Jacoby wrote:
Most my peers growing up were black, they didn't call me European American or even Caucasian and I didn't call them African American. They're were black, I was white, there wasn't anything offensive about it and I probably would of been made fun of if I said African American. I don't hear too many people identify as African American or use that unless they're trying to be overly formal and PC, I am not allowed to say what they really called each other growing up. I think you gotta know your audience, I'm not in the 'hood anymore and I'm in college so its a entirely environment where I also need to choose my words carefully so maybe I should change to the more PC 'African American'.
I don't understand how somebody can think it is offensive unless the context was offensive then its not the word but the racist belief. You can totally be racist and be PC, most are these days. I don't think even negro or colored is offensive to be honest, antiquated maybe but what matters is the context. You can say African American in an offensive way too, you could use any identifying word. Blacks really aren't as sensitive as white liberals are, they're normal rational just like us and I don't lose my s**t because someone says something I don't agree with and maybe even find offensive. I think most would rather us police the actual police instead policing speech.
A very sensible post.
If you know the people you're around prefer one or the other, or you definitely mean one or the other (for example, you want to talk about how elite sprinters tend to be Jamaican or African American, or how black people have lower rates of skin cancer for the same UV exposure), then use that one, as appropriate. If someone relevant lets you know they prefer the other term, casually apologise and move on. If you find that your terminology is outdated and now considered offensive (e.g. "coloured"), then apologise and try not to use it again, but don't beat yourself up.
If you follow that advice, then I don't think a reasonable person could hold it against you.
Fortunately, in the UK nobody seems to find black offensive (but "African American"? Great way to offend a British Caribbean person), so it's pretty easy if you were raised after "coloured" went out.