The trouble is, people who SHOUT THE LOUDEST are the ones people pay attention to, even though they're also typically the crazy ones. Whether they be MRA, SJW, GG, TERF... the people who want to discuss an accurate model of reality, rather than a one or two dimensional version, usually get shouted down.
There seems to be this notion that if you're "oppressed", you can't be an "oppressor". Which I'm sure a fair number of black gay men would disagree with, and transgender people who are among the gay community, and women among other women (seriously, women seem to be the worst for demeaning women, going by their magazines...)...
With a lot of feminists, it's like they'll stop punching themselves in the face once other people stop punching them.