why are feminist obsessed with Nice guys(TM)
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Tell me then, do you wait for the man to approach you? or are you the aggressor?
I wont discuss with you, that there are statistical preferences when it comes to gender. But that include as well a broad spectrum, which is overlapping each other, and there is nothing wrong about it. Or as already explained in another thread, I see nothing wrong about, that most women have european shoe sizes of average 39 and most male of 42. There is nothing bad about accepting that, as long as you dont try to make an ultimate truth out of it, ignoring the people for whom that statistical preference does not fit.
As you did with: "we have different needs, nor only for our selves, but from each other."
The difference between an prejudice and an fact is simply the usage of certain words as "many", "some", "few", ... Because the moment you do so, you will start not to piss off everyone that does not fit in your description. The existing men with shoe size 39 or female with shoe size 42, will thank you for that.
Without realizing it, in many ways you just made many of my points, thank you.
BTW, I don't like most sports, not unless their intellectual, Olympic types for personal achievement, or games where I can see titties bounce. love womens mud wrestling.
Tell me then, do you wait for the man to approach you? or are you the aggressor?
I wont discuss with you, that there are statistical preferences when it comes to gender. But that include as well a broad spectrum, which is overlapping each other, and there is nothing wrong about it. Or as already explained in another thread, I see nothing wrong about, that most women have european shoe sizes of average 39 and most male of 42. There is nothing bad about accepting that, as long as you dont try to make an ultimate truth out of it, ignoring the people for whom that statistical preference does not fit.
As you did with: "we have different needs, nor only for our selves, but from each other."
The difference between an prejudice and an fact is simply the usage of certain words as "many", "some", "few", ... Because the moment you do so, you will start not to piss off everyone that does not fit in your description. The existing men with shoe size 39 or female with shoe size 42, will thank you for that.
Without realizing it, in many ways you just made many of my points, thank you.
BTW, I don't like most sports, not unless their intellectual, Olympic types for personal achievement, or games where I can see titties bounce. love womens mud wrestling.
and there goes the quality of the dialogue, right down the toilet.
thank you for playing, ladies and gentlemen.
hate to be a nit-picker, but that's actually not a reasonable assumption--otherwise assuming that humans get around via the trees like orangutans would also be a reasonable assumption, which it obviously is not. animal behavior is not newtonian physics. primate behaviour is extremely complex and diverse amongst the various species.
First of all, it seems that fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiinaly someone got my point. Do you still think I have no theory of mind?
Anyway, it's a perfectly reasonable assumption, of course. In the set of all the mammal species, the overwhelming majority is male dominated/patriarchal. Which means that females copulate with with the "nearest" "alpha male" (making the necessary refinements in each situation for the words in quotes). Isn't it a feminist axiom that our society is patriarchal? Therefoooooooore?......
The Nice Guy(TM) I dated, I quit because he was clearly being dishonest about something and had an unpleasantly condescending and superior attitude, despite the opened doors. The Jerk I dated, I quit because I started to want more than we both agreed that the relationship would be able to provide for either one of us. I'm still friends with him (note: not "friendzone," just friends). The nice guys I've dated, variously they have quit or I have quit because we weren't "the one." a couple of them I wished we could make it work, others not so much. The nice ones were, by far, the ones I spent the most time with, though.
No. I think that you're deluded and you're making up a tale to comfort yourself about how women are deluded, illogical, and/or evil, to keep it from being your problem that you have difficulty in relationships.
No. A male chauvinist can only ever be a Nice Guy(tm).
Whenever I find urine all over the toilet seat.
Never. Literally, never.
I have a brother, two dads, some great male co-workers, etc. and they're all unique, wonderful people.
It's misandry to think that a man can never have a relationship with a woman unless he wants to have sex with her.
Not since before I hit puberty. That's a profoundly unfeminist thought. I've thought, "women are unfairly saddled with the majority of the unpleasant parenting duties," but that's not the same thing at all.
I'm just curious: do you think that you're addressing an actual person? Or is the straw-feminist in your head real enough to you that you're actually talking to her?
i really should have noted earlier what i put in bold there at the bottom, and taken heed then. you're right LKL, i do believe i'm wasting my time.
there is a question i would like to ask before i leave this conversation, i am an insatiably curious person:
i believe i mentioned earlier how not standardly "feminine" i am, and that it extends not just to my personality but my neurology and my perception--for example, i have always been analytical as well as visually-spatially acute (i'm an excellent driver, and i offer as evidence the fact that i can back a large diesel pickup with a full trailor-style motor home on the back of it into a very long straight driveway from the street). my consciousness is very much visually-oriented--i am in fact a visual artist, and my style of drawing is hyper-realism. i am curious to know how you would explain, MP, exactly how i am "denying my womanly nature" by having the sort of neurology i was born with? does denial not imply choice? how did i manage to choose to be born with what people typically classify as a "male" neurology so as to "deny" the automatic femininity that apparently comes with my genitals?
please explain.
i believe i mentioned earlier how not standardly "feminine" i am, and that it extends not just to my personality but my neurology and my perception--for example, i have always been analytical as well as visually-spatially acute (i'm an excellent driver, and i offer as evidence the fact that i can back a large diesel pickup with a full trailor-style motor home on the back of it into a very long straight driveway from the street). my consciousness is very much visually-oriented--i am in fact a visual artist, and my style of drawing is hyper-realism. i am curious to know how you would explain, MP, exactly how i am "denying my womanly nature" by having the sort of neurology i was born with? does denial not imply choice? how did i manage to choose to be born with what people typically classify as a "male" neurology so as to "deny" the automatic femininity that apparently comes with my genitals?
please explain.
Well, if you are able to analyse it a bit further, you'll conclude that I'm talking about the overwhelming majority of women, not all women. Women don't divide sharply into lesbians and heterosexuals. It's more nuanced than that, of course. And if there are exceptions to the overwhelming majority of human females' sexual behaviour, it's probably found on lesbians and/or aspies (or people with a very different way of socializing). Even then, I still mantain that most heterosexual aspie women do have this sexual behaviour, even though they, sometimes, are a bit less feminine.
As for lesbians, that's a whole different gigantic discussion. And that would be, in fact, speculation. But if it took you 8 pages to recognise that what I'm saying is not an as**olic, lunatic and baseless rant; that I may have a point somewhere _ even though you deny it _ then I couldn't ever discuss that with you.
But I leave you with a TEDx talk that will make you put under fire your assumption that you're not that different from men and, in particular, why genitals have more to do with your mind than you imagine. One funny example is him provocatively saying that, because the difference of male and female genetics is the same difference, in percentage, as the difference of male humans and male chimpanzes, Bill Clinton is as close to Hillary Clinton as he is to a chimpaze. It's a fun talk. Not misogynist, don't worry.
[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQcgD5DpVlQ[/youtube]
i believe i mentioned earlier how not standardly "feminine" i am, and that it extends not just to my personality but my neurology and my perception--for example, i have always been analytical as well as visually-spatially acute (i'm an excellent driver, and i offer as evidence the fact that i can back a large diesel pickup with a full trailor-style motor home on the back of it into a very long straight driveway from the street). my consciousness is very much visually-oriented--i am in fact a visual artist, and my style of drawing is hyper-realism. i am curious to know how you would explain, MP, exactly how i am "denying my womanly nature" by having the sort of neurology i was born with? does denial not imply choice? how did i manage to choose to be born with what people typically classify as a "male" neurology so as to "deny" the automatic femininity that apparently comes with my genitals?
please explain.
Well, if you are able to analyse it a bit further, you'll conclude that I'm talking about the overwhelming majority of women, not all women. Women don't divide sharply into lesbians and heterosexuals. It's more nuanced than that, of course. And if there are exceptions to the overwhelming majority of human females' sexual behaviour, it's probably found on lesbians and/or aspies (or people with a very different way of socializing). Even then, I still mantain that most heterosexual aspie women do have this sexual behaviour, even though they, sometimes, are a bit less feminine.
As for lesbians, that's a whole different gigantic discussion. And that would be, in fact, speculation. But if it took you 8 pages to recognise that what I'm saying is not an as**olic, lunatic and baseless rant; that I may have a point somewhere _ even though you deny it _ then I couldn't ever discuss that with you.
But I leave you with a TEDx talk that will make you put under fire your assumption that you're not that different from men and, in particular, why genitals have more to do with your mind than you imagine. One funny example is him provocatively saying that, because the difference of male and female genetics is the same difference, in percentage, as the difference of male humans and male chimpanzes, Bill Clinton is as close to Hillary Clinton as he is to a chimpaze. It's a fun talk. Not misogynist, don't worry.
[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQcgD5DpVlQ[/youtube]
i'm not a lesbian, nor does my sexuality match what you described earlier. i am attracted to men--i am neither dominant nor submissive. i appreciate equal and complementary companionship, partnership, not power-trips. sexuality and gender are spectral in nature, not binary. open your mind.
edit: i am a complete person looking for another complete person to share my life with--not a half looking for my other half. if i don't find that other person, i will be alright on my own, thanks to that completeness.
This thread, summed up:
Men:
"Why won't more women do x that I like, why is female behavior like y?"
Women:
"Because your assumptions about women are wrong, and we would rather do y than x because we're people just like you."
Men:
"That can't be right, of course women like x, that's what women are for. You women just don't understand female nature properly."
Frankly, the problem is that men and women don't think the same way.
Men only know what women SAY they want. Women, however, don't say what they REALLY want.
Men generally have no patience for such head games.
Guys who try to be what women say they want get little to nothing for it.
I also think women have very unrealistic expectations of what they want in a man...and are never satisfied because they can't find their non-existent ideal man.
Thank you for mentioning the "head games" women play. The "chase", the using one man to make another man jealous, the using men because they, especially the using 'nice guys" as "friends" when they know the nice guy loves them more than the "bad" guy ever will.
I think this one struck a nerve with me.
Actually, I've read that people with ASD and average or above average intelligence actually make very heavy use of theory of mind, along with people with schizophrenia. The reason why is that we lack the full capacity for embodied interaction that neurotypical people have; embodied interaction allows the minds of others to be less opaque, making it unnecessary for neurotypical people to have to make heavy use of theory of mind.
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"You have a responsibility to consider all sides of a problem and a responsibility to make a judgment and a responsibility to care for all involved." --Ian Danskin
Men:
"Why won't more women do x that I like, why is female behavior like y?"
Women:
"Because your assumptions about women are wrong, and we would rather do y than x because we're people just like you."
Men:
"That can't be right, of course women like x, that's what women are for. You women just don't understand female nature properly."
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Your Aspie score is 193 of 200
Your neurotypical score is 40 of 200
You are very likely an aspie
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[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQcgD5DpVlQ[/youtube]
You know inherited more genetic material from your mother than your father? And you'll pass more on to your daughters than your sons?
Men:
"Why won't more women do x that I like, why is female behavior like y?"
Women:
"Because your assumptions about women are wrong, and we would rather do y than x because we're people just like you."
Men:
"That can't be right, of course women like x, that's what women are for. You women just don't understand female nature properly."
Men:
"Why won't more women do x that I like, why is female behavior like y?"
Women:
"Because your assumptions about women are wrong, and we would rather do y than x because we're people just like you."
Men:
"That can't be right, of course women like x, that's what women are for. You women just don't understand female nature properly."
Additionally, it's apparently impossible for women to understand "male nature," but it's possible for men to know what every woman wants and how every woman behaves.
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"If we fail to anticipate the unforeseen or expect the unexpected in a universe of infinite possibilities, we may find ourselves at the mercy of anyone or anything that cannot be programmed, categorized or easily referenced."
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