Aspie culture and Aspie candor: Hope or hokum?

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Actual definition of Asperger's remains appallingly vague. But unless I am completely confused, factors are thought to include poor non verbal ability and hence impaired emotional and/or social intelligence. Plainly, one way or another, social networking is a specific and dire costly and singular stumbling block for Aspie social intelligence and source of just about every Asperger's hardship aside from actual symptoms. Because, plainly, interpersonal networking is crucial to every value in life beyond solitary capability. And Aspies typically are to be found out competed even by lesser talents, isolated and at the mercy of those with superior organizational ability in the world.

Why must this be so? And what can be done?

Neuropsychology claims that Aspies, no matter how high functioning and whatever their other talents, simply suffer from low emotional and/or social intelligence that frustrates interpersonal networking, if even much distinction is made or stressed between different non verbal skills.

Whereas, the anti-psychiatric Aspie activist view is that Aspies actually are only pure of conventional triviality, manipulative guile and heteronomy, and only hence the effective stumbling block of pronounced antitypy and incompatibility. -And hence, that Asperger's poor social connectivity is entirely conditioned upon the triviality, manipulative guile and heteronomy of the social mainstream.

Indeed, Aspie candor, efficient and direct mode of communication, and even Aspie values and culture yet, are all much extolled!

"They wish to cure us! I say: We are the cure!" -proclaims Magneto...

And so, given the two basic competing explanatory hypotheses, is or would be social networking among Aspies, any more effective than for Aspies in the mainstream? Indeed, it stands to reason that if the latter anti-psychiatric Aspie activist hypothesis is the true etiology, then the effectiveness of networking among Aspies should vastly improve. But if, rather, the former standard Neuropsychological hypothesis is the true etiology, then it would make scarcely more difference than a better floor for a lame dancer.

Which is the truth? What would be predicted? What has actually been observed? -At least regarding high functioning Aspies.

Addendum: Cutting through all the phoniness and empty triviality, the coercion, manipulation and exploitation, what are the real values of relationship, interconnection and inclusion, hence the true dire costs of isolation (and the nature of every reoccurring Aspie complaint and suffering other than actual manifest symptoms)? Here are the best answers that I know:


"It's not what you know, but who you know."

Meaning, of course, that connections even for the most rank incompetents and scoundrels are all too often so much more key to success even than the very greatest ability, all too often unrecognized and unrewarded. Or, var: It’s not what you know or who you know, but who you sorta-know. In other words, six degrees of separation and all that. -Facility in extended networking has been found to bring to light the competitive plumb opportunities first. Or, var: It's not who you know, but who knows you! Purport: It shall be the propagation of glowing reputation and standing that draws oppportunity and opens many doors.


"He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare,
And he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere."
-Ali ibn Abi Talib, 4th caliph (602-661)


"Friends may come and go, but enemies accumulate."
- Thomas Jones


4:7 Then I returned, and I saw vanity under the sun.
4:8 There is one alone, and there is not a second; yea, he hath neither child nor brother: yet is there no end of all his labour; neither is his eye satisfied with riches; neither saith he, For whom do I labour, and bereave my soul of good? This is also vanity, yea, it is a sore travail.
04:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
4:10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
4:11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
4:12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

-Ecclesiastes, King James version


"Philosophers, writers, artists, even scientists, not only need encouragement and an audience, they need constant stimulation from other people. It is almost impossible to think without talking. If Defoe had really lived on a desert island, he could not have written Robinson Crusoe, nor would he have wanted to. Take away freedom of speech, and the creative faculties dry up."

'Conversation with a Pacifist' by George Orwell
http://www.resort.com/~prime8/Orwell/pacifist.html


"I think a man only needs one thing in life. He just needs someone to love. If you can't give him that, then give him something to hope for. And if you can't give him that, just give him something to do."
-James Liddle

Memorable Quotes from
Flight of the Phoenix (remake, 2004)
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0377062/quotes


True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.  
— Jason Jordan