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Fenn
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06 Feb 2022, 6:48 pm

^ I have offended you - I can tell I have - I am sorry - it was not my intention to offend.


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06 Feb 2022, 9:00 pm

Fenn wrote:
^ I have offended you - I can tell I have - I am sorry - it was not my intention to offend.


Umm no? why is everyone on edge lately?



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07 Feb 2022, 4:50 am

My daughters removed legs of one their Lego Friends characters, constructed a wheelchair for her and said she's a disabled friend of living in their mansion, so they had to rebuild it to be accessible for her.
I think in general, there is space and need for such dolls - but a lot depends on how adults react to them.


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07 Feb 2022, 5:01 am

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I am troubled that "Separatism" and "Faction-ism" is edging out "Unity" and "Appreciate people who are different from you - and people who are the same as you".

I am not against people with disabilities trying to find their place in the world - but it reminds me of a disturbing trend of breaking up into small forever feuding fiefdoms. It is good for Facebook revenue but bad for mental health and civil harmony. I have a disability - two of my sons have a disability - my niece has a disability - but I am increasingly disturbed by "Faction-ism".

. . . But it got me thinking about childhood toys.
I started this thread (so as to not hijack your thread)
* What was your favorite toy as a kid?
* viewtopic.php?t=403655


It's an interesting question, could it have the effect of being divisive?

I think I go back to a concept I've shared often in my life: when you have a truly and completely diverse group of people in a room, then no one is different anymore, because everyone is different.

My kids went to a very diverse school, and the environment made it easy for kids with special needs to "fit in."

But there remains a basic human need to have someone in this world who is the same as you. It meant the world to my son when he finally find another ASD adult who understood the way his brain worked. He'd gone to school with a few other ASD kids, but they didn't have shared interests and he simply didn't find himself able to identify with him. So his whole life, until he met this one friend, he had felt like no one could truly relate.

My daughter was searching through crowds of kids for the ones with blond hair and blue eyes like her as a 3 year old. She made friends with all sorts of people, but to find someone "just like me" was special.

I don't think it's a bad thing to have shelves full of different looking dolls instead of rows upon rows of a single ideal.

But it could be interesting to study.


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07 Feb 2022, 5:03 am

magz wrote:
My daughters removed legs of one their Lego Friends characters, constructed a wheelchair for her and said she's a disabled friend of living in their mansion, so they had to rebuild it to be accessible for her.
I think in general, there is space and need for such dolls - but a lot depends on how adults react to them.


That is so sweet!


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07 Feb 2022, 4:17 pm

It's interesting because I am fairly sure most girls/boys choose dolls that don't look like them

The issue about disability dolls is whether kids can (early on) accept that in a collection of toys whether 1-2 of their dolls will be disabled?