it the one I made about not taking the bible literally? That one I had not even begun to try to defend in a discussion by the time you made the post so I guess that was not either.

I am no longer afraid of doubt though.


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