headphase wrote:
So, jimservo, are you saying that you would support gay marriage if the "baby steps" were taken in place and society overall accepts it?
No. That is not the issue. The issue for me is the effect on the raising of children. Should same-sex marriage be legalized it is very likely that it will become "the norm" for children to be raised in same-sex households. I am not convinced that this will be a positive for society for a variety of reasons. First, yes, much of society is simply not prepared to accept it. However, another thing is I think it is insane to introduce the topic of sexuality to a young child which is going to happen in the public schools (various democratic state legislatures are already very friendly to proposals that would could make such education mandatory in the public schools, and also end up effecting interfering with the ability with adoptive parents to run their own households on the grounds that teaching the "wrong" message about homosexuality is the grounds for punishment).
In addition, men and women are different. They bring different skills to the table. I know many people deny this, but I think the ideal for a child is a two parent husband-wife home. Maybe I will be proved to be wrong. However, there is no proof that I am. By removing a tradition (possibly by court order) we are taking a rather large risk that we will cause a permanent effect on society that we cannot turn back.
Of course, every decision has rippling effects as well.
I realize that there are committed, and loving gay couples that are together. I also realize there committed gay couples with children. I have no interest in seizing those children or anything crazy like that. I am interested in the long term stability of the society. Perhaps I am wrong. I hope I am.
I need to take a break from this debate for a couple of days. I have gotten a bit more annoyed then I have wanted to get when making these arguments I think it is for the best.
I mean no offense, and I am sure you have have the best of intentions in what you all say.