Pepe wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Yea, this.
Nothing I said is transphobic in the least bit. And I am not transphobic. I have several trans friends and acquaintances as well as trans friends with benefits. Def not transphobic here in the least bit.
Some ppl think if you have a trans friend it means you are transphobic.
I kid you not.

That’s just stupid.
It sounds like a misunderstanding of how people dismiss the
I have x friends excuse when accused of bigotry.
Having
x friends doesn't make one a bigot, but hiding behind them when accused of bigotry deserves to be called out.
But what if they aren't hiding behind the gay friend, and the other person is simply misrepresenting them?
I have been accused of being homophobic despite having a gay friend since we were children.
Perhaps I cultivated this friendship 55 years ago only to use it as a defence against being accused now.
I'm smart, but I don't think I am THAT smart.

I don't/can't claim to speak about your specific situation, but it's not uncommon for people to use
I have an x friend to dismiss criticism immediately after saying something bigoted about the group said friend is a member of.
Sometimes the person who places themselves in that situation will disagree about the nature of their comment, and they're entitled to that, but others are entitled to evaluate things differently. The person in that situation will likely insist they're being misrepresented, but they might well be misrepresenting the situation themselves.
But it even happens when the comment was recorded, allowing anyone to form an opinion. A portion of people will use hilarious pretzel logic to avoid having to admit something they said was problematic. People who identify as liberals tend to be especially bad for that sort of behaviour when they're called out.
It's often a side-dish to
I'm not y, but... where
y can be whatever form of bigotry applies.
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