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12 Mar 2017, 4:13 pm

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There are sexist anti feminists, but there are many egalitarian anti feminist. I personally consider myself an anti feminist and personally don't consider myself sexist. I agree with the idea that's men and women are equal, but feel feminism doesn't accomplish that. Famous feminists like Anita shut down conversation. When groups organize in a different way some feminist try and shut it down. I have seen many sexist feminist myself.


Sexist or not, tou cannot be an egalitarian anti-feminist; this is a contradiction in terms. Feminism is egalitarian. Equality between the sexes is exactly what feminism has always tried to accomplish and continues trying to accomplish, hence my earlier point that feminists do far more for men's rights than "men's rights" groups do.

Care to give some examples (with sources) of these "sexist feminists?" Also, Anita is pretty mild, pedestrian and sophomoric... and also doesn't really say anything that should be even remotely controversial. Nor have I ever heard of her "shutting down conversation."

I think they will want to include Valerie Solanas. SCUM probably has modern adherents. I'll just concede that people can take to all extremes, rather than putting forth a no true feminist argument.


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12 Mar 2017, 4:16 pm

BettaPonic, do we all start acting white, or something? Perhaps we'll also match your criteria for masculinity and feminity? Wanting people to ignore their senses doesn't seem like a way to make progress. Good plan for making no progress!


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12 Mar 2017, 4:27 pm

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BettaPonic, do we all start acting white, or something? Perhaps we'll also match your criteria for masculinity and feminity? Wanting people to ignore their senses doesn't seem like a way to make progress. Good plan for making no progress!

No, I do not believe people can act like a race. Race should are made up of individuals with their own behavior. I want us to move past race to a world where people are not judged by their race and no one notices.



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12 Mar 2017, 5:04 pm

What specific policy do you propose to accomplish that?


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12 Mar 2017, 6:08 pm

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Systemic prejudice and discrimination are not solved with equality of opportunity.


Nor is a hammer the appropriate tool with which to clean a window.

Equality of outcome applied as policy is systemic prejudice and discrimination. One cannot adjust outcomes based on arbitrary distinctions without creating discrimination. An example of this is affirmative action.

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Deeply held cultural beliefs like racism and sexism take a lot more work to fix than just offering the same opportunities, because even if we give people the same de jure opportunities, societal prejudices prevent them from having the same de facto opportunities.


Granting people the same opportunities typically includes the right to redress in cases of discrimination under law. Your argument amounts to "giving people equal opportunities isn't giving people opportunities", which can roughly be translated as "we haven't successfully given people equal opportunities, despite attempts to do so". If that's the case, it's the process that's failed, not the idea.

Which do you wish to debate? The argument I presented, or a hypothetical system which I neither advocated for nor invented?

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The common analogy for equality of outcome is racers beginning at the same starting line. Running with this analogy, do you consider it just that a person born with one leg should not be allowed additional assistance to give them a reasonable chance of being competitive in the race?


First of all, I don't consider it to be a valid analogy. A better analogy for equality of outcome would be a requirement that all athletes who finish ahead of the single-legged runner be required to relinquish either one of their legs or their position on the podium.

Secondly, I don't believe justice enters the equation. Would it be just to grant one athlete the right to use performance enhancing drugs due to their lesser ability on the track? Would you grant children born with below-average intelligence a lower threshold for an A on their exams? Who would be served by this?

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Also, it's worth noting that there are entire schools of feminism which do not pursue equality of outcome.


Let it also be noted that there are no true Scotsmen. Equity feminists are very much in the minority, and largely considered pariahs by the current feminist zeitgeist.

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The most prevalent flavour of egalitarianism favours equality of opportunity.


Demonstrate this.


Read any decent book of law in any nation in the Anglosphere - or simply read the 14th Amendment. Equality before the law is written into the rules which govern our societies.

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Opposing feminist ideas which discriminate based on genitalia is in perfect alignment with the prevailing school of egalitarian philosophy.


When I find such feminist ideas, I will oppose them. They are exceedingly rare.


I suspect it's more likely that you don't recognise them for what they are.

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The suggestion that the concept of "equality" is anything but protean is woefully ignorant.


Of course it is. We adapt accordingly.


And yet claim that anti-feminist egalitarian is a contradiction in terms. It rather suggests the adaptation required is in your thinking.

Equality between the sexes in the only form which counts, i.e. legal equality, already exists. If you can find any de facto cases of discrimination on the grounds of sex, I'll happily support your denigration of it. If, instead, you wish to postulate that societal systems are inherently sexist, I'll need a great deal more than an assertion that it is so. Incidentally, that's not an invitation to dredge up the same tired arguments that we've all seen a thousand times before.



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12 Mar 2017, 6:38 pm

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Equality of opportunity is the goal of many egalitarians. I support just forgetting people are a different race.


On this I agree, in principle, with Morgan Freeman's suggestion in his 60 minutes interview: "I'm gonna stop calling you a white man, and I'm gonna ask you to stop calling me a black man". Of course, that's not to say that discussing race should be taboo, it just shouldn't be a relevant factor in how we perceive one another - with the obvious exceptions for observation of cultural niceties.

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I am against affirmitve action or quotes of how many of different races should be in a place.


Likewise. Aside from the fact that it amounts to discrimination, it's also almost always a band-aid solution to a deeper problem - an example of which is the state of education in America. The onus should be on tackling the sprawling, inefficient, bureaucratic nightmare that is school administration and providing a strong basic standard education to students regardless of creed or colour.

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People don't just dislike feminism because they don't want rights for woman many do it because they oppose feminist tactics. Kill all men was a big trend on tumblr. I have seen entire rallies of radical feminists. Whenever MRAs give lectures they are attacked by feminist. Remember trigglypuff, smuglypuff, and Anita.


That particular problem stems from the fact that, in the minds of such people, feminist ideas are inviolate, arguing against them is heresy and all heretics should be silenced (or labelled Nazis and punched). It would be remiss to suggest such behaviour is representative of all feminists, but it would also be remiss to claim that they don't represent feminism or that the problem of indoctrination in educational institutes can be swept under the rug and ignored.

A far more common issue is that of the ubiquitous conflation of "feminism" with "feminists" and "feminists" with "women". The words are used interchangeably in a sleight-of-hand game designed to label those who oppose feminist ideas as "misogynists". If you need to resort to such asinine tactics in order to preserve the doctrine of your ideology, the debate is already over and you've lost.



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12 Mar 2017, 6:45 pm

I think affirmative action is a good idea for marginalised groups, including ethnic minorities. But applying affirmative action to women is unnecessary because women are not a marginalised group. In general, people don't hate women.

As adifferentname said, hating feminism does not equate with women. Women are feminists are two different groups because not all women are feminists and not all feminists are women.


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12 Mar 2017, 6:51 pm

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I haven't been on this site in months, and this garbage is what I see upon my return. Same misogynistic shyt, different day.
Yeah! How dare those mere men have unauthorised opionins! Only women are allowed to have their own opinions and if any man dares to voice a contrary opionion we must shame him by calling him a misogynist!


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12 Mar 2017, 6:59 pm

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I think the larger point is to address progress from gender specific oppression towards women which has certainly existed, even if it has gotten better. I myself treated it like any other day...but I think a lot of people who took more recognition of the day had good intentions. I am sure there were probably plenty of people who took it as an opportunity to demonize males in general and express more us. vs them attitudes as well; but I still wouldn't go as far as saying an international womens day is necessarily a step backwards from equality.

I would have no issue with an international day for men, though not sure what the over-all idea would be...perhaps fighting negative male stereotypes and gender role pressure that they experience but there hasn't really been a system in place that denied them rights like to vote, or having less freedom outside the home than males so it likely couldn't be progress in gaining equal rights. But yeah I don't think it would be misogynistic unless it was like to counter international womens day, but having it in addition wouldn't be. Some people might think that but there are a lot of people who wouldn't and probably plenty who wouldn't care either way.


Also chill with the fear mongering emotional appeal...yes there are extremists within feminism that don't care much about equality and more about some kind of vengeance towards males and outright oppression, but I don't think that describes them all. I myself don't really consider myself to be a feminist because I can't get around a gender specific term being used to describe a goal of gender equality. But no need to cry the sky is falling over it, and make it out like the genders ought to be at war. There are problems that should be addressed in it, but I don't think males are going to be losing their rights in mass any time soon. I don't think there would be enough support from women in general to do that.


What about lack of support for male domestic violence victims, paternity fraud, criminal justice system, suicide rate, workplace death rate, less college education?



What do you mean what about it? I never suggested those aren't actual issues...I just don't see anything particularly wrong with having a womens day, doesn't really matter to me one way or another to me. Though I am not sure on the less college education haven't heard of that before. Also not entirely sure what exactly you mean in regards to the criminal justice system...there isn't much support in general for people dealing with the criminal justice system.

Sorry, I mean less men are getting a college education and in the criminal justice system men get harsher sentences for the same crime/higher conviction. On the other side attractive people are less likely to be convicted so are people with glasses.


hmmm I didn't know males were getting less college education...granted I am kind of skeptical at the usefulness of college at least how it's currently set up. Seems like a debt trap for a lot of people, unless you really have an idea of what you want to do and know how to pursue it. but seems my age group was told we had to go to collage to have any chance in the real world so you had a lot of misdirected people that now have large sums of debt.

As for criminal justice there certainly are some issues with males getting harsher treatment, for instance I feel its possible a male who for instance agrees to use a condom and removes it would be viewed more harshly than a female who assures a male she takes birth control but has lied in an effort to get pregnant. But also in general seems like women are sometimes seen as less capable of crime than males by the justice system which isn't really true...and criminal women can certainly use it to their advantage.


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12 Mar 2017, 7:11 pm

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Sorry, I mean less men are getting a college education and in the criminal justice system men get harsher sentences for the same crime/higher conviction. On the other side attractive people are less likely to be convicted so are people with glasses.
MRAs are the new feminists! Same old self-victimising.

Why is it that when STEM workers are mostly men, MRAs say they want equality of opportunity, not equality of outcome but when it comes to sex-disparity in college enrollement MRAs want equality of outcome?

Less women chose to work in STEM? Fine. Maybe less men chose to enrole in college too. The same freedom of choice argument should apply to both.

You can talk about equality of opportunity rather than outcome and freedom of choice but you should apply it universally, including times when equality of opportunity favours women over men. Otherwise you're just cherrypicking.


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12 Mar 2017, 7:15 pm

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I hate to break it to you but microaggressions are an actual issue, especially with racism. A microaggression is making a comment about a black person's natural hair being unprofessional or a comment about how smart they are for a black person. And yes they are what keeps larger oppressive structures afloat. Most racism isn't as in your face as lynching anymore, but the small things are what make it so people are negatively impacted.

Marxism and Nazism aren't even nearly the same things, and I admit I'm concerned for your mental faculties that you think they are lol.

That doesn't sound serious. If someone's hair is unprofessional in a workplace then they should abide by the rules everyone else follows. If someone says you are smart take it as a compliment, it could just be poor wording. How does hearing those small things negatively affect life? Feelings don't count. Racism used to be lynchings, being owned, lacking voting rights. Now it is a comment about hair. :roll:


Well why are they saying the hair is unprofessional? Do they mean they don't tie it back or that they have some super extreme hairstyle....or that their hair doesn't look like that of a professional white person? Different ethnicities do have some different hair textures in things so yes to suggest someones natural hair makes them 'unprofessional' can certainly be problematic.


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12 Mar 2017, 7:46 pm

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Actually real deadlocks are natural lmao. The hair curls around itself easily. White dreadlocks are not. Our hair not does work that way and so we must be unhygienic to maintain it. Black people with dreadlocks wash their hair and take care of it. Also, no just dreadlocks. Curly hair is often considered unprofessional (actual curly hair, not white curly hair which is just wavy lmao).
What about Jata, are they real dreadlocks? Given that white people and Indian people have similar hair textures it's silly to suggest that people with that hair texture's dreads are any less 'real' than folks with hair texture typical of sub-Saharan Africans. Many cultures, from Greece to the Levant to India have worn their hair in that style. No one group has any kind of exclusive claim to them.
Of course white people can grow dreadlocks since white people hair has an elipctical cross-section. As black people hair as an almost rectangular cross-section and Asian people hair as a circular cross-section, that means white people hair is essentially half way inbetween.

Just becuase dreads can occour naturally that doesn't necessarily make them professional. Naturally my hair is dirty and uncombed. Naturally I wouldn't bathe as soap doesn't occour in nature. Naturally I would be naked as clothing is unnatural. Yet I would still considere it unproffionally to turn up to work with my hair naturally dirty, naturally uncombed or be naturally unbathed or naturally naked.



Dreads aren't supposed to be dirty though...I have them, still rather early stages but yeah you're still supposed to wash them just not as often and with shampoo or soap that leaves as little residue as possible ideally none. Also I certainly take care not to get food grease and such in them and try and wash my hand if I've eaten something greasy before touching them.

Also maybe not soap but there is water in nature, and freshening herbs/plants not like you couldn't bathe or wash at all.


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Sorry, I mean less men are getting a college education and in the criminal justice system men get harsher sentences for the same crime/higher conviction. On the other side attractive people are less likely to be convicted so are people with glasses.
MRAs are the new feminists! Same old self-victimising.

Why is it that when STEM workers are mostly men, MRAs say they want equality of opportunity, not equality of outcome but when it comes to sex-disparity in college enrollement MRAs want equality of outcome?


I'm not sure that's actually the case. It's more that they argue against the legitimacy of affirmative action for women on the basis that the justification is flawed now the shoe is on the other foot, and that there is a social problem affecting the aspirations of young men. They're arguing against the inconsistency of it being deemed a problem when women are the minority of applicants but tickety-boo when they're applying in higher numbers.

Are young men being discouraged from applying directly or indirectly? That's the important question.

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Less women chose to work in STEM? Fine. Maybe less men chose to enrole in college too. The same freedom of choice argument should apply to both.


See previous point. When women weren't applying to college and university in equal numbers to men, it was classed as "problematic" and steps were taken to address it. Remaining consistent would require there be similar concern now the reverse is true.

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You can talk about equality of opportunity rather than outcome and freedom of choice but you should apply it universally, including times when equality of opportunity favours women over men. Otherwise you're just cherrypicking.


Indeed. However, as I've suggested, that cuts both ways. Personally I don't care who is or is not applying for higher education, as long as there are no deliberate barriers preventing anyone from doing so, that there's no favouring of a specific group over another.



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12 Mar 2017, 7:49 pm

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I hate to break it to you but microaggressions are an actual issue, especially with racism. A microaggression is making a comment about a black person's natural hair being unprofessional or a comment about how smart they are for a black person. And yes they are what keeps larger oppressive structures afloat. Most racism isn't as in your face as lynching anymore, but the small things are what make it so people are negatively impacted.

Marxism and Nazism aren't even nearly the same things, and I admit I'm concerned for your mental faculties that you think they are lol.

That doesn't sound serious. If someone's hair is unprofessional in a workplace then they should abide by the rules everyone else follows. If someone says you are smart take it as a compliment, it could just be poor wording. How does hearing those small things negatively affect life? Feelings don't count. Racism used to be lynchings, being owned, lacking voting rights. Now it is a comment about hair. :roll:


Well why are they saying the hair is unprofessional? Do they mean they don't tie it back or that they have some super extreme hairstyle....or that their hair doesn't look like that of a professional white person? Different ethnicities do have some different hair textures in things so yes to suggest someones natural hair makes them 'unprofessional' can certainly be problematic.

I agree, I think unprofessional hair should be the hair that negatively affects the workplace. I don't see how dreadlocks do that personally. That might just be because am used to it though. Retro, I agree MRAs and feminists seem to both have a huge victim complex. I personally prefer studying an issue to figure out why it happens and if it actually a problem.



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12 Mar 2017, 7:52 pm

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Yesterday (as of the time of the posting of this thread) it was the international women's day. A step forward for feminism, a step backwards for equality.

Men are being asked to behave politically correct in the workplace.

This requires them to assume the feminite traits of empathy, sensitivity and social-awareness.

So, yes, men are being asked to change, and become like women.

That is pretty sexist stuff that you said. Also, a bit weird in the context of an autism forum.

From the beginning of the same wiki:
Femininity is socially constructed, but made up of both socially-defined and biologically-created factors.[1][2][3] This makes it distinct from the definition of the biological female sex,[4][5] as both males and females can exhibit feminine traits.

In the real world, men exhibit masculine behavior.

That's why feminism movements exist.

It's these behaviors that feminists seek to "correct".

They seek to change the male, so he doesn't exhibit those behaviors anymore.


I thought it came into existence for women to gain equal rights and to fight back against abuse from males, I don't think the initial goal was ever to eliminate all masculine behaviors from humanity. If that is the goal of some more extreme feminists than I don't agree with them and it certainly misrepresents the initial idea. Also how are empathy, social awareness and sensitivity specifically feminine traits? I thought those were considered being polite....


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I hate to break it to you but microaggressions are an actual issue, especially with racism. A microaggression is making a comment about a black person's natural hair being unprofessional or a comment about how smart they are for a black person. And yes they are what keeps larger oppressive structures afloat. Most racism isn't as in your face as lynching anymore, but the small things are what make it so people are negatively impacted.

Marxism and Nazism aren't even nearly the same things, and I admit I'm concerned for your mental faculties that you think they are lol.

That doesn't sound serious. If someone's hair is unprofessional in a workplace then they should abide by the rules everyone else follows. If someone says you are smart take it as a compliment, it could just be poor wording. How does hearing those small things negatively affect life? Feelings don't count. Racism used to be lynchings, being owned, lacking voting rights. Now it is a comment about hair. :roll:


Well why are they saying the hair is unprofessional? Do they mean they don't tie it back or that they have some super extreme hairstyle....or that their hair doesn't look like that of a professional white person? Different ethnicities do have some different hair textures in things so yes to suggest someones natural hair makes them 'unprofessional' can certainly be problematic.

I agree, I think unprofessional hair should be the hair that negatively affects the workplace. I don't see how dreadlocks do that personally. That might just be because am used to it though. Retro, I agree MRAs and feminists seem to both have a huge victim complex. I personally prefer studying an issue to figure out why it happens and if it actually a problem.


The way I see it most hair can be tied back, put in a hair net ect and be just fine for the work place...even if someone has a crazy mohawk, what does it matter if at work they keep it contained at work?


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