Why do some men hate intelligent women?

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I dont know my iq, where does one get tested?

I dont know if I want to though. It seems to be something arrogant people throw around to prove their better then others.

Of course they don't, they want you to stay that way so you're no competition .

Generalisations suck.

Also, you don't know what happens in the privacy of people's relationships. That macho man you see (and resent) might confide all sorts of things to his girlfriend; how he presents himself in public doesn't mean he has no emotional range or sensitivity. Relationships are intimate and you don't see everything.

It's a foolish thing to be arrogant about, since we have little to no say in our IQ, outside of practising at tests. Life on the high end has difficulties, however; I think the people who boast are often doing so out of insecurity or general dissatisfaction with life.

Various organisations have testing centres, google for ones in your state.
I had mine done at school a few times, and by Mensa as an adult. .

I dont know but I'm not the only one who has women say they lack confidence for opening up to them about emotions.

I'm not saying all women, but look even most aspie women want a confident guy. Showing anxiety, fear, sadness isn't confident. I honestly don't know how guys fake being confident all the time. People surely can't be confident 24/7 everyone has anxiety and fear on some level on some things. Why isn't confidence a required thing in women?

It makes them feel superior. People enjoy feeling superior to others. Be it arrogance or competitive.
I lack either. I don't desire to be better then others. I don't like being competitive. I'd rather work together with people then against them.

So it's not something done online for free?

I probably got tested while in school but I don't have the paperwork from back then it was over 10 years ago. Even if I was high iq it hasn't helped me. I do well in school but life isn't like school at all.

There's sites online that offer them, or if you're really serious a psychologist can administer the test. Online tests tend to be less accurate than professionally administered ones. If you read slowly or have poor comprehension that will skew results lower than they should be, if you read really fast the score might be skewed higher than it should be.

Quite a bit of debate exists over the validity of IQ testing adults. Some people will insist it's an objective measure of intellect. Others will tell you a high IQ only indicates that one is good at taking IQ tests.



It's not so much the admitting anxiety, fear, sadness, etc. Expressing and admitting vulnerability requires a form of confidence; managing those feelings requires both a degree of confidence and a degree of restraint. If one confesses those feelings very early on it won't be the lack of confidence that harms their chances, it will be the 'over-intimacy' or 'over-sharing', no different than if you start talking about every time you've been hurt in a relationship, or all the bizare sex acts you'd love to try, or the list of names for your planned kids or whatever (not to suggest any of those forms of oversharing would be likely from you).

Women are also required to display a degree of confidence as well, but how they are expected to express it is different. We probably get a little more leeway when it comes to being cocky and overconfident (not too much though, arrogance is just as toxic as a lack of confidence), women might be more inclined to be careful about not appearing so confident it chases away potential partners, but that might also be the first test.

You ignored what I said. You aren't with these couples 24/7, you're an outsider. Just because you haven't seen someone's sensitive side doesn't mean their partner hasn't.

Excellent point above, too; sharing one's emotions requires confidence, the two aren't mutually exclusive.

I like the point you make about not witnessing or understanding what goes on when one isn't observing. That's something important to remember for everyone and being on the spectrum might cause us to be weaker in that regard, or at least forces us to actively consider it instead of just intuitively getting it.

The other thing to remember, all those happy couples one sees when out in public are all at different points in their relationship but all of them will attempt to appear stable in public. The ones that are just starting and only likely to be brief, and the ones that are in their last week or last day won't be obvious unless you witness drama unfolding. Some portion of those couples no longer existed by the time one gets around to thinking about how much they'd like what those people had.

makes me think of the Ying-Yang twins "man's perspective" ...

-"she's talking to me like I'm dumb"
-"she plays a role of a man"
-"talking to her man like you have to hold his hand"
-"talking to her man out of line"
-"making jokes about her man in front of others to 'get a laugh in' with her girlfriends"
-"she nags him"

WARNING: RAP SONG WITH HARSH LANGUAGE

There is studies showing that many men reject intelligent women.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-couch/201601/do-men-have-problem-dating-smart-women

I certainly don't throw around my IQ to be arrogant. It's not that it's bad, it is a bit higher that average; it's that it's not as high as what peoples would generally expect from me. I appear very smart to my family and peoples I met, but it seem, from my IQ scores, I'm not that "smart": don't know what to do of it.

It's simple:

Some men are highly insecure. They don't like women who are smarter than them, funnier than them, more accomplished than them, ect. Furthermore, if you perform better than them and get recognized for it, these same men will make excuses such as, "She only got that promotion because she's a woman and getting special treatment."

Heck, I've spent most of my adult working life in all-male job environments, and, while the majority of guys have been cool, I've made a few enemies of the insecure ones.

Insecure men suck.

Oh, as for IQ, I paid $215 to learn my overall IQ was "inconclusive" due to the huge gap between my visual and verbal scores.

So, whether I'm smart or stupid seems to depend on circumstances.

Those kind of men usually have the mainstream Christian mentality of "God made men superior to women" and think they are maintaining "God's laws". In reality, they just want women to bow down to them and perform oral sex on command for them. A lot of the men on Love-Shy.com actually want to move to the Bible Belt because they think all women will do that.

Enough of them though genuinely are afraid that if they don't live as perfectly to the edicts of the bible as they can they're going to hell.

Where I lack sympathy - actually reading it would probably be the best way to help themselves out of that predicament.

Most Bible Belters don't even read the bible. They just say they are a Christian so they appear to be "normal" as well as "patriotic". Mainstream Christianity is very shallow since it doesn't truly emphasize the teachings of Christ; it's more concerned with maintaining power than anything else. This is partly why I stopped calling myself a Christian.

While there are verses that say a wife should obey her husband, the next couple of verses state a husband should love his wife. That's something Bible Belters tend to overlook.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bibleg ... erface=amp

I used to be a member of Love-Shy.com because I truly am shy when it comes to asking women out for dates but I don't think I am entitled to sex like a lot of the guys on there think. They are more angry about how they aren't living up to being a "real man" instead of actually wanting a loving partner. I truly want a loving partner but getting into the dating game has been unsuccessful for me.

Sounds like virtue-signalling's nothing new, just the hash-tags.

Also I think I understand why they feel they're entitled to sex - their pastor would tell them that masturbation's a sin.