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04 Sep 2022, 9:55 am

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Even if the exact statistics are not reliable, it does seem at least plausible to me that GLB young people would be at higher risk of suicide than heterosexual young people. Is there a reason why this does not seem plausible to you?


You misunderstand, I don't think it's implausible at all, what I object to is twofold, the conflation of LGB and T people, which despite some surface level similarities I do consider to be distinct groups, and the "it's the SCIENCE!" rhetorical cudgeling, when the actual science is so unsettled. Actually, I'll add a third thing, the way this elevated suicide risk is weaponized into "if you don't give in to our demands, people are going to kill themselves, so you're a monster if you don't do what we say", I find that very objectionable.


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04 Sep 2022, 12:31 pm

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You misunderstand, I don't think it's implausible at all, what I object to is twofold, the conflation of LGB and T people, which despite some surface level similarities I do consider to be distinct groups,

No one (except for some old-fashioned anti-gay bigots) claims that these groups are identical. Of course they are distinct groups.

The point of "LGBT" is that these groups, though distinct, have enough overlap and enough commonalities to justify sharing community resources (such as the LGBT Community Center here in NYC) and have enough common enemies to justify a political alliance.

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and the "it's the SCIENCE!" rhetorical cudgeling, when the actual science is so unsettled.

Agreed that appeals to "the science" may be premature. But there's no shortage of common-sense arguments that can be made instead.

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Actually, I'll add a third thing, the way this elevated suicide risk is weaponized into "if you don't give in to our demands, people are going to kill themselves, so you're a monster if you don't do what we say", I find that very objectionable.

So you don't think it's justified to point out the likely human consequences of a given course of action? Or are you just objecting to the impatience and vengefulness of some of today's more fanatical trans activists?


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04 Sep 2022, 12:37 pm

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So you don't think it's justified to point out the likely human consequences of a given course of action? Or are you just objecting to the impatience and vengefulness of some of today's trans activists?


I reject the reasoning that anyone other than the person who does it is responsible for a suicide, it's always a choice.

As to the trans activists, yes.


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04 Sep 2022, 2:19 pm

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I reject the reasoning that anyone other than the person who does it is responsible for a suicide, it's always a choice.
Suicide is typically an effect of unbearable suffering.
Even if the final decision can been made differently, high suicide rate in a group indicates enormous suffering is common there.

Other people definitely can be responsible for adding to one's suffering and poor mental health - which may or may not lead to a suicide of a particular person but does increase a risk of it.


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04 Sep 2022, 8:14 pm

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Suicide is typically an effect of unbearable suffering.


Well, depending on how you classify mental health issues, that may or may not be true, as many people suffer but most of them don't kill themselves.


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Even if the final decision can been made differently, high suicide rate in a group indicates enormous suffering is common there.


Or, that mental disorders and/or a dangerous culture is more prevalent, e.g. some Japanese beliefs about it being an "honorable" way out of bad decisions.

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Other people definitely can be responsible for adding to one's suffering and poor mental health - which may or may not lead to a suicide of a particular person but does increase a risk of it.


You're still a long way from "if you don't accede to our demands people are going to kill themselves", which is a very common rhetorical attack when this subject comes up.


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04 Sep 2022, 9:03 pm

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Mona Pereth wrote:
So you don't think it's justified to point out the likely human consequences of a given course of action?


I reject the reasoning that anyone other than the person who does it is responsible for a suicide, it's always a choice.



Cold. While on a "dot the i" technical level that is true, others can help create conditions that encourage an individual to feel they have no choice. I believe we have a moral duty to at least care whether or not our actions might end up encouraging an individual to feel they have no choice but to end their life. I believe we have a moral duty to desire and work to form a society that doesn't end up encouraging an individual to feel they have no choice but to end their life. Neglect can be a form of action with predictable negative consequences. I believe we have a moral duty, within each of our own limited abilities and awareness, to avoid engaging in such neglect.

All that said, you seem to have your own personal reasons for taking issue with some groups and positions, and I'm not going to challenge you on that. But your reasons don't have to be society as whole's, and I worry about people taking on similar positions out of fear, rather than actual observation or experience.


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04 Sep 2022, 9:39 pm

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Cold. While on a "dot the i" technical level that is true, others can help create conditions that encourage an individual to feel they have no choice. I believe we have a moral duty to at least care whether or not our actions might end up encouraging an individual to feel they have no choice but to end their life. I believe we have a moral duty to desire and work to form a society that doesn't end up encouraging an individual to feel they have no choice but to end their life. Neglect can be a form of action with predictable negative consequences. I believe we have a moral duty, within each of our own limited abilities and awareness, to avoid engaging in such neglect.


Where does it end though? You're handing everyone around you a license to exercise power over you by waving the suicide card, and there's no limiting factor once you go down that path, everything you do might be the straw that breaks the camel's back for someone. I'm not saying everyone should be jerks to everyone else, what I'm saying is that there needs to be a limit on what we'll accept being asked to do to accommodate the idiosyncrasies of others, I think we've already gone too far on that front.


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04 Sep 2022, 10:46 pm

Wokism is difficult to navigate. On the one one hand it may be a seemingly overcorrecttion for predidices perspectives, but it also hinders productive conversations.

I don't know.



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04 Sep 2022, 10:56 pm

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Cold. While on a "dot the i" technical level that is true, others can help create conditions that encourage an individual to feel they have no choice. I believe we have a moral duty to at least care whether or not our actions might end up encouraging an individual to feel they have no choice but to end their life. I believe we have a moral duty to desire and work to form a society that doesn't end up encouraging an individual to feel they have no choice but to end their life. Neglect can be a form of action with predictable negative consequences. I believe we have a moral duty, within each of our own limited abilities and awareness, to avoid engaging in such neglect.


Where does it end though? You're handing everyone around you a license to exercise power over you by waving the suicide card, and there's no limiting factor once you go down that path, everything you do might be the straw that breaks the camel's back for someone. I'm not saying everyone should be jerks to everyone else, what I'm saying is that there needs to be a limit on what we'll accept being asked to do to accommodate the idiosyncrasies of others, I think we've already gone too far on that front.


It ends when the effort is taking from you what you don't have available to give. The line is different for everyone.

So to me, doing my best to remember and use someone's preferred pronoun is such a little thing, why wouldn't I try?

And if you've done your best and don't have something to give, then your conscious is clear and you should ignore the noise. If you have to explain yourself, then do so. "I know its important to you, and I recognize your right, but I just don't have it to give."

Nothing works all the time; we're still in a period of rapid change and various groups have a need to be combative. But I'll defend anyone's right to live within their own means.


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05 Sep 2022, 1:44 am

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Suicide is typically an effect of unbearable suffering.
Well, depending on how you classify mental health issues, that may or may not be true, as many people suffer but most of them don't kill themselves.
I have been severily mentally ill and came back to sanity. You just can't compare the level of suffering between the two. It's like between a not perfectly comfortable chair and an iron maiden.

Fun fact: Japan is stereotyped for suicidal culture but from 2016 on, it has lower suicide rate than USA. https://apps.who.int/gho/data/node.main ... DR?lang=en

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You're still a long way from "if you don't accede to our demands people are going to kill themselves", which is a very common rhetorical attack when this subject comes up.
I'm not intending to go there if you are not intending to willfully offend people.

I interpret political correctness as kind of updated good manners. Good manners are designed for social life to go smoothly but some would make a scene if they saw you holding your fork a wrong way. You can extrapolate this simile if you want.


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05 Sep 2022, 1:51 am

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Wokism is difficult to navigate. On the one one hand it may be a seemingly overcorrecttion for predidices perspectives, but it also hinders productive conversations.

I don't know.


There is no barrier to asking questions. People who labelled as "woke" are usually happy to answer questions. Infact I would of thought this forum is a safe space?



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05 Sep 2022, 3:25 am

Hedly wrote:
Wokism is difficult to navigate. On the one one hand it may be a seemingly overcorrecttion for predidices perspectives, but it also hinders productive conversations.

I don't know.


Bare in mind what this is about too. I have dyslexia and autism and find social interactions extremely difficult at the best of times. Over the last ten years (especially 5) I've been expected to address certain people in a new manner making me extremely uncomfortable and adding yet more anxiety to social interactions with such a person.

When I said "No, I find this uncomfortable and this is way".....It's supposedly made me a bigot to some people here.



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05 Sep 2022, 11:46 am

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I'm not saying everyone should be jerks to everyone else, what I'm saying is that there needs to be a limit on what we'll accept being asked to do to accommodate the idiosyncrasies of others, I think we've already gone too far on that front.

Personally, I've always preferred to hang out in subcultures where it was accepted that everyone is different, and where people's idiosyncrasies were accommodated to the max. Only in such spaces (with just one exception) was I ever able to find deep, lasting friendships.

In order for this to work well, however, it's also necessary for people to be assertive (without being aggressive). As I see it, the big problem in today's culture is the diminishment of dialogue between people with different points of view. Too many people will just instantly ostracize anyone who doesn't 100% agree with them.


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05 Sep 2022, 1:26 pm

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It ends when the effort is taking from you what you don't have available to give. The line is different for everyone.


So I have to give until I'm empty? No, I reject that, I don't subordinate myself to others just because they claim some ailment, my good nature has been taken advantage of enough already.


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05 Sep 2022, 1:30 pm

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I'm not intending to go there if you are not intending to willfully offend people.


I'm not, there is just a limit to the impositions I'm willing to accommodate.

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I interpret political correctness as kind of updated good manners. Good manners are designed for social life to go smoothly but some would make a scene if they saw you holding your fork a wrong way. You can extrapolate this simile if you want.


This is always how it's sold, but I don't think the comparison holds when the "good manners" are being written into HR rules and sometimes codified into law, such as in the UK where people have actually been arrested for online misgendering. No one ever got arrested for using the wrong spoon for the soup.


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05 Sep 2022, 1:41 pm

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This is always how it's sold, but I don't think the comparison holds when the "good manners" are being written into HR rules and sometimes codified into law, such as in the UK where people have actually been arrested for online misgendering. No one ever got arrested for using the wrong spoon for the soup.

The case I heard about was way more than just accidental misgendering - it was a campaign of online defamation that happened to include intentional misgendering and violating previous injunction.
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The substance of the offence was comments she had made on Twitter about Stephanie Hayden, a transgender woman and self-styled activist in the “women’s rights vs transgender rights” debate (which rages fiercely in certain corners of Twitter). Scottow’s comments were not complimentary: in one, she said of Hayden

“This person is not a racist, xenophobic, larping lawyer/transwoman. This person is a crook using the trans façade to ensure they aren’t caught. A pig in a wig.”

The majority of the comments were made about, not to, Ms Hayden; Scottow did not tag her into the tweets (this is a means of ensuring the tagged person sees the tweet); and at the time of some of them, she had in fact blocked Ms Hayden from seeing anything she posted. Ms Hayden was only able to see these tweets by creating a new, non-blocked identity and looking for them.

Nonetheless, in late 2018 Hayden went to the police, alleging harassment; Scottow was arrested and interviewed. There followed a lull of several months in the criminal proceedings, during which time Hayden obtained a wide-ranging injunction preventing Scottow from publishing personal information about Hayden, “misgendering” her on social media, referring to her previous male identity or implying that she was racist.

Then in March 2019, Scottow (using a new Twitter identity) had a conversation online with Hayden about the injunction. Hayden was initially unaware that Scottow was behind the new identity, and made no objection to the comments (which were argumentative but not insulting). On learning the identity of the user, however, she reported these comments to the police as well as further evidence of harassment. Scottow was interviewed for a second time, and charged with the s127(2)(c) offence.
https://publicdefenderservice.org.uk/ne ... v-scottow/

And she won the appeal.


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