are men sexist against themselves?

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most NT men are far nicer to attractive women then they are to me. NT men don't invite me to parties but they do invite attractive women, even if they are bi or lesbian.

You call them "NT"

They call themselves "straight".

That's life.

Sorry but we must all learn to live the way we are.

Men are nicer to more attractive women (especially if looking for romance). This is not how things should be but it’s a fact of life. Most men are vain (I know I'm a man) and it flatters their vanity to be surrounded by attractive women (even if bi or lesbian).

That being said they should not exclude you. You could be a great person and so its their loss if they don’t get to know you. If ever I were to have a party, you'd be invited.

I'm not sexist, racist or in general prejudice. It annoys me when people are .

thanks

It's kind of funny how NT people work, because it makes no sense.

I can see this as a response to the other thread, and I'll say the same thing I did there:

All people are different. Generalizing a sex due to the actions of a particular sub-group makes no sense, because even the people within that group will feel differently on the subject itself. Your experience with men so far might have shown you that men are vain jerk-offs (and indeed, many people would agree with you, myself included), but not all men are like this. There is a chance, however slim it might be due to how people act today, that you'll meet guys who are not so concerned about looks.

But then, look at me! I'm just as bad as the rest. I'll admit that I can't get interested in a girl (in THAT way, of course) unless she's good-looking. Though, that doesn't mean I wouldn't invite her to parties and stuff...

I'm just some kid, though. You don't have to listen to me. People around me don't seem to, and they do well enough.

Huh, the way it is for me is a little different - guys, attractive women, everyone in general I get along with if I get to know them in any context. However, the problem only starts with women when they either have an interest in me or vice a versa - even worse when its both ways.

Looks initially trigger attraction for me but personality kills it

The more often I think about it, it also becomes painfully apparent that its not even just personality killing it - its that natural rift caused by void or invalid nonverbal communication and all the holes our own lives and experiences have become riddled with as a result of what that's done to us. Its one thing to get dissed or have a wasted go with someone of the opposite sex who you just had nothing in common with or who you couldn't relate to but when it was someone you really could relate to or feel on a gut level and it seems like the only thing that kept them away or irritated with you was the nonverbal communication aspects of AS - that's the stuff that really has me wanting to get as far away from women who I'm attracted to as I can sometimes.

yes, people tend to be harder on people of their own gender

for instance, if a dude walks up and says hi I thing to myself, "I hate that guy"

but if it's a gal, I think, "yay, a woman is actually talking to me"

As a male, i can safely say that I'm misogynistic as women are "know it all" "never do anything wrong" hipocrites. However, I'm also a misandrist as I think that men are quick-to-act violent brutal a**holes. What's my point? That both genders suck total ass.

On that note I think I'll have to buy stock in Proctor & Gamble, see how far the sales of Listerine can go

Amen to that!

I'm an 'attractive woman'. I've very little trouble with men. They are usually deferential, sometimes flustered, gallant & friendly (seldom boorish). Women, however, are catty, mean, paranoid I'm going to 'steal' their boyfriends, sleep with their husbands, make them look unattractive etc. I've been with my husband for 7 years! I've never cheated on him nor, prior to him, did I ever date or try to 'get' someone else's husband. Sometimes I've noticed how men can be hateful towards other men, but they have nothing on women! The gossip! Back-stabbing! The lies! Being an AS women makes it hard for me to navigate the muckmire of female social crap so I bowed out a long time ago & try to avoid it at all costs. I'm a solitary creature who looks like I'd be a social butterfly! No way.

I just got that! Took me a while, but I got it! Ha!