male-female relations

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I recently started browsing WP, and I noticed something very interesting. there are a lot of threads (especially in this secion) concerning male-female relations, feminism, etc. this makes sense because relationships with the opposite sex are very meaningful and important for most people, and for those of us with AS, it can be very challenging area of life. What surprises me, though, is how much people on here are swayed by the mainstream viewpoint that men and women are the same, should be equal in the workplace, etc. For someone as observant of other as myself, it is painfully obvious that men and women are different from eachother neurologically and physically, have different roles in society, and are happiest when they follow those roles. Men and women also face very different challenges in life when it comes to romantic relationships. Us guys might think we have it worst, because we are expected to approach women and ask them out, and we are also expected to have good jobs, make lots of money, be physically strong, etc. If we lack these qualities, chances are women will reject us. And men also want and need sex more than women do, so as a man, if you lack some these "manly" qualities, you might have trouble finding a woman to fulfill your needs, and life can get very tough. Women, on the other hand, can attract a man for sex quite easily, but most women don't want to just have casual sex with lots of guys. They want to find the "right" guy, and they want him to commit to her. If a woman sleeps with a guy, her brain is wired to expect the guy to stick around and eventually start a family. In the old days, a women would usually start a family very young, with the first guy she slept with. So if she sleeps with a guy and he doesn't stick around, it can be very psychologically damaging to her. In addition to this, there is a (in my opinion, justified) stigma against women having casual sex, so it can be very challenging for a young woman to decide what guys to hang around with. (girls, please correct me if I am wrong about the challenges women deal with).
As i have just described, the challenges men and women face when dealing with the opposite sex are veeeery different from one another. I don't understand why a lot of the posts on WP about this topic fail to acknowledge this. I guess maybe a lot of you with AS have a lower sex drive than NT's, so you don't really notice these things?? (my sex drive is certainly just as high as most NT's, so correct me if I'm wrong about that). Or maybe you people are just repeating what our politically correct culture preaches? In any case, I think it would be helpful for us aspies to understand ourselves and what is healthy for us in terms of romantic relationships (for a male aspie, taking a girl home from a bar would be a big accopmlishment, whereas for a female aspie, talking a guy home from a bar would probably be very damaging).
Anyway, people tell me I'm very repetitive when I talk about things, so sorry for the long post. please tel me what you guys think about this.

Male and female relations? It leads to a baby being made 9 months later and drawing both parties closer together for the sake of the offspring!

Actually, there is a lot more to a relationship then that. Apparently you think that a "relationship" is strictly Eros love. It is actually a combination of sensual, philos ( what do I get out of this?), and unrequited love.

Why in the world shouldn't men and women be equal in the workplace? If they can both do the same job they deserve equal pay and equal respect.

I couldn't agree more. Equality should mean that we are all on a level playing field. No one should be held back or advanced because of who they are or who they are not.