Cat-calling is harmless flattery...

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THE fact of the matter is some folks have empathy for their fellow human beings and respect them IN that way as PEOPLE WITH FEELINGS THAT CAN BE HURT with objectifying them as just another piece of meat in A 'MEET' MARKET WHETHER that is on a dance floor or on the sidewalks of life.

And some folks DO NOT, AND WILL NEVER GET IT, UNTIL THEY DEVELOP BASIC HUMAN EMPATHY, if they even can as science now shows that HUMANS that are not given copious amounts of flesh and blood human nurturing in the first two years of life NEVER DO, SADLY as this is as It is True.

It's why you often see this behavior more in areas of socio-economic distress where children do not receive nurturing as much in the first two years of life, or in highly 'privileged' areas where the parents are so far removed from their children in gaining 'gold' in life, that for all practical intents and purposes they do not exist.

And no, this is not just my opinion, this is the the state of the art opinion of modern science.

And this is where the science of psychology is going, in restoring basic humanity, AKA HUMAN EMPATHY, IF POSSIBLE.

LIVING a life in mechanical (machine) cognition does nothing to improve it. And science now evidences this as true too.

And this in part is why the Internet can be such a cold hard place for humanity as it truly CAN discourage the HUMAN ART OF EMPATHY, through anonymity where even faces no longer exist.

I choose empathy and Love and HELL YES IT WORKS IN EVERY WAY FOR ME in real life for SURE.

And the girls in REAL LIFE, DO LIKE IT TOO, and I HAVE REAMS OF EVIDENCE FOR THAT, for any of the naysayers out there that say good guys finish last, in the REAL GAME OF LIFE THAT IS unconditional LOVE.

And hell yes, I'm passionate about this, as truly it CAN BE A REAL LIFE SAVER IN the REAL game of life for those who CAN hear (t) it.

^ Agreed, Ahogday.

What is considered cat-calling? I was confused by the cat-calling video because some guys just said "hello" and that was considered an example of harassment in the video.

From what I can tell, some people believe the following to be true:

Apparently saying hello to a stranger on the street is considered cat-calling/harassment when it's a guy saying hi to a gal. The inverse is not considered cat-calling.

If a guy says "I love your hair" to a girl it's also considered cat-calling and seen as harassment. If a girl says it to a guy it's not considered cat-calling. I have had girls say this to me and I personally wasn't bothered by it. But apparently if a guy said the same thing to a girl, she would be bothered by it?

other people seem to think this is harmless regardless of who is saying what.

Am I incorrect in my understanding of this issue?

I haven't seen that video but it's probably the non-verbal language that is the issue and not a respectful hello or your hair looks nice.

It's a matter of respect and what is wanted or not wanted behavior.

It's complicated. And there is definitely room for error whenever humans communicate emotion, including passion for others.

Sometimes the errors are simply misunderstandings and sometimes there is attention directed in an aggressive manner per forcing one's will on another.

That's the part I do not agree with, when a person uses their size and strength to get their way over someone else's will, even when done as verbal abuse only.

It doesn't work with me, so I have a privilege in life that many women and men in some cases do not have.

But as mentioned earlier in this thread that doesn't keep some women from trying, as they can see that a guy with "$700 shades" is not going to strike back at them, generally speaking.

If i were an African American 226LB 6 Foot dude in the bar, it would likely never happen, as it is a matter of pre-conceived notions of what MIGHT HAPPEN, WHETHER REAL or imagined.

Yes, money, color, and gender, and of course sexual orientation, and even size and strength does still count in this country, whether some folks want to admit it or not per real life consequences.

It's just human nature per the light and dark of all of it but 'we' do have 'reason' to potentially modify 'our' behavior, thank goodness, in the mix of reality as is per dark and light. :)

Just calling someone hon can be considered catcalling.

There was a skit on SNL based on cat-calling except it was a role reversal. There were 3 women blue collar workers who would cat-call anonymous men who would walk by. It illustrated just how silly the whole concept is. (BTW, the men didn't like it either)